I discovered the secret to a prosperous child

In the United States, there is such a \”problem child\”. As a child, he was diagnosed with autism. In everyone\’s eyes, this child\’s life was ruined. He will not be able to speak in the future, will be unable to take care of himself, and will only be a drag on his family for the rest of his life. Just when everyone despaired of this child, only one person did not give up on him. That\’s his mother. My mother has always believed that her son will be just like normal children, and may even be better than normal children. Adhering to this belief, she devoted all her available time to helping her son with rehabilitation training. Slowly, my son\’s various indicators are developing better and better. When he was 8 years old, his mother also discovered that her son was very talented in mathematics and physics. She often affirms and encourages her son and gives him positive psychological hints, making him feel that he is no different from a normal child. At the same time, she also worked hard to help her child get the opportunity to attend the physics department of a prestigious school and accompany him in classes. Under his mother\’s unconditional love and firm positive guidance, this child taught himself all the courses from elementary school to high school in just one year. When he was 10 years old, he was admitted to Purdue University, one of the top science and engineering universities in the world. After graduating from university, he continued to study for a master\’s degree and a doctoral degree. Even the famous astrophysicist Scott Treman was full of praise for him. From an autistic patient to a genius boy with an IQ of 170+, his name is Jacob Barnett. He is a normal child in his mother\’s eyes, and he is also a miracle in the world created by her mother. As Spencer said: \”A wise caregiver will continuously and naturally pass on a positive hint to the child. This kind of positive hint, especially from relatives, friends or teachers, will have a positive impact on the child\’s mind and heart. It has a good effect on the mind. \”Parents\’ positive suggestions are the light that illuminates their children\’s lives. 02In China, there is also a problem child. When he was a child, he didn\’t like going to school, but he liked hanging out with bad boys, skipping classes, fighting, smoking, and even stealing. In everyone\’s eyes, he is a bad boy. Even more so in his father\’s eyes. My father\’s discipline method was very rough, and he would hit and abuse me whenever I disagreed. As long as he caused trouble outside and was complained, his father would directly start lecturing him without even asking the reason. Because in his father\’s mind, he had long believed that his son was hopeless. Even he himself felt that he was a \”bad guy\”. When he grew up, he even told others: \”The child I gave birth to will definitely be a bad guy\” and threatened that he would never have children in the future. It is such a person who even looked down on himself, and later became a singer that attracted much attention. He is Xiao Jingteng. How did this counterattack come about? It turned out that he was very lucky to meet a good teacher. He once studied drums, perhaps because of his innate love for music. During the period of learning, he never got into a fight. The teacher saw his shining point and immediately affirmed and encouraged: \”Focus on making music, maybe you can become a big star in the future.\” Xiao Jingteng, who had never been affirmed before, heard the teacher\’s words, and his gloomy heart was instantly touched. Bright. Only then did he realize that he was not a good-for-nothing child, and he might even have a chance to become a star in the future. From then on, he no longerA good boy was just hanging around, but he devoted himself to music study, and eventually became the pop singer we know. International parent-child communication expert Adele Farber said: \”Never underestimate the impact of your words on a child\’s life.\” Positive language hints can move children from a hopeless situation to a field of hope. 03 Early childhood education expert Lin Yi once said: \”Compared with preaching, criticism, punishment and other methods, subtle hints have more magical power and can change children\’s behavior more quickly and guide children to develop in a better direction.\” In order for our children to have a better future, we can always do this: 1. When children do something right, be sure that everyone wants to be seen, and children are no exception. When a child does something right, we should not worry about him being complacent and ignoring his behavior. This will only make the child less and less confident. At the same time, children whose emotions are neglected will also be very hurt inside. The correct approach is to give immediate encouragement when the child does something right. The book \”Positive Discipline\” says: \”Only when a child feels better, he will do better.\” If you expect your child to become better and better, you must use positive language to praise him more, so that He feels a sense of accomplishment, competence, and worth. With these, children will become more and more confident and outstanding. 2. When children do something wrong, criticize them less. Our original intention in criticizing our children is to hope that they will do better. But in fact, no child who is constantly criticized will get better and better. Children who are often hit, blamed, and complained will only become more and more inferior and helpless, lose the motivation to work hard at anything, and will only remember that they are a \”bad child.\” As Li Meijin said: \”When a child does something wrong, parents should not yell to correct it, otherwise he will strengthen the impression of this thing.\” When children do something wrong, use less negativity in criticism. language. Instead, we should focus more on how to do things better. Teaching him how to do it and letting him acquire more abilities is our real purpose. Only when children are guided correctly in this way will they become more powerful. 3. Use positive language instead of negative language. Psychology believes that people have negative preferences. Parents are no exception in the process of raising their children. For example, when a child goes to participate in an important competition, we may habitually say: \”Don\’t be nervous\” or \”Don\’t be anxious.\” But he could only hear negative words like \”nervous\” and \”anxious.\” If we can replace it with positive words such as \”relax\” and \”keep calm\”, children will absorb the positive language. In other words, whatever you expect from your children, you should speak corresponding positive language. Parents\’ language is the \”prophecy\” of their children. Written at the end: Psychologist Susan Forward once said: \”Children will always believe what their parents say about themselves and turn it into their own ideas.\” The positive language of parents is a blessing for children throughout their lives. Let us start taking action, always be aware of our own language, and strive to use positive language to empower our children and help them become a better version of themselves!