If a child often says these three sentences, it shows that he has low self-esteem deep down. Parents should pay more attention to this.

Some of the words a child often talks about may actually reflect the child\’s inner world. Recently, a mother has been complaining a lot. No matter what I asked my son to do, he would blurt out as if it was a conditioned reflex: \”I can\’t do it! So what?\” Although she said it easily, this mother knew how much her son cared. \”I will guide him to be bolder and braver, but the more he does this, the more he will hide behind me.\” The mother shook her head. Many children are like this. The more their parents encourage them, the more they withdraw. \”You are really not confident, why do you still have low self-esteem?\” The parents began to speculate and reason randomly, and as a result, the child may really have low self-esteem. Children often say these 3 sentences, be careful of children having low self-esteem 1. \”It doesn\’t matter\” No parents will admit that their children have low self-esteem. But inferiority complex is actually a very normal emotion. Generally speaking, you will only have such emotions when you are not capable enough. Late one night, my mother saw that the lights were still on in Shuaishuai\’s room. \”Why aren\’t you sleeping yet?\” Mom walked into the room quietly. \”I\’m memorizing a manuscript. There\’s a speech contest tomorrow. I\’ll practice it.\” Shuaishuai held the manuscript and frowned. \”Memorizing manuscripts, is this important to you?\” Mom asked with concern. \”Ah, it doesn\’t matter, it\’s just a small competition. The winner can get a set of smart stationery.\” Shuai Shuai said softly. \”Work hard, son! Get him!\” Mom encouraged. \”Forget it, I\’m just a participant, the ranking doesn\’t matter, it really doesn\’t matter.\” Shuai Shuai looked disdainful. Mom didn\’t say anything and just left the room. As a result, Shuaishuai memorized the manuscript by himself until 12 o\’clock. The next day, Shuaishuai went to school confidently, and his mother never mentioned the speech again. After school, my mother went to pick up Shuai Shuai, but he didn\’t say a word. When I got home, I went straight to my room. Later, my mother found out: Shuai Shuai was one of the three candidates in the class for this competition. As a result, he was the only one who made the most mistakes during practice, and the pronunciation of individual sounds needed to be corrected. Because I was afraid of making mistakes, I practiced hard on my own. The teacher left a message to his mother: \”Shuai Shuai told me that he didn\’t want to participate, but he still practiced hard. His indifference is actually a kind of self-encouragement.\” The child\’s indifference is actually a manifestation of inner vigilance, which is easy to It can be misunderstood as low self-esteem and lack of confidence. If your child often says it doesn\’t matter, he may be encountering difficulties or want to prove his strength. Some parents may think that their children do not care about this matter, but in fact, their children understand what they want to fight for. 2. \”I don\’t want to say\” In the playground, Sisi and Tiantian were playing on the trampoline together. \”Auntie, Sisi always grabs my clothes and makes me chase her!\” Tiantian shouted. Sisi was stunned on the side and said nothing. After a while. \”Auntie, Sisi wanted to hit me again, she shouted at me.\” Sisi heard it but still didn\’t speak. \”Sisi, come here.\” Mom called Sisi to her side. \”What\’s going on? Have fun with the kids, okay?\” Sisi lowered her head, feeling a little aggrieved. \”Tell me, why do you always arrest Tiantian alone?\” Tiantian also asked. Sisi didn\’t even speak. \”I don\’t want to say it.\” Sisi squeezed out a few words in a low voice. On weekdays, Sisi is relatively silent and rarely expresses her thoughts. in spite ofWhether it is speaking in class at school or getting along with people in life. If anyone talks faster than she does, she\’ll just shut down. This time, she still didn\’t say anything. Fortunately, she and Tiantian always play together, and Tiantian\’s mother also knows the situation of the two children. \”When can I express my thoughts on my own?\” Sisi\’s mother was very anxious. Later, when getting ready to go to bed at night, Sisi whispered to her mother. It\’s because when we played that day, Tiantian was very popular, and all the friends gathered around Tiantian. She likes to catch someone every day to attract her attention. When there are many friends, she will be afraid. \”I don\’t want to say it.\” It is a kind of thoughtful performance and also a kind of self-denial. Although many children will have this situation, once self-denial becomes a habit, they will tend to have low self-esteem. 