I feel sorry for your child being bullied, but you treat him like this

\”When Maodou was in the kindergarten, he was queuing up to slide on the slide. When he finally got there, he was pushed down by a rampaging little boy. Then the little boy climbed up the slide. Maodou started crying. I gritted my teeth in pain and anger and coaxed him. The wronged edamame.\” \”Mi Li was in class, and was slapped by a child at the same table just because of a piece of candy. Later, when I saw the red face and the endless tears, I wanted to pick it up at that time. The guy wants to avenge his daughter.\” \”In the community, several children were playing with toys, and one naughty child took over my child\’s toys and couldn\’t put them down. The child wanted to take them back, but couldn\’t. He wiped away tears in grievance. I went to talk to the child\’s grandmother, but she said, if our child likes to play, just let him play for a while, and then return it to you after playing?\” \”The child has amblyopia. He wears glasses in class and is always picked up. The classmates called Xiaosiyan. The child was very uncomfortable and refused to tell us. He always locked himself in the room. We found out later when the teacher told us. I was so distressed that I could not speak.\” \”…\” Too many wives Many children are bullied outside, and parents are heartbroken. There are too many strategy books telling us what parents should do if their children are bullied outside. However, when your child comes home, whether he is naughty, willful, unreasonable, or hungry and sleepy, have you ever bullied this little person? In the world of children, it is so simple that there are only two ways to express emotions, either crying or laughing. When we laugh, we are all happy. But what about when you cry? I often see various scenes of naughty children crying, some crying with their mouths curled up, some crying with their mouths wide open, some crying quietly, and some crying loudly, all for no reason, hysterical, and endless. It’s really devastating. Once, my friend Xiao Ai took her 5-year-old daughter to a friend\’s banquet. At first, the children had a lot of fun playing by themselves, and everyone was eating and drinking very harmoniously. Xiao Ai was thirsty and teased her daughter, saying, little one, mom is thirsty, please pour her a glass of orange juice! The child probably felt that he was needed by his mother, so he happily and carefully picked up the large glass bottle and poured it for his mother. This action is a bit difficult for the little one. As if there was no surprise at all, the child broke the glass bottle, spilled it all over the table, and even splashed on Xiao Ai\’s skirt. Xiao Ai, who was full of expectations, suddenly became embarrassed and angry, and scolded her daughter for her carelessness. The child\’s big tears fell down. A small child will also be frustrated if he accidentally does something that might be praised but accidentally messes up. Instead of receiving comfort from his mother, he will be scolded. If Xiao Ai hugged her at this time, maybe it would be over. However, Xiao Ai was still muttering irritably: Why do you have the nerve to cry after you did something wrong? Isn\’t it embarrassing? Stop crying. Stop crying. The little one couldn\’t stop crying and was out of breath. Xiao Ai hugged her and left. On the weekend, Big D took his daughter (named sister) to have afternoon tea with his best friend. The sunshine is very nice, the dessert is very sweet, everything is just right. The younger sister watches cartoons on her iPad, and Big D gossips about daily life with her best friends. But suddenly, my sister became a little irritable and clamored to go home or go home.Dad, start crying. Giving her her favorite cake is useless; watching her favorite animation on iPad is useless; promising to buy her her favorite toy is useless. Big D suddenly became angry, and she seemed to want to lose her temper. However, she took control and quickly calmed herself down. He walked up to his sister and gave her a hug. The younger sister was still crying, and the big D was as gentle as the beautiful sunset that afternoon. She held her sister in her arms and spoke to her softly: Mommy loves taking her sister out to eat and chat with her aunt, right? Not only because your aunt likes you, but also because your mother feels that your sister has grown up and is sensible, so she can safely take her out to have tea and dinner with her aunt and friends. When you were young, your mother wouldn\’t take you out because she was afraid that you would make a fuss. But now that you have grown up, your mother is no longer afraid. She is very happy to take you out to meet her friends. You can play by yourself for a while and be quiet for a while. After your mother has finished chatting with her aunt, she will take you home to meet your father, okay? During the whole process, my sister\’s crying became smaller and smaller, and she looked at her mother intently, as if she understood something. Then he nodded obediently. I also shared the cake with my little aunt, and then sat quietly watching animations. She will understand, as long as you are patient with her. When you are bullied or wronged outside, you become furious and are so angry that you want to go to the person who bullied your child with a knife. When you get home, do you often say: \”If you cry again, I will throw you out to feed the tigers!\” \”If you keep doing this, my mother will not love you anymore if she has a little brother!\” \”Look at you crying. Why are you so ugly?\” He will really cry endlessly, and you will make him cry while reprimanding him for why he is crying. You bullied him, why don\’t you let him cry? Psychologists have said that there is no child who cries for no reason in this world. If you think your child cries without warning or reason, that\’s just because you don\’t understand his heart. In fact, many times, you only need to give your child a hug gently, without asking or knowing the reason, to calm her. But how many people have done this? If you don\’t know why he is sad and crying, just hold him tight and stay with him. A silent hug is more effective than any coaxing or threats. This is probably the best way to comfort yourself. Because the warmth of your arms can give him powerful love and strength. As we grow up, we become more and more stingy with our hugs. We are not good at using hugs to express ourselves and our love. How long has it been since you hugged your parents? I probably can’t remember it. Most of the time, comfort is a luxury. And when your child is still a little kid, he is still so dependent on you. When everything is ready, when he cries and needs comfort, don’t worry about the reasons and whys, just give him a warm hug. This is better than buying hundreds of kinds. Toys can soothe his heart. When he calms down, he may tell you why he cries. Don\’t live up to your little one\’s dependence, expectation, love and trust. Childhood is so short, please cherish it with your child, okay?