If a child does not receive love from his parents, he will become a particularly filial child and obey his parents.

Attachment relationships are broadly divided into secure and insecure types. The male protagonist Lem in \”Sweet Sixteen\” has a family that is even worse than insecure attachment, called disorganized attachment. Lem\’s father is gone, and his mother\’s boyfriend Stanley uses Lem to sell drugs. What\’s even more incredible is that Lem\’s grandfather is also one of the accomplices who used him to sell drugs, and his mother is in prison as soon as she appears. Lime cherishes love very much and regards his friend Pinbao as his confidant. He said that he had no brother since he was a child, so he regarded him as a very good friend. The love he received was particularly limited, partly from his sister and partly from Pinbao. He was very precocious at the age of 16 and knew how to take care of his mother and make money. A person generally has several identities. The first is physical identity, that is, boy or girl. Rhyme is well aware that he is biologically male. The second type is social recognition. Although he is a boy biologically, society will have requirements for boys. Jung said that everyone has masculine and feminine qualities, and boys should develop masculine qualities and girls should develop feminine qualities. Therefore, an adolescent boy has to suppress his femininity because he wants to appear masculine. The biggest problem in adolescence is self-identity, which means doing many incredible things to confirm your identity. The masculine temperament that Lem presents is that he comes into contact with some people who fight, sell drugs, and are in prison. He himself also participates in fights, working hard to make money, deliver pizza, and enter society. He has a goal, which is to buy a house for his mother. He shows a feminine temperament at this point, being particularly gentle and caring. 02 A person’s biggest trauma comes from the trauma of lack of love, that is, early separation from parents. Lyme has always lacked love. When he was taking care of his mother, he expected that her mother could live with him stably and have a place to live, and that his mother could in turn take care of him. There is a very sad saying that if a child does not receive love from his parents, he will become a particularly filial child and obey his parents. He takes care of himself by being filial and taking care of his parents, and hopes to be recognized by his parents in this way. His mother is helpful to him because the male figures in his life are all shadows: his mother\’s boyfriend Stan cheated and abused him; his grandfather not only failed to protect him, but also took advantage of him; his biological father also did not know No matter where he went, he probably wouldn\’t be much better. In his life, the image of men is very degrading, especially bad. What is very interesting is that the image of the gang boss Tony is different from the previous male images: he speaks politely, is well-dressed, has a suave appearance, and is kind to Lem. Under Tony\’s care, Rhyme\’s masculinity seemed to have grown. Tony gave him a symbol of status, that is, letting him manage some people, have a house, and do some things. Of course, these things he did were to let him bid farewell to his youth and move toward adulthood. One of the symbolic actions was to kill his twin friend Pinbao. Pinbao is even more bad than him. Lyme doesn\’t take drugs, but Pinbao takes drugs and can\’t control his aggression. He steals cars, crashes cars, and cuts himself with a knife. 03Maybe both Lyme and PinbaoIt\’s a borderline personality. For borderline personality, if it is better, it may become neurotic, if it is more severe, it may become neurotic, and borderline personality is somewhere in between. Although the two of them are at the same personality level, Lem has better self-healing ability, knows how to think with his brain, can reflect, and knows how to use resources and choose the side that is helpful to him. If a person\’s childhood environment is not good, his future career path will be related to his intelligence. Some people\’s IQs are not low, and traumatic experiences will turn into life experiences. In the end, they will not only survive, but also live better. Of course, these people will do some illegal things. They live in another world, that is, the underworld or the shadow part. In the attachment relationship, Lyme wants to pursue the attachment relationship with her mother. This motivation is very strong. In the movie \”The Godfather\”, the Godfather himself is ruthless and kills countless people, but he attaches great importance to his family relationships, which becomes his last line of defense and source of motivation. In terms of personality, he is split. On one end of the social personality, he is very strict and highly aggressive, while on the other end, he is a tender husband. Rhyme behaved similarly, except that all his emotions were directed toward his mother. When his mother refused to live with him and was still with her boyfriend, he finally couldn\’t bear it anymore and stabbed his mother\’s boyfriend several times. A child\’s love for his parents will not disappear because the parents treat him particularly badly, but will become stronger. This makes people feel very sad, because some parents are really evil fathers and mothers who only take advantage of their children. Even so, there is always a voice in the heart of the child: \”Should I be nicer to my parents, they will be nicer to me? Is it because I am not good, so they will treat me badly? I have to behave better. A little. \”This kind of child will be disappointed in the end because his parents are basically unrepentant and the child is just an add-on to them because they may not want the child at all.