I laughed so hard when I saw the tadpoles looking for their mothers. In fact, it is not difficult to make children love doing homework.

Suddenly someone posted a rumor about \”Tadpole looking for his mother\” in the circle of friends. When I opened the picture, I burst into laughter. I don’t know which child was ravaged by homework, and even his mother didn’t want to recognize it. This also reminded Xiaoli of a joke about homework that circulated on the Internet, \”When not talking about homework, a mother is kind and her son is filial, and she hugs and hugs her. When it comes to homework, she jumps around, whines and shouts, making passers-by laugh at her, and her neighbors can\’t sleep. ! We were inseparable one second, and parted ways the next.\” A mother joked at that time, this is a true portrayal of every conscientious mother with schizophrenia, homework is the executioner of the parent-child relationship! Why do mothers care so much about homework? Because if you can\’t do your homework well, you won\’t have good grades. If you don\’t have good grades, you won\’t have a good school. If you don\’t have a good school, you won\’t have a good job… Mothers really can\’t afford this chain reaction. Like most children, my Xiaopai forgets to do his homework when he is having fun. I remember at the end of last semester, it was almost 11 o\’clock in the evening. I was brushing my teeth when Xiaopai opened the door and came in. She cried \”Wow\” and was so scared that I had no time to rinse my mouth. I squatted down quickly and asked her what was wrong? \”Mom, I haven\’t finished my homework yet. What should I do?\” As she spoke, tears started to flow down her face. It turned out that Xiao Pai was too absorbed in watching cartoons and forgot to complete his homework. That day, the teacher showed Hayao Miyazaki\’s cartoon \”Spirited Away\” to the children in class. The children only watched the beginning and then left school. After dinner, it was originally time to do homework, but Xiaopai couldn\’t put down the unfinished cartoons. I promised her that I could read it while doing my homework. At around 10 o\’clock, the cartoon ended, and the homework spread out in front of me was still blank. Xiaopai\’s self-esteem would not allow him to hand over any homework to the teacher. However, writing these review assignments before the exam cannot be completed in one go. Seeing that the child was nervous and at a loss, I asked her if she needed help from her mother. Mom can help you write some words and copy them. Xiaopai was a little surprised and said hesitantly, then you must write well. The embarrassing thing is that I just wrote a few words and was sent off by Xiaopai. The reason was that I didn\’t write well. Maybe she thought my imitation of her handwriting was too ugly… She had to write it all by herself and concentrate on the entire writing. It took almost 2 hours to write until 1 o\’clock in the morning, and finally it was completed. She was so sleepy that her eyes needed a stick to hold them open, but her pride and happiness were obvious. Before going to bed, Xiaopai, sleepy-eyed, leaned into my ear and said, \”Mom, you are so kind!\” That moment made me almost burst into tears. In the whole process, I didn\’t help the child much. She completed the homework by herself and thanked me in turn. I think it is because the child feels my acceptance and love for her that she is willing to try her best to complete her homework. She knows that the homework is her own and she has the responsibility to complete it, no matter how hard it is. A child who can feel love will naturally have requirements for himself. Once I went to the library to look up information, and there was a mother and her son sitting next to me. The child was doing homework, and the mother was sitting next to her and staring at it. While the little boy was writing, his mother was nagging, write quickly, don\’t delay… You can\’t even do such a simple question, you have a pig brain… Write better and softer likeGirls… After various reminders and various comments, the little boy finally completed his homework and showed it to his mother. \”Why are these words so scrawled?\” the boy\’s mother asked. The child quickly brought an eraser, and the mother had already \”stabbed\” and tore off the entire page of homework. The little boy\’s tears suddenly came out, and he began to cry softly. But the mother calmly opened a page of the homework book, put it in front of the boy, and said impatiently: \”Why are you crying? If you can\’t write well, you have to rewrite it. Next time, remember better!\” For a moment, I actually felt , this child is not writing his own homework, but is being enslaved to write homework for his mother. We all know that homework belongs to the child, not the parents. Without the freedom to do homework, there will be no children who consciously do homework. Without incentives or forcing children to do homework, children may forget to complete their homework, and this is the best opportunity for children to feel what it means to be responsible. No mistakes, no setbacks, no growth. Giving children the opportunity to solve their own problems independently is the core of education. Parents\’ blame and criticism will only make children stop reflecting on their own problems and focus on fighting against their parents. This kind of learning often just consumes physical energy. As psychologist Dr. Thomas Gordon said, you can\’t force anyone to learn, \”You can lead a horse to water, but you can\’t force it to drink.\” Many adults do not believe in children and believe that children must be controlled by adults in every detail in order to do well. Such manipulation will destroy the child\’s natural self-esteem and sense of responsibility, and he will regard homework as a heavy burden. When he grows up and has the strength to resist, he will hate homework and lose his rationality and self-love. When Xiao Pai first went to school, Pai\’s dad would always ask him habitually when he came home from school, \”Have you finished your homework?\” When he saw Xiao Pai not doing his homework and playing with toys, he couldn\’t help but urge him, \”Why don\’t you go?\” Doing homework?\” It\’s like a real-life version of \”a tadpole looking for its daddy\”. Xiaopai simply couldn\’t listen to such reminders and urgings. He continued to play when he should play and didn\’t write when he didn\’t want to. On the contrary, it also made Xiaopai feel a little resistant to homework. Thinking back to our childhood, how did we feel when faced with such \”concern\” from our parents? As someone said, you come home from get off work after a tiring day and want to rest for a while, but don’t really want to cook. Your husband doesn\’t care about you but says, \”Is the meal ready? Why don\’t you go cook it!\” At this time, your anger is no different from your child\’s anger. Later, Dad took some courses with me and realized that such \”concern\” was actually a kind of transgression. Homework belongs to the child, not the parents. As long as parents give their children support and love, that\’s enough. There was a time when Xiaopai would cry and cry as soon as she came home, \”There\’s a lot of homework today.\” Every time I heard her say that, I would rush over, hug her and say, \”There\’s so much homework? It doesn\’t matter. You go first.\” Write, if you can’t finish writing, mommy will help you.” After hearing what I said, the girl would act coquettishly and get tired of being in front of me for a while, and then go to do her homework obediently. Pai Dad saw that my trick worked and carried it forward on this basis. He understands how to accept children and takes the initiativeCreate a better learning environment for children. When Xiao Pai comes home from school, Pai\’s dad temporarily stops using his cell phone, reads a book, and handles work matters. Give your children a role model to follow. Xiao Pai doesn\’t want to do his homework right after school, but Pai\’s dad can accept it calmly. Before Xiao Pai does his homework, Pai\’s father will pack up the unused school supplies and some gadgets on the study table with the child… He does not force the child to do homework, nor is he indifferent. Dad Pai expressed his understanding and care for his children through actions. Children have natural self-esteem and sense of responsibility. A child who has awakened a sense of responsibility will become a conscious person, a self-conscious person. Are you still asking \”Have you finished your homework?\” every day?