I finally found the antidote to the incurable disease of children watching TV and playing games…

Last summer, when our family was in the United States, Xiaopai went to summer camp in the morning. After taking a nap, he would turn on the TV and watch \”Running Man\”, a popular variety show in China. I was breastfeeding in the room, listening to her laughing from time to time in the living room, but I felt a little anxious. She had been watching for more than an hour, why didn\’t she turn it off unconsciously? ! Because of this mentality, we had several disagreements. Later I thought, since there is no TV at home when I return to China, she won’t watch it anymore. Unexpectedly, after she came back, she started to search and read on the computer. I tried to make an agreement with her that she could only read it for half an hour at a time, but she could hardly do it. After a while, I caught a glimpse of her starting to watch a new show called \”Ace vs. Ace\”. Occasionally I went over to take a look, and it seemed to me that it was similar to \”Running\”, and it was also a very light and funny entertainment program. A child\’s time is precious. Every time she watches these programs, I wonder whether her eyes will become short-sighted if she watches too much. Will she be able to chew deep tomes in the future after watching these hilarious programs… These thoughts It lingers in my mind, turning into anxiety that tightens my nerves. As a result, something even more outrageous happened – she took the opportunity to watch the online English class at 8 o\’clock in the evening before class! One time, I forgot about the class time. It wasn\’t until the teacher called me to say that she hadn\’t entered the classroom yet. I ran into the room and took a look, only to find that she was still watching \”Ace\”. If she hadn\’t been taking English classes next, I would have been furious, criticizing and reasoning. I met my friend Sister Wei, who has an older child. When she talked about this topic, it was as if she had met a close friend, \”Yes, yes, my daughter actually counterattacked angrily, Mom, don\’t you want to see me happy? Only You are happy when I do my homework and read books, but I don’t see you in a good mood when I do other things.” I also said helplessly: \”Oh, I recommended \”Unconditional Parenting\” to you before. Unconditional love is really difficult to achieve!\” \”Yes, sometimes when the children forget the time when doing homework, I will whisper I would remind her and even take the initiative to bring her fruit, but if she didn’t come to eat while watching TV or playing games, I couldn’t help but yell at her loudly after calling her a few times. After yelling, I regretted it. \”Yes, I have to, too.\” Frankly admit, in my opinion, watching variety shows like \”Run, Brother\” is boring, but reading is meaningful. Fenfen, who had not been seen for a long time while complaining in a group of college friends, came out and said: \”My daughter and I also watched Running, and I thought it was nothing. The content of the program is quite positive. I will also discuss it with my children.\” , how the stars in the show, Deng Chao and Lu Han, get along with each other.\” Fenfen got excited about the conversation and said, \”You know what? I used to think that Lu Han was just a popular niche student, but after seeing his performance in the show, he is very considerate of other people\’s feelings, with both IQ and EQ. He\’s very tall, and I, a middle-aged girl, am still a bit of a fan of him.\” What? ! Looking at the series of shy expressions she sent on the phone, I couldn\’t believe it. It turned out that this is how Xiaoxianrou gained fans. And I suddenly realized that I had never watched this program a few times, so why did I rely on subjective assertions to think that such a programNot nutritious, is this my bias? The child will be attracted to such a program, and there must be something she needs in it. Why not sit down and watch an episode with the child, discuss the content of the program with her, and then see what to do? Chen Xin, a doctor of developmental psychology, once mentioned: When children watch video programs, it is best for parents to watch them with their children, turning the program into an interactive intermediary between parents and children. It is also a good way for us to understand the content of video programs with our children and guide them to apply the highlights of these video programs to their lives. For example, the fun and humor of these celebrities, the ingenuity and creativity of the show and games, and Lu Han’s high emotional intelligence, as my college classmate Fenfen said, may be things that children can learn. When a child is born, she reaches out her hands to accept all the things the world has prepared for her. Among them, there must be TV, mobile phones, and IPADs. This is something she cannot escape. Even if the program chosen by the child is really unnutritious, instead of directly asking the child to \”can you stop watching it\” and \”just watch it again\”, you should watch it yourself, talk to the child, understand the child\’s needs, and then Find some shows that both of you can accept. If you think \”Run, Brother\” is too noisy, how about \”The Voice of Dreams\”? If the talent show is not cultured enough, then \”National Treasure\” will do the trick. Suddenly, I felt like I was seeing something out of the clouds. I remember a mother once asked me, what should I do if my child only loves reading comic books, but I bought him a lot of classic classics but doesn’t read them? I also give them ideas. There are also classic comic books, such as \”The Adventures of Tintin\”, \”Fathers and Sons\”, and \”Absolute Children\”. It doesn\’t hurt to read them. If the comic you introduce to him feels good, you can try it again next time. When you introduce other types of books to him, he may be willing to accept them. Isn\’t this the same thing? Why can I stay calm when faced with other people\’s problems, but I get confused when I encounter problems myself? I remember something my friend Xiaoyi told me a long time ago. Her sister\’s daughter is about the same age as Xiaopai. She played with her iPad for a while and was particularly obsessed with a game called \”Minecraft.\” When she came home from school every day, she would hide in a corner and play alone, and she wouldn\’t even hear her call for dinner. Her sister didn\’t think it would be a problem to continue like this, so she downloaded it to play when she had time, but soon she couldn\’t beat her daughter. However, when she was playing, she discovered that there was a lot of architectural knowledge hidden in the game, so she went online and bought a book on this topic, also called \”Minecraft.\” After I took it home and chewed it, I realized that it was actually a type of sandbox game, and sandbox games are of great help to children\’s psychological growth, physical and mental harmony, and creativity. When she was a child, she often played games such as dress-up, but after playing Minecraft to an advanced level, she was no longer interested in these small games. Before Christmas, her sister asked her daughter, \”Do you want to build a Christmas square for Christmas?\” Then she built a beautiful Christmas square, and the two of them discussed it from time to time. Playing games does not affect the parent-child relationship, nor does it delay learning. In the hearts of the mother and daughter, games are only a part of their lives and the connection between their common topics. They are also quite calm about electronic products.I reflected on myself that during the confinement period, it was because I didn’t have time to spend time with my child, and I didn’t provide her with other things to kill time. The TV was right next to me, and as soon as I turned it on, I could see something that made people laugh. programme. It is completely normal for children to be attracted. I also realized that if parents relax even a little bit, they will be defeated by electronic products, and the companionship of love is the \”antidote\” that helps us maintain a close relationship with our children. Playing with your children, reading with your children, playing board games with your children, painting with your children, playing sports with your children, or even watching TV with your children, playing mobile games with your children… These can all lift up their drooping heads and make them happy. They feel that the beauty of this world is not just in the small screen. And the time and characters that are vivid on the screen will become shorter and shorter as they grow up…