If other parents come over and beat your child, do you want to start a fight or give in?

A few days ago, I came out after talking with friends at noon and passed by a school. It happened to be the time for school to end. There were many parents standing at the school gate, smiling happily to greet the children who were lining up. Suddenly, there was a quarrel not far away. The two sides cursed louder and louder. After a while, the quarrel turned into a fight. A man who looked like a father and an old couple who were obviously grandparents started fighting right in front of me. The old grandpa grabbed one of the young father\’s hands, and the old grandma held the other hand of the young father. While scolding, the old grandma took out one hand and hit the father hard. Her agile skills and momentum could Went to participate in the senior judo competition. The father\’s face was red with anger, and he pushed the other party fiercely, trying to find opportunities to fight back, and the two sides fought fiercely. Some parents nearby quickly gathered around and pulled the two sides apart, but the two sides still refused to give up and continued to fight. An old woman next to me sighed and said, \”Why are these people so unqualified? Why are they fighting in front of the school? So many children are out of school, what a bad impact!\” The parents waiting nearby also responded. At this moment, a teacher who looked like a head teacher rushed over and yelled at him. The two sides stopped fighting, but they continued to yell at each other. It was not until the head teacher came out with the momentum to educate the students that the parents on both sides stopped. Barely calm down. \”His child is bullying our baby!\” the grandparents said angrily. \”Then what qualifications do you have to beat my child?\” the father roared. \”I will teach anyone who bullies my child! Has your child beaten enough?\” the grandma said angrily. \”What does it have to do with you whether my child is obedient or not? What qualifications do you have to teach him a lesson!\” Seeing that the two sides had a disagreement and were about to start a fight, the head teacher yelled, \”Stop!\” and then asked the parents on both sides to take turns saying this. Only then did we figure out the reason for the fight. It turns out that both families have boys who have just entered first grade, and the two children often play and fight together. When we were lining up after school that day, the children were pushing each other. The father\’s child was walking behind and pushed the little boy in front. The boy in front staggered and almost fell to the ground. This scene was seen by the grandparents waiting to pick up the children at the school gate, and their expressions suddenly changed. After the team disbanded, they quickly surrounded the child who was pushing. The grandfather grabbed the child by the collar. The grandmother yelled and cursed beside him, accusing the child of being uneducated and slapping the child\’s hand. The child was so frightened that his face changed. When the father arrived, he happened to see the grandfather holding the child by the collar like a chicken while the grandmother was beating the child. He rushed forward desperately and pulled the grandparents away and started arguing with each other. In this way, the conflict between the two children officially escalated into a conflict between parents. After listening to each other\’s explanations, before the head teacher could speak, some parents watching started talking. Most parents believe that the two parties should not fight at the school gate. No matter how angry each other is, they should not fight at the school gate. If you have something to say, talk it over. If there is a conflict, communicate it first. Don\’t fight at all costs. This will have too much impact on the children. It\’s so bad, especially for setting a bad example for my own children. Looking at this scene in front of me, I felt likeI deeply despise the parents on both sides of the fight. My point of view is the same as that of most people who eat melons. I feel that both parents are too impulsive. What problem cannot be dealt with calmly and must be taken action? Even if there is a big dispute, you must pay attention to the occasion. You should not choose to do it in front of the school. This is a very bad behavior model for the children. That night, after my father came home from get off work, I told him what happened at noon. Who knew that my father\’s views were completely different from mine, and he was more supportive of that father\’s actions. He said: \”You and Zai Zai are the most important people to me. As long as someone dares to treat Zai Zai like this, I will rush forward at all costs and beat him up first. I will never allow any outsider to bully you or Zai Zai casually.