If parents don’t get rid of these problems in 2017, they will delay their children for another whole year! It’s still time to see it now

There is a little story: Once upon a time, there was a farmer who was doing farm work in the field and suddenly discovered a piece of jade. He was overjoyed and only wanted to turn the rough jade into a rare treasure. But the only tool in his hand was a hoe. He was anxious, but he did not find a way to find a professional craftsman to learn from, nor did he have the patience to think of other ways. Finally, he used a hoe to cut the good piece of jade into small pieces. The farmers took it to the market to sell it, and knowledgeable people said that this was a rare piece of jade, and if professional methods were used, it would be sold at a good price, but… the originally priceless jade was destroyed in this way. Many people will ask, what does this story have to do with educating children? In fact, when every child is born, it is like a piece of jade that is handed into the hands of his parents. Under your carving, the child gradually fades away from its original appearance and becomes your work. Different education methods will bring different lives to children. Youma knows a Chinese language teacher at a university. He is actually very good. He has been rated as an outstanding teacher for many years and has also brought out many outstanding students. But unfortunately, his only son did not have a good education. Once, I took Youyou for a walk on the playground, and we happened to meet the teacher flying a kite with his 6-year-old son. Youyou greeted them when he saw them, and he also asked the child to greet us, but at this time, the child was holding a remote control kite and was playing enthusiastically. I don’t know if he didn’t hear our conversation or ignored us completely. At this time, the teacher\’s tone became a little anxious, and he scolded the child a few words, saying that he was not polite. The child was also a bit stubborn. He still turned his head and looked angry. He was so angry that he raised his hand and slapped the child. Then he smiled at us awkwardly. Of course, he broke up unhappy in the end… The teacher\’s original intention may be… Good for the kids, but the 6-year-old may still have a vague concept of politeness. He is using a \”hoe\” to educate his children, which makes them run counter to his original wishes. Many excellent people, such as teachers and certain celebrities, fail to educate their children. The more one\’s own children are, the more impatient they are. People don\’t know that in education, haste makes waste. Everyone knows the story of trying to grow a seedling, but in real life, how many parents are doing the same thing! Every parent has wonderful expectations for their children. When their children do not develop according to your wishes, you will say some ugly words, \”Mud cannot support a wall\”, \”Rotten wood cannot be carved\”, etc. As everyone knows, it was your wrong tools that turned the child into a piece of rotten wood. From another perspective, even if your child is an ordinary piece of jade, if you carve it carefully, it can become a shiny and oily fine product. I have to mention a colleague of Youma. She has a good son who is envied by everyone. Every time she goes to his house as a guest, this child is very polite, brings tea and water, and has a very sweet mouth: he calls uncle and aunt non-stop, which is very lovable. The key is that the child\’s grades are very good. He is only in the third grade and is already a minor celebrity in the school. You may think that this mother must be very knowledgeable.This is the leader of the enterprise. In fact, she is just a cleaning lady in the company, but she is very popular and everyone in the company respects her. During a chat, I asked him how he raised such an outstanding son. Unexpectedly, she actually said: I don’t have much education, and I have no education, so I always worry that I can’t educate my children well. I often reflect on myself, am I qualified to be a mother? It turns out that every time her child makes a mistake, she doesn\’t blame her first, but reflects on herself first: What did I do wrong to make my son behave like this? Moreover, after reflection, she will review herself with her son, and ask her son to point out his shortcomings and work hard to improve. Mothers always reflect on themselves in this way. Sons should also learn from their mothers. If they make mistakes, they should reflect on themselves first and make themselves a good person. To be an excellent parent, you don\’t necessarily have to be highly educated. Maybe you won’t tell your children a lot of great truths, and you may even not be able to understand your children’s homework when they first enter elementary school, but these will not prevent you from being a good parent. Because real education lies in the little things in life. Remember, teaching by example always speaks louder than words! Youma feels that raising children is like producing a certain product. A child is like a highly sophisticated product, and the parents who produce this product should have higher and stricter quality requirements. But the reality is that all walks of life have various forms of assessments, and you must obtain corresponding certificates before you can get a job. But being a parent never requires any employment certificate. From the moment a child is born, parents have high expectations for their child, hoping that their child will become an excellent person in the future. But sometimes, your actions and your wishes often run counter to each other. There is such a funny short paragraph, describing the relationship between parents and children: When someone is not angry, the mother is kind and the son is filial, even hugging and hugging; when someone is angry, the chickens fly, the dogs jump, and the crows scream; the first second is like paint and glue, The sound will be cut in the next second; the love we give our children is like the sentence in \”The New Drunken Concubine\”: Love and hate are in an instant! I believe this is the current situation of many parents’ education for their children. Many parents do not love their children, but they use wrong education methods to harm their children. Instead of working hard to educate your children, you should always reflect on yourself: Am I qualified to be a parent? To become good parents, we must constantly enrich ourselves, improve ourselves, and work hard to learn the basic qualities and abilities of a qualified parent. In the process of educating our children, we must continue to learn and strive to obtain the \”Parent Employment Certificate\”. This is our responsibility to our children and our own family!