If parents are talkative, their children will be smarter!

When it comes to educating their children, many parents spend their money and energy in the wrong place. Buying a house in a school district for your children, sending your children to training classes, letting your children learn piano, chess, calligraphy and painting… none of these things seem important now. What matters is how much you talk to your children. Authoritative research from the United States shows that children whose parents are \”talkative\” are smarter. Three-Year-Old Determined Lifetime \”Why do children from wealthy families generally have higher intelligence than children from poor families?\” This question has puzzled American scientists Todd Risley and Betty Hart for a long time. Many people think that the answer to the question is: genetics, income level, race, living environment, parents\’ education level, etc. After conducting long-term follow-up studies on a large sample, two scientists found that a large part of a person\’s intelligence is determined before the age of 3. The most critical factor affecting intelligence is the amount of dialogue between parents and children – 1. American parents speak an average of 1,500 words to their infant babies per hour; 2. Parents from wealthy families speak to their children on average 2,100 words per hour , while children from “welfare families” (i.e. poor families) can only listen to their parents speak 600 words per hour; 3. By the age of 3, parents from wealthy families have spoken an average of 48 million words to their children, while those from “welfare families” Children in 2019 can only hear 13 million. Why does talking affect intelligence? Because talking develops synaptic pathways in babies to strengthen their thinking. If you say 48 million words to a child before he is 3 years old, countless synaptic pathways in the child\’s brain can be trained and improved. This enables children to think faster, easier, and more automatically. Compared with children who heard only 13 million words, children who heard 48 million words before the age of 3 had an advantage not only in having 3.7 times the \”unobstructed\” synaptic structure in the brain, but also in each brain cell. With up to 10,000 synapses connected to other cells, their brains are able to think in a more complex way. More \”small talk\” Why do children from \”welfare families\” hear less? Because their parents are busy making a living, they limit conversations with their children to \”formal conversations\” related to tasks, such as: \”It\’s time to go to bed,\” \”Finish the food,\” \”Put your hand out,\” \”Get in the car.\” \”Formal conversations\” are often not complicated. They are simple, direct, and immediate conversations that have a very limited impact on intellectual development. In addition to the \”formal dialogue\” with their children, parents from wealthy families also have \”additional dialogues\”: \”What if…\” \”Do you still remember…\”, \”Shouldn\’t you…\”, \”What if…\” It couldn\’t be better.\” Extra dialogue is usually in the form of questions, inviting babies to think more deeply about what is happening around them. Parents face to face with their children and have a conversation with their children in a completely adult, complex, chatty language, as if the children are listening, understanding, and able to respond. Four Implications This study caused strong reactions in the United States. People realize that 98% of education expenditures are spent on the initial shaping of children’s minds.back. American education experts exclaimed: It is too late to start reform from kindergarten, let alone primary school, middle school or university. The inspiration this brings to parents is: 1. Spend more time with your children and have \”extra conversations\” anytime and anywhere. Such as when shopping, folding laundry, feeding, changing diapers, or having a close hug. 2. Seize the \”golden conversation period\” before one year old, and don\’t think that your child can\’t understand. Research shows that the most powerful words are those a child hears in their first year of life. Children whose parents did not start talking to them until they were able to talk (around 1 year old) showed lasting intellectual disadvantages compared with those whose parents began communicating with them as soon as they were born. 3. Don’t count on the TV to help you hold conversations. Since talking is so important, can busy parents turn on the TV and put their babies in front of it? No, Risley says, this \”background noise\” has no significant impact on a child\’s intelligence. 4. If a poor family wants to have a son, it depends on whether they talk to the child a lot. Risley also said that if parents from poor families talk more to their children, their children\’s intelligence can also improve. On the contrary, if parents from wealthy families rarely chat with their children, their children\’s IQs will not be much higher.