If a family commits these three taboos, it will be impossible to raise sensible children.

Mozi has a classic saying: \”Dyeing with green will make you green, dyeing with yellow will make you yellow. What you put in will change, and its color will also change. Therefore, you should not dye it carelessly.\” Mozi once saw someone dyeing silk with cyan pigment. It becomes cyan, and when dyed with yellow paint, it becomes yellow. After five passes, it becomes five colors. So in his opinion, \”dying\” requires great caution. In fact, the family is also a big dye vat. Everyone is born with a blank sheet of paper. Parents must set an example for what kind of person they want their children to become. If parents are lazy and lazy, their children will be industrious; if their parents are reasonable, their children will also be polite. What determines a person\’s destiny is never ability, but acquired family education. If a family violates these three taboos, it will be difficult to raise sensible children. The family tradition is not right and they are highly spoiled. Writer Ma Boyong said: \”A family\’s inheritance is like a fine antique.\” Antiques are tangible, but inheritance is intangible. Although it is invisible and intangible, it permeates every bone and blood of the family. A good family tradition is a person\’s attitude and confidence in dealing with others, and it also affects his future. If the family tradition is not correct, people will be skewed. There is such a character in Balzac\’s works: the flour merchant Goriot doted on his two daughters. He gave most of his property as dowry in order to let them live the luxurious life of a noble lady. But after getting married, the daughters ruthlessly abandoned him after squeezing out the last bit of their father\’s pension. In the end, they lost their father\’s blessing and everything they owned. As the saying goes: \”A doting person does not understand, but a greedy person is insatiable.\” If you dote on a person too much, you will not be able to distinguish right from wrong; a person who is insatiable will never be satisfied. It is understandable for parents to love their children, but love must be controlled within a certain limit, otherwise it will kill the child\’s future. Many times, children\’s problems are mostly the product of the family and a reflection of their parents\’ problems. There are no children who cannot educate well, only parents who cannot educate them well. Although the famous educator Mr. Fu Lei loves his son, he will never dote on him. He put the education of his son Fu Cong into his family life of being upright and polite. Fu Lei put forward strict requirements on even small things such as dressing, eating, standing, moving, and speaking. It is these trivial things that have made Fu Cong as gentle as jade today. Jin Yong once commented: \”Mr. Fu Lei\’s family letter is a gentleman teaching his children how to be a real gentleman.\” A good family tradition is a priceless treasure that will benefit a child for a lifetime, and it is also the best trump card for him to stand in the world in the future. . Parents who dote on their children should remember: If you do everything for your child, he will not be able to do anything in the future, and the result will be a giant baby. The only thing you can do is to hide your love for your child deep in your heart, let him go on his own, and encourage him to rely on himself at all times. The path he fights for will be the glory of his life. There is disharmony in the family and unfilial piety to the elders. What is the most important thing when a family is together? Is it Andeguangsha with tens of millions of rooms? Is it the vast hectares of fertile land passed down from our ancestors? Or is there an endless stream of guests and friends coming and going? neither. Money and appearance are just external things. Being together as a family, being healthy and safe, and living in harmony is more important than anything else. If the family is at odds, If a mother is unkind and her son is unfilial, no matter how much money she has, her family will eventually decline. If the family is harmonious and the whole family works together, future generations will benefit a lot. I have read a short story like this: There is a family with three generations living under the same roof, and they live an ordinary life together. One day, the father said to his son: \”Your grandfather is old and frail. He is of no use in the world. It is better to abandon him in the mountains.\” In the middle of the night, the father and son carried the old man to the stream in a basket and were about to throw it down. , the son said: \”Dad, we just need to throw away the people, why throw away this basket?\” The father said angrily: \”What do you know, you kid? You don\’t even want people, but you still want this broken basket.\” What are you doing?\” The son said, \”If you throw this basket away, how will my son and I carry you here in the future?