If parents have these characteristics, their children will most likely be academics.

Yesterday, a friend came to me and cried: \”I\’m so worried. Why can\’t this child\’s grades improve?\” Their son has been smart since he was a child and can learn everything quickly. For some reason, his grades plummeted after he entered sixth grade. In order to make up for his horsepower, his friend worked hard: he arranged a tutor every day after school, and the child had to do school and tutor homework after class; he had to attend school for two days on weekends. The cram schools are fully booked even on holidays. After one semester, the child\’s grades were among the top ten in the whole grade, but the child\’s energy was getting worse day by day, and his body had minor problems every day. Seeing the child\’s tired face, my friend felt distressed and worried, fearing that he would fall behind if he didn\’t pay attention. I understand her very well. Many parents have also fallen into this mentality. In order to keep their children from losing at the starting line, they can only push forward step by step. Unfortunately, most of them are unable to do so. Just like the mother of a top student at Peking University said: \”If the family education is not adequate, no matter how good the school education is, it will not help.\” The real children who are top academics do not depend on their family genes, nor on whether they work hard or not, but on the good intentions behind them. Bitter parents. Observing examples around me, I found that parents with these four characteristics are often more likely to raise children who excel in academics. Cultivate children\’s autonomy: If you raise children free of charge, you should only be a 60-point parent. Psychologist Zeng Qifeng has a classic view: \”The best mother is a 60-point mother.\” Unlike a 100-point mother, she takes charge of everything about her child in every detail. Things; unlike a 0-score mother, who completely ignores the needs of her children. A mother who scores 60 points only gives 60 points, leaving 40 points of growth space for her child to grow freely and cultivate his independence. A relative of mine is a so-called 100-point mother. Since having a child, she has taken care of all the child\’s food, clothing, housing and transportation. Starting from the morning, she brushes the children\’s teeth and washes their faces, makes breakfast, puts on clothes and shoes, prepares stationery and schoolbags, and then sends the children to school, instructing the class teacher on the children\’s living habits… She is like the child\’s full-time nanny who keeps going around, and the child drinks continuously. She had to unscrew the lid before passing the saliva. Later, when she entered elementary school, her child still couldn’t tie her shoes or button her shirt. Everyone advised her to let her go and let her exercise. But she didn\’t take it seriously: \”Why study this? It\’s important for the child to study!\” Indeed, the child\’s grades were pretty good and he was admitted to a key university. But because of his poor self-care ability, he often made jokes in front of his classmates and became very inferior. He also felt that he was a nerd in his heart and could do nothing except reading. What is even more unexpected is that because he could not adapt to the new environment, he finally dropped out of school and stopped studying. Now he is still living at home. Just because of the mother\’s excessive interference, the child who was supposed to have a bright future turned into a \”squishy person\” with low self-esteem and cowardice, who could be broken at a touch and could not endure hardship. A qualified parent should learn to care for their children freely and gradually reduce their personal care, instead of being a \”great parent\” who takes care of everything. Children\’s growth requires constant trial and error to develop a strong heart and strong character. Children who excel in academics need a strong heart to resist the loneliness and suffering in their long academic career; they also need the ability to be independent in order to thrive on their own trajectory. Pay attention to extracurricular education: take your children out to play more, thanMake-up lessons are 100 times better. Speaking of academic masters, many people’s first reaction is to think of “Brother Shui” Wang Yuheng. He graduated from the Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts and ranked first in the Tsinghua Design major in the college entrance examination. His professional score was 40 points higher than the second place. He has both talent and strength. He became famous in \”The Strongest Brain\”. And the biggest credit for this comes from my parents. Other parents force their children to focus on studying and stay at home to study, but Wang Yuheng\’s parents don\’t think so. They feel that extracurricular education is far more important than the knowledge in textbooks, and they often take him out to travel and get in touch with nature. Now that Wang Yuheng is a father himself, he also attaches great importance to extracurricular education. His daughter spent half the time playing outside with him. In addition to traveling, they stayed at the surrounding museums, aquariums, and botanical gardens for a whole afternoon. As he said: \”A child\’s world should not be filled with textbooks and grades. It should be full of vitality and colorful.\” At different ages, taking children out more can maintain curiosity and the courage to explore the world, and It’s not just about talking on paper. For ordinary families, we may not be able to travel far away, but there are many good ways to travel: 0-3 years old is the golden period for children’s brain development. You can take them to zoos, botanical gardens, and beaches to experience and Observe everything in the world. From 3 to 6 years old, when your child has a simple understanding, take him to farmhouses, amusement parks, and self-driving tours around the area. Give him more opportunities to interact with people and learn some social etiquette and hands-on skills. 