If parents are partial, what will happen to their children?

There is a sister next to me. She has a clear and firm attitude and refuses to have a second child. The reason is not financial pressure, nor is it not that there is no one to take care of her, but because she is afraid that after she has two children, she will not be able to treat them fairly. She herself has a younger sister, and her mother prefers her younger sister between her and her younger sister. \”My mother is a heroine here who kills the rich and helps the poor!\” She said sarcastically, but there was a hint of bitterness in her voice. Her financial situation is better than that of her sister. What her mother often says is: \”Your sister is not doing well, so help her more.\” There is nothing wrong with this sentence itself. Helping each other between sisters cannot be taken for granted, but it is also a matter of family affection. Even if her mother didn\’t say anything, she should take the initiative to help her sister. But what is the reality? My younger sister was fired for her own reasons. Without a job, she had no income. Without income, she borrowed money from her sister. Calling it a \”borrowing\” was actually a \”meat bag beating a dog\”. This is okay. My sister feels that it is appropriate to help her at this time. However, this assistance is only for half a year. My younger sister is not having a good time finding a job either because she finds it too hard or because she has little money. She wants to start her own business and be her own boss. When she runs out of money, she naturally asks her sister to \”borrow\” her money. Later, she finally said that she had done something, but she didn\’t say what she was doing. However, she talked about the income in an extravagant way, as if she would become a millionaire tomorrow. When the elder sister saw it, she realized that except for the fact that her personal freedom was not restricted, everything else was just a pyramid scheme. She advised her sister to get down to earth and find a job. The younger sister did not listen to the advice. Instead, she said her elder sister was stingy and went home to complain to her old mother. My mother called my sister to scold her, and then mentioned the same sentence: \”You are living a better life than your sister now, so you should help your sister more.\” My sister was so angry that she couldn\’t say a word of defense. She told me: \”I heard this and it made my ears tingle. It was because of her efforts to brainwash me that I was willing to be my sister\’s purse. In fact, I am in a good financial situation because of my own hard work. My sister has fallen into this state.\” At this point, it has nothing to do with me.\” \”Do you know when I started to wake up? It was that time, my mother came to my house to stay for a while, saw the skin care products on my dressing table, and asked the price of each one. , immediately said, you have spent thousands of dollars smearing on your face layer by layer. Your sister has lived a miserable life and has nothing, and you don’t care about her.\” The aggrieved and blaming tone in her mother’s voice shocked her. . She said: \”At that moment, I finally understood that she was partial and used my flesh and blood to feed her sister. She would not feel anything, let alone whether I would be hurt.\” But even so, she still felt sorry for her. Mom couldn\’t say a word \”no\”. That night, she packed all her skin care products and asked her mother to bring them to her sister. She knew she couldn\’t do anything to her mother, but her heart still felt cold from that day on. After hearing this, I let out a long sigh and didn\’t know how to comfort her. Such things, such parents, have existed since ancient times. There are two famous \”eccentric\” mothers in history. One is Wu Jiang, the mother of Duke Zheng Zhuang and Gong Shu Duan, and the other is Empress Dowager Dou, the mother of Emperor Jing of Han and King Liang of Han. Both mothers favored their younger sons, and both had the same routine. They both forced their elder brothers to give them the most fertile land.The younger brother kept asking his elder brother for benefits, and in the end, he even wanted to seize the throne from his eldest son and give it to his younger son. But what about the result. Duan\’s rebellion failed and he committed suicide in exile. Duke Zheng Zhuang made a poisonous oath that he and his mother would \”not be as good as the underworld and never see each other again.\” King Liang also failed in his rebellion. Although Emperor Jing of the Han Dynasty did not kill him, he died of illness soon afterwards. When Empress Dowager Dou heard that King Liang was dead, she cursed Emperor Jing and said, \”Emperor Guo, kill my son!\” When she said this, she must have forgotten that Emperor Jing was also her own flesh and blood. No matter how partial their parents are, their children can always forgive easily, but siblings are still a little worse after all. After Zheng Zhuanggong took the poisonous oath, he regretted it and missed his mother. After all, he dug up the earth and found a spring, and met his mother underground. The mother and son held each other\’s arms and cried, and they settled their differences. But Gongshu Duan, who was supposed to enjoy the glory and wealth, died tragically, and the two brothers could not reconcile after all. Empress Dowager Dou had always been at peace with Emperor Jing, but King Liang and Emperor Jing eventually turned against each other, and there was resentment between the two brothers until their deaths. Who single-handedly caused such a tragedy was their mother. Favoritism, the one who is left out will be hurt, and the one who is favored will be pampered and arrogant, which is not good for either of them. I think whether siblings get along well or not really depends on whether they have fair and just parents! I have seen big families living in harmony and peace, and I have also seen brothers from the same mother beat each other to bloody heads and curse each other. The mother in a large family has always been an amiable and respectable person in the hearts of her children. Several daughters-in-law, numerous descendants, are all the same flesh and blood in her eyes. Even if there are occasional discords between family members, they can be resolved with her mother\’s comfort. As for the brothers who were beaten to a bloody head, their mother used the trick of \”favoritism\” in order to make each son be particularly filial to her. The specific operation was to say that the younger son was not good in front of the eldest son to show that she She loves her eldest son the most. Talking about the eldest son\’s faults in front of her younger son shows that she loves her younger son the most. Because their mother \”spared no effort\” to \”sow discord\”, the relationship between the two brothers became worse and worse, and eventually they got into a fight. In the end, the two people used the same method to retaliate against each other – they let go and let the other person support their mother. This is probably the most unexpected result for their mother, right? \”Everyone in the world is partial.\” This double-entendre proverb speaks to people\’s hearts, especially parents. Each child will always show different personality traits due to different birth orders. In comparison, there is always one who is particularly loved by his parents, but there must be a moderation in everything. People are also strange, they can\’t help but compare everything, especially when teasing children. My niece was once asked in public: \”Is your eldest aunt nicer to you, or is your younger aunt nicer to you?\” I was so angry that I just wished I wasn\’t there and couldn\’t help my child to fight back. Afterwards, I solemnly told my niece: \”Next time you encounter this kind of thing, just say, \’Both aunts have their own merits, there is no need to compare them.\’ If the person continues, ask him, \’Is it interesting?\’.\” Similar questions include these: \”Does your mother like you or your brother?\” \”Which one is better, dad or mom?\” \”Which one is better, grandma or grandma?\” Are they interesting? Really boring! Many contradictions areSuch a little bit lays the foundation for the disaster. I think love is something that cannot be quantified the most. It is not a cookie. If I give it to you, I won’t have it anymore. It should be an endless supply, because it is grand and rich, and we really don’t have to compete and fight for it in love.