\” The father was shocked when he heard this, like a wake-up call from a dream! So he quickly ordered his son to take the old man home and take good care of him, so that he would not dare to act unfilial again. Children are a \”mirror\” to their parents. Children see everything adults say and do. What kind of seeds you sow will be what you reap. If a person can abandon his parents and relatives who gave him life, how can he convince his children! Parents are role models for their children. If there is no affection and filial piety between the elders, the children will not be filial. Everyone comes into the world with different roles. Today they are children, and the day after tomorrow they may be parents. Honoring your elders not only sets an example for your children, but also leaves a way out for yourself. The world is such a big place. In this encounter, we might as well love each other more and complain less and hurt each other less. Only in this way can we truly grow old with peace of mind. If you don\’t cultivate your family ethics, you often take shortcuts. Nan Huaijin, a master of traditional Chinese culture, once said: \”One virtue, two fates, three feng shui, four accumulated yin virtues and five readings; blessed people live in a blessed land, and a blessed land brings blessed people to live.\” Virtue is the best feng shui for a family. In life, many people wander into twists and turns because they are tired of temporary hardships. But there are many shortcuts in life that are difficult to take. If you take too many small roads, you will inevitably lose the ability to climb to the top. In the TV series \”An Jia\”, a boss surnamed Gong had to sell the old bungalow passed down from his ancestors because of the company\’s cash outflow. Unexpectedly, a great-aunt came out halfway and stayed in the house with three generations of her family, refusing to leave without 50 million in moving expenses. What makes people laugh is that this great-uncle is a distant relative of Mr. Gong. His great-grandfather took pity on her and gave them a place to stay. A large family that had moved out a long time ago came to rip off the family. In the play, the old lady wallows in mischief, thinking that with the money she can reach the sky in one fell swoop, and she won’t have to worry about it for the rest of her life, but she doesn’t know that such behavior will only lead to ants-like survival for future generations. It is said that the owner of the house in the prototype of this story actually gave the distant relative a sum of tens of millions in \”moving expenses.\” What\’s funny is that the family squandered this huge sum of money in various ways and quickly spent it all. In the end, everything returned to where it started. There was a saying in the past that a gentleman loves money and gets it in a wise way. There are a lot of opportunistic tricks in this world, but few people remember that \”if virtue is not matched, there will be disaster.\”reason. The older generation likes to take shortcuts, and children naturally refuse to keep their feet on the ground. Since there is a free lunch in life, why bother to work by yourself? Once he develops this habit of getting something for nothing, he will cause endless harm throughout his life. There is no free lunch in the world, and even if there is, it may not necessarily hit you. Tall buildings rising from the ground, dragons and tigers crouching in the mountains. Most of the success in this world is accumulated bit by bit. You can\’t always think about becoming a fat man with one bite. Just like the couplet written by Lin Zexu: \”If my descendants are like me, what will they do with money? If they are virtuous and have a lot of money, it will harm their aspirations. If their descendants are not as good as me, what will they do with money? If they are stupid and have a lot of money, it will increase their faults.\” Children need parents to be such a guiding light in their lives. Intelligence is important, but what is more important is teaching children how to behave. Because \”morality can often make up for the shortcomings of wisdom, but wisdom can never make up for the shortcomings of morality.\” The German philosopher Jaspers said: \”The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul calls another soul.\” The excellence of their parents can be seen in outstanding children. Shadow, and the reasons for the behavior of naughty children can also be found in their parents. What kind of person a child will become depends largely on the environment in which he grows up. In a family, children are saplings, parents are gardeners, children are shadows, and parents are benchmarks. If the parents have a good family tradition, the children will also do things by themselves; if the parents are kind, the children will know the rules and be polite; if the parents have high moral character, the children will be able to be self-reliant. The so-called separation between parents and children is a gradual separation. The best thing you can leave to your children is not a house or a deposit, but the character and upbringing that will benefit them for a lifetime.