If children are not forced, they will not learn. What is true free-range education?

After the \”double reduction\”, many parents around us are generally anxious. What should their children do with their studies? Self-consciousness and self-discipline have become a big problem. Some people say that you only know who is swimming naked after the first final exam. It is a child\’s nature to love to play, and \”reducing the burden\” does not mean that parents just let it go. Only by grasping the right standards and stimulating children\’s inner drive for learning can children learn to grow actively while enjoying their childhood. How to mobilize children\’s learning initiative, parents must work hard in these four aspects: Establish good rules for their children and teach them to be respectful. Not long ago, a 12-year-old boy in Changsha, Hunan Province was obsessed with playing games online and stole it while his mother was not paying attention. Use your mobile phone to recharge games and buy equipment. In just 3 days, a total of 110,000 yuan was spent. 60 Tips to Cultivate Your Child to Be a Responsible Person PDF (Pictures are from the Internet, deleted due to copyright infringement) Seeing that all the family’s savings were squandered by the boy, the mother was desperate and had to go to the police station for help. Even after many efforts, only more than 90,000 yuan was recovered. In fact, children are playful and do not understand the propriety of doing things, and cannot understand the difficulty of making money for their parents. In the final analysis, it has something to do with not establishing a good sense of rules for him. Parents work hard from dawn to dusk every day to support their families, thinking that providing food and clothing for their children is their best responsibility. In the end, children only know how to enjoy themselves, but they don’t know how to be grateful. They can’t even distinguish between what they should do and what they shouldn’t do. If there are no rules, there will be no square, and if there is no reverence, there will be disaster. Some truths should be instilled in children from an early age so that they know what they are doing and learn to regulate their own behavior. Professor Li Meijin once said: \”As a person grows up, he needs to form something, that is, in addition to love, he also has respect and fear.\” (Pictures are from the Internet, and they have been deleted.) I deeply agree. The correct way to educate children well is to give them both kindness and power. When he is at a sensible age, you should not only nourish and warm him with unconditional love, but also dare to discipline and punish him when he makes mistakes. The purpose of establishing good rules is to let him know the rules, distinguish right from wrong, and keep the rules in his mind; to teach him to be in awe is to draw a bottom line for him and not violate things he dare not do. True love is not turning a blind eye, nor condoning, nor shielding. Only by regulating his behavior in a timely manner, correcting his problems, and establishing his three views can we ensure that he will stay on the right track and be impartial in the future. Awaken the child\’s inner drive and ignite the fire in his heart. Many parents say that they know they need to take care of their children, but their children just don\’t want to listen and are lazy and confused all day long. In fact, it is precisely that the child is not exerting force in the right direction. Sayaka Kobayashi, the prototype of the movie \”Bottom Girl,\” recently celebrated online that she was admitted to Columbia University\’s graduate school in educational psychology. This \”poor student\” who used to be one of the best has become a top student by relying on his extraordinary internal drive. When others thought she could just find a job after graduation, her mother took her to visit universities, trying to expose her to a good educational atmosphere and awaken her inner motivation. (The picture is from the movie \”Bottom Hot Girl\”, infringed and deleted) As a result, Sayaka, who had never imagined that she could be admitted to college, made it clear that she wanted to challenge herself and continue to grow. Others were laughing and joking in the karaoke room, but all she hadHer concentration was all on the exercise book; no one believed that she could create miracles at only the fourth grade of elementary school, but she proved herself with countless sleepless nights. In the end, not only did she get into a prestigious school with high scores, she also became an inspirational idol for many children like her. All this is due to the guidance and education given to her by her mother and teachers. Every strong child is not born with extraordinary talents, but that he has found something he likes and is suitable for. Relying on the inner driving force of \”I believe I can do it\” in my heart, I run forward bit by bit. Even though the process went through countless hardships and shed blood and sweat, his desire for success and victory spurred him all the time. Lin Qingxuan said that good education is the seed that awakens children\’s hearts. Only by stimulating the child\’s inner motivation and letting him do what he wants to do, can the child continue to be self-disciplined, excellent and hard-working without supervision