I really envy you for being able to take care of your children yourself

In the previous stage, the popularity of \”My First Half of Life\” caused many stay-at-home mothers to feel anxious. Roman is one of them. Roman and her husband were college classmates. After graduation, she stayed in the city where she went to school. She joined a good company. Two years after graduation, with the support of their parents, the two bought a house and got married. Less than a year after the marriage, Roman became pregnant. Someone had to look after the child when he was born. Neither parent had retired and they were worried about leaving the child to an outsider. After careful consideration, Roman resigned from his job and concentrated on raising the child at home. Roman gave birth to a beautiful daughter. Looking at her every day, Roman seemed to have endless strength. Roman took care of everything about the children, leaving her husband busy with work. The children are getting cuter and cuter, and the husband is getting busier and busier. My husband, who was in a similar position to me, has now reached the middle level of the company. Slowly, Roman became anxious. Every time she caught someone, she would say: \”I really envy you for never giving up your work. If I haven\’t worked for three or four years, have I lost touch with society and been abandoned by my husband?\” They all advised her not to worry, since her husband was trustworthy. Secondly, she never gave up on herself and improved herself while raising her children. Roman was still worried, but her friend Ma Lin\’s words immediately relieved her worries. Seeing Roman\’s look, Ma Lin said faintly: \”I really envy you for being able to take care of the child yourself.\” What Ma Lin said was not a lie, you could tell by looking at her expression at that time. When Ma Lin and her husband met, they were both poor and poor. Their family conditions were not good and they could not help much. Their marriage was almost naked. After getting married, the two lived frugally, scraped together a down payment to buy a small house, and took on a mortgage worth millions. After Ma Lin became pregnant, she continued to work until the day before giving birth. After her maternity leave, Ma Lin couldn\’t wait to go to work. The family had to spend money on everything, including mortgage payments, milk powder for the children, food and clothing, and it was difficult to support it with her husband\’s salary alone. Ma Lin\’s mother was in poor health, and her parents-in-law had to cook for her husband\’s brother\’s children, so they couldn\’t leave. There was no other way, so Ma Lin had no choice but to wean the child from breastfeeding and send the child back to her parents-in-law\’s house. Ma Lin and her husband go back to see their children once every two weeks. Every time she heard her mother-in-law say that the child had grown a little taller, had another tooth, could crawl, stand, and walk… she couldn\’t help but shed tears. She said how much she wanted to take care of the baby by herself, watch him change day by day, know what his every tiny movement meant, smell the delicious milky fragrance on his body, and listen to his first words: \” Mom”, but she couldn’t. When she missed her children, she worked hard and comforted herself that it would be fine if she got through this period, but she also knew that if she missed some companionship, she would miss it forever. When the child was three years old, she couldn\’t wait to pick him up and send him to kindergarten. She and her husband took turns picking him up and dropping him off. She said, \”No matter how hard and tired we are, we must spend as much time with him as possible.\” The child went from being a stranger to her to being close to her. for nearly half a year. She said that the most sad thing for her was that she was not by her child\’s side when he needed her most. This was also the pain in her heart forever. It is true that some mothers only care about giving birth but not raising their children, and just hand over their children after they are born.When you are away from others, you should be cool and unrestrained, and you should work hard. But the vast majority of mothers want to take care of their children in person, but a large number of them have no choice due to various reasons. The mothers of left-behind children do not want their children to be left behind, but they have no choice in terms of livelihood. I remember watching a short video. After the Spring Festival, my mother had to leave home to work again. The mother got in the car, but the child held on to the car door and refused to let her leave. Grandma opened the child\’s hand and pulled the child back. The child was crying and calling for his mother, crying heartbreakingly. When the car drove away, the child still ran and chased it for a long distance. When I saw this video, I couldn\’t stop crying. This is a true portrayal of the separation of thousands of mothers and their children, and it makes people sad to see it. There are also some mothers who, although their children are with them, have to go to work and work overtime every day and have very little time to spend with their children. If given the choice, most mothers would choose to take care of their children themselves. Being able to take care of children in person is a very happy thing. Being able to have your mother accompany you every day before the age of three is the greatest luck for a child. Therefore, we also envy those mothers who can take care of their children themselves. I remember in a college class, a professor said that the most competitive children in the future are those whose mothers have knowledge, ability and time to accompany their children. Their company can give their children the greatest possible sense of security and psychological soundness. . Of course, there are not many mothers who can personally take care of their children for two or three years. In addition to financial pressure, there are also various concerns. Those who stay with their children full-time are indeed enviable. If you are like us and have to go to work to make a living, you should use all available time to spend more time with your children. No matter how hard it is, we should spend more time with our children. I also envy those who can take care of their children themselves.