\” , no matter who is at fault, no matter where it is, I will not be soft as long as someone takes action. I will never protect my children when they are wrong, but I can only educate and teach them by myself or the teacher. Tell me exactly what happened. Naturally, I will educate him. How can I let other parents teach my child or even beat him? And they are parents who are so much older than him? If I don\’t step forward to protect him, how scared and helpless the child will be! \”Zai Zai\’s words made me think deeply, and I also put myself in Zai Zai\’s shoes and thought about it. If this scene happened to Zai Zai, if the grandparents grabbed Zai Zai\’s collar and taught him to beat him, would I be able to handle it calmly and objectively? Then I found that I couldn\’t! If an adult bullies my child, I will rush to protect the child at all costs and will never give in! I recall an incident when I was growing up. That happened when I was 6 years old. One day, my mother took me to the market to buy vegetables. In front of a vendor, my mother squatted down to pick vegetables. Next to me was a small vendor selling ducks. I curiously stretched out my hand to catch the duck. The duck was so frightened that it quacked and screamed. The duck seller yelled at me. I was petrified and at a loss what to do. At this time, my mother quickly put down what she was holding, pulled me behind her, and started scolding the vendor desperately. At that moment, I felt very, very warm in my heart. \”Mom will protect me\” and \”Mom is very strong\” were the deepest impressions I had at that time, and this impression has remained to this day. Whether my mother is qualified or not, whether her actions are right or not… I have no judgment at all when I was young. I only know that my mother will protect me when I am bullied. I am not alone. This seems to be the deepest thing in my heart. feelings. I posted this question in my circle of friends: \”If you see other parents lecturing your children at the school gate, at this time, you will: A. Rush forward and tear them apart at all costs. B. Rush over and pull away. The other party, protect the child and ask calmly why. C. Considering the impact of the school being nearby, give in and take the child away quickly. This topic received enthusiastic votes from hundreds of mothers, and many fathers also participated enthusiastically, almost The answer for all fathers is A, and nearly half of the mothers chose A. Their views are consistent with their children\’s fathers, and they believe that core interests cannot be violated. As long as other adults bully their children, it is a problem between adults. No matter what time, No matter where you are, you will fight at all costs! In addition,Nearly half of the mothers chose B, believing that when a dispute occurs, they must be calm and try to deal with the problem calmly on the basis of protecting their children. Some friends also suggested taking videos, calling the police, etc. No one chose C. Everyone agreed that it was okay to coax yourself, but absolutely not to coax your children. Never give in when it comes to protecting your children. It is normal for children to fight, especially boys. Their hormones need to be released, so the way they make friends is to fight constantly. Today you hit me, and tomorrow I will hit you. Even if the blow causes a bloody head, it will not take long. It will also be easy to reconcile. Many boys\’ friendships are magically forged during fights. If parents can\’t stand it when children fight with each other, they can teach their children some ways to resolve disputes, such as: fight back if they can\’t fight, run away if they can\’t, and tell the teacher or the other parent if they are bullied. If the teacher or the other parent If the parents don\’t care, the parents will come forward to communicate with the parents. Some parents can\’t stand their children being bullied, and they only want to stand up for their children and teach other people\’s children. Such behavior, no matter what the reason, is bullying the small and bullying the weak, which is wrong. No matter what problems occur, no matter how broken you are, as a parent, you are not qualified to teach other people\’s children. This is the most basic limit. Similarly, if an adult bullies your child, you must rush forward immediately to protect the child and let the child know that he is protected by his parents. This is not patronage, let alone doting! If your child makes a mistake, he must be educated and will not be biased. However, if other parents help teach or even beat and scold their children, this is crossing the line. Leaving it alone at this time will cause the greatest harm to the child. The child will be left with the psychological impression of \”I am weak and no one can protect me\”, and the parents will feel guilty afterwards. A mother told me that her 4-year-old son pushed someone while playing in the community and pushed a child. The mother of the child who was pushed rushed over angrily and asked the child to fight back. The child who was pushed was not originally If he dared, his mother grabbed the pushing child and signaled her son to hit him. Thinking that her child had done it first, the mother felt embarrassed to stop her, so she stood and watched the scene from a distance. With the support of his mother, the child who was pushed mustered up the courage to kick the child who was pushing him in the stomach. The child who pushed the child wanted to run away, but was dragged tightly by another mother. He could only endure the kick. After being kicked, the child who pushed him cried out in pain, and the mother and son who kicked him left proudly. Mom looked at this scene and felt her heart was broken. She felt very guilty and blamed herself. She felt how could she be so cowardly and choose to give in at the critical moment. Therefore, if you see other parents bullying your children, it’s okay to start a fight, but never give in! Giving in is the greatest harm to children!