\”I have been raising my grandson for 4 years, and today I am completely heartbroken.\” Why is it so thankless for grandma to raise a grandson?

Nowadays, with the rapid growth of social economy, there are more and more \”dual-income\” families. Because they are burdened with family financial pressure, both parties need to work together to meet the family\’s financial needs, so who will take care of the children? Yes, the number of elderly people taking care of their children is getting bigger and bigger, and more and more problems are coming with it. A mother helps her daughter take care of the baby but is rejected? Aunt Li in the community is over 60 years old. She helped her son take care of her grandson a few years ago. In the past two years, her grandson has gone to kindergarten. Her wife asked her to pick her up and take care of her when she got off work. It happened that her younger daughter also gave birth to a baby. , Aunt Li rushed over to take care of the children for her daughter. Someone asked Aunt Li: \”You are not in good health. You have been raising children for several years. Why don\’t you take a break? Why do you take the initiative to raise children for your daughter? Doesn\’t your daughter have a mother-in-law to help?\” Aunt Li said: \”Mother-in-law I don’t get along well with my daughter. If I don’t help, my daughter will have to quit her job and take care of the kids at home. I don’t want her to end up like me and be a housewife all her life. Besides, what if she doesn’t work to take care of the kids? , then it depends on her mother-in-law\’s face even more.\” But does her daughter really appreciate her mother\’s kindness? Aunt Li willingly gave up traveling with her old sisters and living a free life, and came to her daughter\’s house to take care of her grandson. I also worked hard at home, not only helping to take care of my grandson, but also taking care of the housework, washing and cooking, and persevered no matter how hard or tired I was. But when her grandson was 4 years old, something happened that broke Aunt Li\’s heart. During this time, her grandson caught a cold, and Aunt Li took care of her for several days. Her grandson gradually improved, but Aunt Li was infected and her head was dizzy. She was a little older and had low energy, but she still insisted on taking care of the child. The weekend finally arrived. I originally thought I could take a break, but my daughter called me to prepare medicine for my grandson. Because I was so dizzy, I didn’t notice the temperature of the water, and the child was scalded. When her daughter saw her child being burned, she felt very distressed. She ran over and pushed Aunt Li away, shouting, \”What are you doing? You can\’t even make a medicine!\” Aunt Li burst into tears when she heard these words. She was obviously sick too, but her daughter didn\’t even have a word of concern and was still being yelled at. I have done so much for my daughter, but my daughter not only doesn\’t say a word of thanks to me, but her attitude towards me is getting worse and worse. I feel that I have really become a nanny in her daughter\’s eyes. Moreover, Aunt Li is a nanny for free and on a voluntary basis. If she had known what would happen, she would have been better off at home, and came here to ask for trouble. She would not have suffered the same thing if she was enjoying her leisure time at home. I thought about how usually when my daughter’s mother-in-law comes to see her grandson, she not only dresses beautifully, but also acts like a guest and has to serve her by herself. When she comes to this house, she not only has to serve the young and old, but also the old. What\’s the difference between this and a maid or nanny! The more I thought about it, the angrier I became. I muttered, \”I have been raising my grandson for 4 years, and today I am completely heartbroken!\” He left his daughter\’s home in a fit of anger. Why is it so thankless for grandma to take care of her grandson? In this matter, there is no doubt that what the daughter did was wrong. It can be said to be unfilial. As children, we should be grateful for the selfless dedication of the old man instead of thinking it is unreasonable. As it should be.In reality, if the mother-in-law is raising the grandson, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more difficult to get along with. The daughter-in-law will always keep an appropriate distance when getting along with them and will not be too patronizing to the elderly. It is different when a grandma raises a grandchild. The daughter is naturally closer to her own mother, so she behaves more willfully. She often reverts to the way she was when she was a child. She will make requests directly and express her dissatisfaction directly. This is what we often say to keep a reasonable distance between people. Too close distance is always easy to cause harm. After all, no matter how much trouble a daughter makes when she is a child, her parents won\’t mind, but now that the daughter has grown up and has children, the grandma Ninja comes to help her daughter take care of the children. If the daughter is still so \”secluded\” from her mother, she will be easily hurt. The heart of an old man. It is not the obligation of the elderly to take care of children. 1. Whether it is grandma or grandma, the elderly have no obligation to help their children take care of their children. I once saw a very chic aunt say something: \”I am a little selfish if I don\’t help take care of the children, but I have worked hard.\” You have worked hard all your life to raise your children, so what’s wrong with wanting to enjoy your old age now that you are old?\” As the elderly get older, they should have their own lives. After working hard for most of their lives, they should enjoy their old age. It is not wrong to not help their children take care of them. It is selfish, because parents only have the obligation to take care of their children, but have no obligation or responsibility to take care of their grandchildren. They have the right to enjoy their own lives without taking care of their grandchildren. On the contrary, as children, they have the responsibility and obligation to support the elderly. They should care and take care of the elderly when they are sick. 2. If the elderly are willing to help their children take care of them after they grow old, the children should be grateful at this time. This is also true. Everyone should have their own life. Since we are parents, we should shoulder our corresponding responsibilities and obligations, let alone forcefully ask the elderly to help shoulder their responsibilities. Even if you really have no choice but to ask the elderly to help take care of you, you should have a grateful heart and resolutely not treat the elderly as a servant and find fault with the elderly. In daily life, don\’t think that if there are elderly people at home, just let them do everything. They are just here to help take care of the baby, not as a nanny. Logically speaking, the elderly should be taken care of by their children when they grow old. 3. There is a generation gap between the elderly and children. Children should understand that the educational concepts of respecting the elderly and taking care of children and children are somewhat different. However, it is already a great affection for the elderly to help take care of the children, even if they are with themselves. There should be no blame if there are any discrepancies in raising children. While they are helping to raise their children, children should also be more caring and considerate of their parents. Respect your parents’ efforts and be grateful.