3. \”Do you like me?\” Recently, Yoyo\’s mother discovered that her children like to ask their friends around them one thing, that is: \”Do you like me?\” That humble little look may seem cute, but it always feels awkward. Yoyo likes to play after the older children. When the older children do something she can\’t do, she will be very envious. Unexpectedly, when Yoyo met children of the same age, she would be overly modest. When you see others sliding down the slide, hide and watch. When someone else takes the toy away, she will sit and watch it quietly. When others are done playing, they will come up and say, \”Do you like me?\” My mother feels that such flattery is really inappropriate. There are also strong and weak differences between children. Some children will care too much about other people\’s feelings when getting along. \”Do you think she is stupid?\” Youyou\’s mother questioned. \”Don\’t she want to fight for what she likes?\” In front of people who are stronger than herself, she will definitely feel inferior and want to express her love. But when you often say \”Do you like me?\”, you really need to pay attention: fear of being disliked and wanting to make others happy may also be a tendency to have low self-esteem. Children\’s inferiority complex: How do children develop inferiority complex due to unwarranted comparison and denial? In fact, children initially wander in a state of self-judgment. Either self-affirmation or self-denial, or wavering. What makes children suffer from low self-esteem may be the hidden \”help\” of their parents. \”You can\’t do anything well!\” Parents always feel that their children can\’t do anything well, and blindly help their children do what they should do. Although children are allowed to do their own thing, when they are really anxious, they will still directly lend a hand to help. \”Why am I nervous at critical moments? It\’s because I lose confidence.\” A top student said. He complained about his mother: Originally, I wanted to do my homework quickly, but it turned out that everything you do is so slow, and the homework is so slow. When my mother said this, she lost all interest in doing homework. I am no longer confident in my learning efficiency. \”Look who is so awesome!\” Parents compare invisibly, causing children to have self-doubt. A fourth-grade child said: \”My mother likes children who study well. If you go to him, I can\’t learn.\” He accused his mother hysterically. But the mother still added fuel to the fire: \”Study well, that\’s what you should do. Look, so and so, does your parents need to worry about it?\” The child directly tore up the book and threatened his mother that he would not miss it anymore. Maybe, sinceChildren who are inferior do not like peers who are better than themselves. The definition of excellence is given by parents, and children have no way to defend it. Children\’s self-confidence: stems from full trust and love. The more parents believe in their children, the more confident their children will be. If you want your children to be confident, you must look at problems from their perspective and give them trust and love. 1. Unconditionally trust your children. Children also have their own goals, which sometimes are unreasonable and seemingly absurd. Parents should also be supportive and believe absolutely. This is the child\’s expression of satisfying himself. Wise parents are aware of their children\’s thoughts and support them in being themselves. Although sometimes it is wrong, it is still an experience. Children must have the ability to try and make mistakes before they can accumulate more experience. A father who recorded himself tutoring his children in homework online said: Children’s ideas are ever-changing, and if parents chase them, they are looking for evidence for their children’s self-confidence. Don\’t be afraid, your children will find the right track and understand various truths on their own. 2. Giving your children lots of love may seem like a big topic, but it is enough to let your children know who they are! No matter what happens, parents are their children\’s biggest support. Everything Nian Gao’s mother does with her children comes from love. She gets angry too, but doesn\’t judge. I also preach, but I don\’t dawdle. Children need to see what adults do before deciding whether they want to learn. Parents’ confidence and patience shape their children’s future. Children will also learn to love others from their parents. ▼Inferior self-esteem is not an anxious topic. Parents should also carefully monitor their children\’s behavior. Inside every child there is an inner child. Parents should nourish the growth of their inner child with love, patience, and rules. Accompanying him through some ups and downs, he remains kind and strong.