6-12 years old is the most suitable age group for \”edutainment and entertainment\”. Visit museums and historical sites together to learn about local history and customs; you can also go hiking and study flowers, plants and insects to learn about the history, art and culture of your area. Customs and customs. Children who grow up in this environment often have a rich reserve of knowledge and a desire to explore new things. So, never create a small, boring paper world for your children. Take him to take long walks, climb high and see far away, and feel the charm of nature, so that he can have a more ambitious future. Accompany your children more than supervise them: Accompany your children to do their homework and find the joy of learning. There is a saying that if you don’t do your homework, your mother will be kind and your son will be filial. Every time my son does his homework, I get angry, my handwriting is sloppy, and I make the same mistake again and again. One time, I was so angry that I tore up his homework on the spot and asked him to write it again. Only after he had passed the review could he go to bed. In order to quickly complete the huge amount of homework, my son wrote even worse, worse than the first time. In the end, this battle ended with my compromise. Later, when I talked with a parent, she said: In fact, tutoring homework is not about tutoring, but about caring about the child\’s psychological feelings. If you yell, curse, or even use supervision to force your child to do homework, the child will not only be inefficient, but will also develop a rebellious mentality. More importantly, the child will become more and more resistant to learning. If you think about it carefully, this is indeed the case. Many times, when I was supervising his homework, he couldn\’t learn and was only thinking about how to deal with me. So later I went to study some educational methods, among which the experience of \”Legendary Mother\” Chen Meiling impressed me deeply. She said: My child is withLike other children, they also had common problems when they were young, such as being \”rebellious\”, \”partial to science\”, and \”playful\”. However, parents\’ education is very important. If they can give their children the right guidance in time, they can still raise their children to be excellent. In order to cultivate her children\’s interest in learning from an early age, she accompanied her children in their homework for six full years. During this period, she and her children would preview the next day\’s lessons and review the topics they didn\’t know how to do together. When you find your child lying, chat with him, guide him, and let him discover that learning is actually a happy thing. As for the subsequent results, her three sons all loved learning very much and were successfully admitted to Stanford University. Chen Meiling\’s education methods are simple and effective and suitable for almost all parents. It is already very difficult for children to face a lot of homework. We should use empathy, guidance and even small games instead of beating and scolding. Give them more time to think, accompany them to overcome difficulties and find the fun of learning. Pay attention to physical and mental health: Cultivate children to love sports. Have you noticed that when those who topped the college entrance examination in previous years shared their learning methods and skills, they almost all shared one thing, and that was sports. After all, without a healthy body, how can we have the capital to learn revolution? According to statistics, the impact of lack of exercise on children is very obvious: 30% of children are overweight or underweight due to lack of exercise, and their physical fitness has declined, which in turn affects their learning ability and performance. The number of myopic teenagers is growing rapidly, and their physical fitness is getting worse. A big reason is lack of exercise and long-term sedentary lifestyle. Exercising more can not only strengthen the body, but also promote brain development and help children improve their intelligence: through the function of the motor nervous system, children can learn balance ability; through the function of the sensory nervous system, children can observe, compare, analyze, and evaluate to lay a solid foundation for one\’s own intellectual development. More far-sighted parents also know how to use sports to help their children complete frustration education. There is a parent in Changsha who has set \”family rules\” for his son since he was 9 years old: he must have enough outdoor exercise every day, and he is not allowed to do homework until he plays for two hours. With long-term training, children have learned skiing, rock climbing, kayaking and other difficult sports very early. More importantly, he can release the pressure of study and become strong and perseverant in sports. Whether in life or study, he never gives up easily. Dr. Seidez, an American psychology professor, said: People are like shaping ceramics. What kind of education they give when they are young will determine what kind of prototype they will become. So, don’t blindly suppress your children and blame them for not working hard. Wise parents can empower their children. Even if their children have mediocre qualifications, they can still produce an outstanding child with love. Light up \”Like\”, I hope all parents can do these 4 points and accompany their children to make progress together!