or urging. Let children maintain their enthusiasm for life and keep moving forward even when encountering troughs. Six years ago, Xu Kaiwen, a Ph.D. in psychology, published a set of data that shocked the entire Internet: among the first-year students at Peking University (including undergraduates and graduate students), 30.4 % of students hate learning or think that learning is meaningless; 40.4% of students think that living is meaningless. This is also the origin of \”hollow disease\”. He shared that one time when he was taking evening classes, an off-campus psychological counselor called and said that a student seemed to have committed suicide by taking poison in the dormitory. After initiating the crisis intervention process, the student who committed suicide was found and found that the student had always been an outstanding student at Peking University, but he often fell into trouble. Hospitalization, medication, all treatment methods have been exhausted, but the student still has no business. In the end, I had to give up my studies, drop out and go home. In real life, not to mention that children like this who are obviously doing well and studying well always feel hollow, confused and depressed. Many children lack psychological energy and lose their most basic enthusiasm for life. They become discouraged and passive and world-weary when encountering problems. No matter how capable they are, it won\’t help if they are mentally ill. Therefore, don’t just see whether the child is in good health, whether he is eating well and fat, and whether he is tall and strong. What\’s more important is to gain insight into his heart, whether he knows why he lives and is passionate about life. This is the foundation of his quality and character, and also the key to success. Dr. Xu Kaiwen discovered through clinical psychological intervention that as long as parents understand their children\’s growth patterns and master relevant scientific knowledge and skills, they can help their children find the \”heart\” that loves life and life. Therefore, consider the problem from the child\’s perspective, care for and respect his ideas. As long as parents take the initiative and show a positive and sunny attitude towards life in front of their children, children will be infected and continue to explore in love. Even if you encounter difficulties, you still know how to seek help from your parents instead of worrying about yourself and falling into a vicious cycle. During this time, a 5-year-old girl from Jiaojiang, Taizhou, suddenly asked her parents that she wanted to go home from school alone. The unexpected news made the little girl\’s father feel amused and a little distressed. After all, he is a child who has not yet entered elementary school. But dad turnsThink about it, since my daughter has made such a request, it means that she already has a sense of independence, and it is time for her to grow and experience. So he agreed to his daughter\’s request, but secretly followed her all the way without being discovered by her. (The picture comes from the Internet and has been deleted.) The distance from the hobby class to home is less than 10 minutes. I think this is the greatest love parents have for their children. Psychologist Hu Shenzhi once said that the greatness of parental love is that parents know how to help their children and let them grow. As a child grows up day by day, he has his own thoughts and the urge to realize himself. Especially when he feels that he is capable and can do something on his own, his parents\’ support and understanding are far better than their control. In fact, parents are always accustomed to treating their children as children. I am afraid that my child will be injured, or that my child is not strong enough to take good care of myself, so I worry about everything and do everything. Thinking \”I am doing all this for your own good\”, little do they know that excessive worry and protection will only break the child\’s growing wings. American psychologist Scott Pike has a famous saying: \”Parents must take the initiative to separate from their children in order to promote their children\’s personality growth and eventually become a person with an independent personality.\” Proper exit is a gift that parents give to their children\’s happy growth. The best gift is also the greatest self-consciousness for parents. Children have their own lives and are destined to drift away from their parents from the moment they are born. The only thing parents can do is to let go and watch their children leave with blessings. At the end of the writing, an ancient saying goes, parents love their children for far-reaching reasons. If you don\’t ask, you won\’t be able to teach good children; if you are slack, you won\’t be able to raise outstanding offspring. Behind every child is the hard work of his parents. Only parents can restrain their children with correct standards and three views since childhood, inject full energy into them, and know how to let go when they grow up. \”Raising without teaching is the fault of the parents; failing to teach properly is the fault of the parents.\” Click \”Like\” and hope that all parents in the world can cherish their authority to educate and guide their children on the right track of life. Be impartial and lead your own dazzling life.