If my child is very different from others…

Previously, Du Jiang dressed up as a woman in the movie \”Mr. Heels\” with a bold and open look. He was a little worried, fearing that he could not tell the difference between men and women, so he said to the future husband: \”I hope you can distinguish the difference between boys and girls. Dad hopes that you will be a real man and only do it for the woman you love.\” Such a thing.\” But Huo Siyan said: \”I don\’t think you should say that. It can also be for the boy or girl you love.\” This made me, who have loved fantasy since I was a child, have another hallucination. Can I accept that my child is different? I have always accepted the concept that \”a child is an independent individual\”. How different can I accept my children? Will she be a leftover girl? \”The Leftover is King\” plot synopsis: Sheng Ruxi is a high-quality single female white-collar woman in her thirties. While her career is successful, her love life is blank. Ma Sai, a new warm-hearted colleague in the company, suddenly fell in love and began to subtly affect Sheng Ruxi\’s life. Sheng Ruxi and Ma Sai experienced a series of incidents that brought laughter and tears. The frank and young Ma Sai made Sheng Ruxi\’s heart beat in the process of their interactions. After that, Sheng Ruxi went through hundreds of twists and turns, and finally recognized herself and confessed boldly, and gained a happy life. When I watched the movie \”The Last One Is King\”, Sheng Ruxi said to the air: Where are you? Roaring at my mother: Will I die if I am single? Will she be sentenced if she doesn\’t get married? In the hotel after being stranded at the airport, she murmured to herself: Since she was a child, she has always felt that anything can be achieved if she works hard, but how can she work hard on emotional matters? Who to fight for? I would fantasize that if my child was different from others and had passed the marriageable age and did not find a partner, would I be anxious as well? Actually, I don\’t have the answer either. But my father gave me the answer very early. When I graduated from college, there was no buzz around me (you know what buzz I\’m talking about). My father, who was deeply influenced by traditional thinking, said to me: If you don\’t have a suitable partner, don\’t rush to fall in love, we will support you. A father\’s love is always so deep and difficult to find. It is no different from Sheng Ruxi\’s father in the film, which makes people heartwarming: There is a girl of my age around me. My child is 6 years old, but she is still unmarried. Living a carefree life, she once told me about her mother\’s urging for marriage, but after several failed blind dates, she stopped urging her. Once, I tried to imitate my father\’s tone and said to her: No matter what others think, live like a little girl. Don\’t worry about fate. She also replied to me arrogantly: Yes! I think so too! I think this is my attitude towards this matter. Will she like someone of the same sex? \”Love of Siam\” plot synopsis: The film\’s protagonists, Mew and Tong, were neighbors and good friends in the same school when they were young. In childhood, the two were separated when Tong moved. After meeting again, they fell in love with each other. Tong escaped from his emotions because he was questioned by his friends and pressured by his mother. Tong is willing to face his emotions truly because of the persuasion of Ying, who has a crush on Mew. Finally, Tong and Mew said, I may not be able to be with you, but that doesn\’t mean I don\’t love you. When I watched \”Love of Siam\” and Tong and Mew were lying on the same bed, I would hallucinateThinking about how I would treat my child if she were in Mew\’s situation. I think that even if she is a child who grows up every day, I will still be shocked and somewhat unwilling to accept it. I would like to ask her \”why are you different\” in my eyes. Then, several questions appeared in my mind that lingered: Question 1: Will homosexual relationships harm the health of children? In many cases, people believe that homosexuals are more likely to transmit AIDS. In fact, the main transmission routes of AIDS are sexual transmission, mother-to-child transmission, and blood transmission. Sexual transmission includes same-sex and heterosexual transmission. Although the number of HIV infections transmitted through male homosexuality is gradually increasing, heterosexually transmitted infections still account for the majority. According to an online interview conducted by the National Health and Family Planning Commission on December 1, 2014, of the 87,000 newly reported cases across the country in 2014, sexual transmission accounted for 91.5%, of which heterosexual transmission accounted for 66% and sexual intercourse accounted for 25%. Judging from the data in 2014, it is not uncommon for HIV to be transmitted through heterosexual sex. On the contrary, the lack of sex education and safety measures will indeed put children in a situation where they are easily spread, whether they are heterosexual or homosexual. Question 2: Is homosexuality innate? There are two theories on the Internet: shaped by the environment: for example, estrangement from same-sex parents, sexual assault, etc.; genetic factors: American gay media Queerty reported that Hamer stated in a research report published in July 1993 that human sexual orientation Influenced by genes, he believed that the gene was located on the X chromosome and inherited from the mother. However, whether it is shaped by the environment or whether it inherits genes from the mother, these are things that children cannot decide independently. For this \”decided\” matter, he has to suffer criticism from the people around him, as well as his own disapproval or denial. This is already a huge struggle. I finished watching the film with mixed emotions. When Mew sweetly picked up the pillow that Tong had slept on, I was completely conquered. The mutual attachment between them is so natural, and it does not become different because the other person is of the same sex or the opposite sex. At the end of the film, I saw Tong’s mother secretly hand over the choice of mate to him. Tong also told her mother that he would be a boy. His mother’s somewhat complicated smile showed me a man who was influenced by traditional thinking. The mother was relieved because of her unconditional love for her children. I think this will also be my attitude towards this matter. There are many more \”very different\” things I can imagine: if she is the little boy Billy in \”Billy Elliot\”, who wants to break through society\’s perception of boys, learn ballet, and become a ballet dancer; If she is Fang Hui in \”The Year in a Hurry\” and hurts herself because of love… Just from watching the film, I can understand the protagonist\’s inner struggle: her confusion and confusion about self-awareness, lack of belonging and The sense of identity often causes him to bear a heavy mental burden. We cannot make everyone understand the \”difference\” of our children. We can only give our children recognition from us, that\’s all. What is frustrating is that our understanding of children is not a \”golden bell\”, can save children from such confusion. But at least, he can be himself in front of us with peace of mind. In the film \”Love of Siam\”, Mew said: People without love will feel lonely; Ying said: With love, there is hope. These two sentences brought me to tears. What will happen if a person has no love and no hope? Will you feel empty and do something exciting? Will you reject yourself, not love yourself, or hurt yourself? These are not what I want to see when raising my children. What I long for is that my children will live well and be loved. On the premise of protecting yourself and not hurting others, I would say to him: Go find the love in your heart…