If a child exhibits these three phenomena, he or she is on the verge of dropping out of school. Parents should pay attention.

In mommy psychology groups, you can often hear parents say: \”My children have been well-behaved and sensible since they were young, but why did they get tired of school and drop out of school when they reached adolescence?\” It may not be a day to freeze. It may just be that parents have been immersed in their own creation. In the fantasy, the \”distress signal\” released by the child long ago was ignored. Among the many cases of suspension of school that we have come into contact with, we have found that children will have the following signs before they suspend school. Parents must pay attention to this and make timely adjustments. 01 Physical symptoms: Physical discomfort may cause various adverse symptoms to occur in the body. For example, some children have frequent headaches, stomachaches, dizziness, etc., or may experience auditory and visual hallucinations, or even convulsions, vomiting, and difficulty breathing. When parents take their children to the hospital for examination and no physical disease is found, the child\’s feelings are true. Many parents and teachers think that their children are pretending to be ill, but this is actually a physical manifestation of psychological stress, which is called \”somatic disorder\” in psychology. There will be some unexpected injuries to the body. When a child is overstressed, anxious or depressed, it will cause him to lose concentration and even resort to extreme ways to relieve stress. In the documentary \”How We Fight Depression\”, Zi Ye, a second-year junior high school girl, shared this incident: Once, the scissor sheath disappeared and she couldn\’t find it no matter how hard she looked for it, and she suddenly became anxious. She wanted to calm down, so she cut her hand with scissors. Seeing the blood and feeling the pain, she calmed down. Of course, there are also some children who subconsciously want to get hurt and don\’t want to go to school, and then the results appear to satisfy the subconscious. These are all signs. In life, not all children can realize that they are mentally ill. This requires us parents to pay enough attention to our children, carefully observe and capture their signals for help. 02 Low mood and habitual pessimism. The most obvious characteristic of many children before they drop out of school is that they continue to fall into an inexplicable and obvious state of depression. It\’s like being in a fog, feeling inexplicably \”unhappy\” but unable to find a specific reason. Parents may find that as soon as their child is sent to school, his mood will be very low, he will not want to go to school, lose his temper, and may even cry or remain silent. When getting along with classmates and teachers, we are also prone to getting angry and expressing anger. What we consider trivial things can trigger intense emotional reactions in children. No matter what happens, the child can\’t help but see the worst point of view, and it is difficult for him to explain the puzzling emotions in his heart. Adolescence is affected by endocrine and brain neurodevelopment, and it is true that emotional instability is more likely to occur. When their minds and energy are tied up in emotional struggles, their academic competitiveness is weakened. At the same time, they are also more likely to suffer misunderstandings from their parents, leading to increased emotional pain. So when they get overwhelmed, they drop out. So when your child is exhibiting mood swings that are more intense and occur more frequently than usual, it’s important to get our attention. Many parents only realized after the fact: It turned out that these were signs in the past. We were too nervous before. 03 Abnormal behavior, out-of-control children are under excessive pressure and are anxious and nervousIn a depressed state, there are not only violent fluctuations in emotions, but also many abnormalities in his behavior. For example: A child who usually gets up early and is punctual now cannot get up in the morning and cannot sleep at night. I used to be able to complete my homework consciously, but now I am procrastinating and not writing. I must need the urging of my parents. I used to be able to attend classes well, but now I have difficulty concentrating and reading a book, sometimes even a small chapter. For example, a child who used to be polite, civilized, and well-educated suddenly becomes rude and even swears, and becomes impatient and unreasonable toward teachers and parents. I used to have a good relationship with my classmates at school and had many good friends, but recently when I returned home, I no longer mentioned these classmates and friends, and even my parents became extremely irritated when they mentioned it. In the past, I abided by the rules and regulations, and performed well in everything that complied with the regulations. But now there are bad behaviors such as arriving late and leaving early, often taking leave and skipping classes, and even secretly going to Internet cafes to play games. If a child is on the verge of dropping out of school, it does not mean that we have entered a dead end. Only by knowing more about their children, meeting their psychological needs, and giving them more psychological nourishment can parents bring their children back from the edge of dropping out of school. When the above phenomena occur, we parents must be highly vigilant, introspective and introspective. What did we do poorly and what should we do next? Now is a critical moment for parents to reflect and take action. This is an arduous and long process of redemption. Children\’s disinclination to study is often caused by long-term cognitive and attributional patterns. Its formation did not happen overnight.