If parents do this 3 hours after returning home from school, their children will benefit for life

My colleague\’s son Yangyang is in fourth grade. His study habits and grades are very good, and he is often praised by teachers. My colleagues never showed any anxiety or worry about their children\’s learning, which made us mothers envious. Later, a colleague shared her experience and said that from the time her children entered kindergarten, her family paid special attention to the three hours after their children came home from school. In the morning, the adults have to go to work and the children have to go to school. Her family, like most families, is busy. The only three hours after school is the time for parents and children to communicate deeply, learn and play. Colleagues call it the \”golden three hours.\” She believes that the amount of time children spend after school is the same, but the content of this time varies greatly from family to family. Maybe you can\’t see any difference in one or two days, but after a year or two, the gap between children will widen. My colleague’s words made me suddenly realize that how a child spends the three hours after school is related to the child’s future development. Communication time at the dining table. Parents are busy cooking after get off work and have no time to chat with their children. The time for eating at the dining table has naturally become the best choice for parent-child communication. The dining table is originally a place where the family enjoys delicious food, but some parents especially like to turn it into a place for educating their children. Eating is a beautiful and enjoyable thing. If children subconsciously associate \”eating\” with \”being disciplined\”, no matter how beautiful the meal is, it will become boring. There is a father who usually asks his children at the dinner table: \”Did anything good happen at school?\” \”What good performance did you have today?\” \”Did you gain anything today?\” \”Is there anything you need dad to help you with?\” Four simple questions allow children to feel cared for and supported, and also allow parents to understand their children\’s growth status, making the parent-child relationship more harmonious. When children are unwilling to talk, parents can first talk about some relaxing things at work to liven up the atmosphere and stimulate their children\’s desire to share. When children start talking, parents should guide them correctly in a timely manner and never criticize or accuse them harshly. Effective communication is communication that is unemotional, gentle, and firm. In this way, children will trust their parents more and share more with their parents. Study time, whether it is independent study or homework, requires cultivating good habits from an early age. If good habits are not established, it will not only cause trouble to the children, but also bring great pressure to the parents. Parents can follow the following three steps when accompanying their children to do homework: 1. Handle chores before doing homework. Sometimes, children are not focused enough on homework because of interference from the surrounding environment, such as the sound of TV, other people’s conversations, or being distracted. Toys on the table attract. It may also be that their own needs are not being met, such as drinking water, eating snacks, and going to the bathroom. Therefore, before children start doing homework, parents should create a quiet learning environment for them. And let the children make preparations: keep the table clean and leave no toys; meet physical needs in advance, such as drinking water and going to the toilet; if they are hungry, they can eat a snack first. Once you start working on your homework, stay focused and don\’t leave your seat. 2. Guide children to sort their homework. Parents can ask their children: What homework are there tonight? Which assignments are easy to write?Some? Which assignments are more difficult to write? Classify each day\’s homework one by one, and decide with your child the order in which they should be written. When doing homework, put a check mark after each item is completed, and then complete the next item. Doing so can help children develop planned and organized study habits. 3. Help children master the method of inspection. Some children are somewhat lacking in inspection ability. They think that everything will be fine after finishing their homework, and leave the inspection task to their parents or teachers. In fact, inspection is very important. If you master the inspection method, you will get twice the result with half the effort. Reading time Every child has the potential to love reading, the key lies in how parents guide them. 1. Stimulate enthusiasm for reading and discover the charm of reading. Why do some children lack enthusiasm for reading? The reason is that parents often choose books for their children based on their own understanding or the recommendations of others, but ignore their children\’s interests and preferences, making it difficult for them to invest in them. To cultivate children\’s reading habits, the first task is to stimulate their interest in reading. Parents can start from their children\’s interests and select some books they like to read. 2. Parents set an example and accompany their children to grow up and read together. Children will not readily accept just an instruction from their parents. But if parents lead by example, pick up a book and read quietly, their children will be happy to imitate. Parents\’ words and deeds at home often become a template for their children\’s future growth. 3. Share reading experience and accumulate knowledge. Parents can also share their reading experience and insights with their children, and deepen each other\’s understanding and memory through communication. Reading time before bed is a ritual where warmth and quality coexist. It can not only envelop the family in an atmosphere of love, but also effectively improve children\’s learning ability and inspire their love and pursuit of knowledge. During these three periods after children return home from school, children can enjoy relaxation and recreation, while also incorporating elements of learning and reading. Such an arrangement not only helps children form good living habits, but also creates a warm and happy time for the family. More importantly, by spending time together like this, both parents and children can grow together in each other\’s company and become better.