If parents are selfish and do not consider their children, the happier their children will be

Children are the treasure of every family, but they should not be the only focus of a family\’s life. The worst influence that Chinese parents have on their children is that everything revolves around their children and they have no life of their own. Parents who selflessly give everything and throw away their own lives will lead to selfish children. The more \”selfish\” parents are, the better they can raise outstanding children. We always see many children around us who are ungrateful, take their parents\’ kindness and love for granted, and show off to their parents if they don\’t go their way at all. In fact, the reason why children are like this is precisely because their parents are not \”selfish\” enough. Parents are \”selfish\” and their children are sensible. This is a slow process. Only when parents are \”selfish\” and learn to let go and let their children try and venture out can their children gradually understand the truth and become sensible. Many parents always complain that their children are not sensible enough and cannot do things to meet their parents\’ requirements. But it is not that the children are not sensible, but that the parents do not give their children room to develop and just try to directly paste their own experiences into their children\’s lives. \”Selfish\” parents have their own lives and will not focus all their efforts on their children. They will let their children explore and understand on their own, allowing them to have a thinking process and understand their own hearts based on their own needs. Parents are \”selfish\” and their children are independent. Many children don\’t know how to wash clothes after they go to college. Many people don\’t even know how to cook noodles after they get married. They expect their parents to be their \”nanny\”. When parents face this situation, they will feel that their children are selfish. How does this selfishness come about? In the final analysis, it comes from the \”selflessness\” of the parents. If parents were more \”selfish\” and cruel, and allowed their children to be trained from an early age and develop the habit of doing their own things from an early age, how could there be so many giant babies? Only when parents are \”selfish\” can children be independent. When a child is young, he must understand that his parents are not his servants, and not everything can be done for him by his parents. If he doesn\’t do it himself, he won\’t get what he wants. Only when children establish this concept from an early age can they become more self-reliant and adapt to society. Parents are \”selfish\” and children are grateful. I once read a story: The parents were reluctant to eat fish, so they always picked out the fish for their son to eat, and the two of them ate the fish heads. When the son grew up and started working, the family of three sat at the table to eat. The mother wanted to eat fish, but the son blamed the mother for not being considerate of him. Parents put all their energy on their children, provide their children with the best material resources, and eat their own food. Children raised in this way often take their parents\’ love for granted and are ungrateful. Parents should have their own lives, be a little selfish, and let their children know that they are not the center of the world and that no one will revolve around them. Parents meet his requirements because they love him and not take it for granted. If your child wants something from your parents, you can give it to him, but you have to tell him that this thing belongs to your parents. If you like it, your parents can buy you another one, but you can\’t take your parents\’ things as your own. Excellent parents should have their own lives, separate themselves from their children, and do not let their children become the center of the family and disrupt their normal life order. Only parents learn to \”self-control\”Only by \”self-interest\” can children become outstanding, and their future lives will be happier.