If parents ignore this point, their children cannot be well-educated!

On the way home from get off work, I ran into a relative. As we chatted, she started talking about her daughter. She was very distressed because her daughter had been disobedient. After entering adolescence, his behavior became more arrogant. In the past few days, he actually contradicted the teacher in class. In the end, he stopped attending class and mingled with people in society every day. Relatives said: You know how much energy I spent on cultivating her since she was a child? She learns dancing, painting, and the extremely expensive violin, just to hope that she will grow up to be promising and educated! But now it has become like this! What should I do? … She was so excited that she burst into tears. It was obvious that she was really sad. But I really couldn\’t say a word except a sigh. Because the current situation has long been doomed. Many years ago, this relative and I lived in the same community. When we had free time, we would often go shopping and buy groceries together, and we would take care of each other. At that time, her daughter had just turned four years old. She was well-behaved and sensible, with a pair of clever big eyes that was very attractive. But what happened next was worrying. One evening, we took our children to buy groceries together. When buying meat, my relatives started yelling at the vendor because I was short of a few cents. It was obvious that the vendor was also a snobbish person, and he also spoke rudely when his relatives cursed. Now the relative became anxious, threw away the basket, rushed to the stall and began to scold him. His loud voice and dirty words attracted many people to watch. I quickly took my child to break up the fight, forget it, forget it! The child is still here, and there is no need to pay for anything… But the relatives are very angry, so how can they be willing to listen? He continued to use the most obscene language to attack the other party, and at the end of the scolding war, he almost made a move. It was not until the market coordinator intervened that the turmoil subsided. I actually knew this relative\’s competitive personality from previous contacts, but I was really surprised to see him scolding him in public for a few cents. Afterwards, I kindly reminded her several times. The key was that I was worried that her behavior could easily affect the growth of her child. But my relative glanced at me and said disapprovingly, \”How can I be so exaggerated?\” ! What does such a big kid know? Her dad and I often quarrel at home, but it’s okay! Hearing what she said, I was even more shocked. It is said that children are copies of their parents, and children are discerning. The bad words and deeds of adults are like evil seeds planted in children\’s hearts, which will one day take root and sprout. Soon, the first seeds of sin sprouted. At that time, my child was in the first grade of elementary school. One morning, I received a call from the school teacher. The teacher said that the child’s parents could not be reached on the phone. My phone number was left in the contact box, so he called me. This child got into a fight with a classmate and killed his classmate. His face was torn. I rushed to school in a hurry, only to learn that this child liked a piece of colored eraser belonging to a classmate and wanted it to be given to her. When the classmate refused, she rushed forward and pushed him to the ground. The classmate cried and called the teacher. She immediately scratched the classmate\’s face. The teacher said that she also cursed many shocking and unpleasant curses… I said I\’m sorry countless times, but the teacher couldn\’t help but muttered: This The child is so uneducated! When I sent my child home, I seriously reminded my relatives to pay attention and be careful about my words and deeds! But after the relatives heard the whole story, not only did they notWhen criticizing a child, a hint of pride comes out of his mouth, saying, as long as his child doesn\’t suffer, it\’s fine. The other child deserves to be fussy about something as big as a piece of eraser! I was immediately speechless. But in my heart, I was really worried about my child\’s future. After so many years, maybe relatives still don’t understand why the child is like this? In fact, this evil consequence had been planted by her relatives many years ago. Sadly, she had no idea. A child is like a piece of snow-white paper, waiting for the world to paint it with various colors. And her words and deeds are the upbringing shown by her parents. It is your words and deeds that make your child what she is now. Your child\’s words and deeds are like a mirror that reflects the appearance of your soul. I once met a child who felt as warm as a spring breeze. At that time, our company had just moved into the downstairs of his house. One midsummer afternoon, he knocked on the door of the company, bowed to us first, and said: Mom asked me to ask my uncle and aunt, what are your working hours? I have to practice piano and take exams during the summer vacation, but I can’t disturb your work, so I’m here to ask! The little boy looked about seven or eight years old and was polite and polite. We immediately liked him and happily told him that he could just play the piano after get off work at 5:30. In the days that followed, the little boy kept his promise, and his beautiful music could be heard every time he got off work. Occasionally when I work overtime, I don’t feel noisy when accompanied by the sound of the piano. On the contrary, I feel relieved of fatigue. But not long after, we didn\’t hear the little boy playing the piano for a long time. Everyone was puzzled, as if something was missing in life. Finally, one day after get off work, I met the little boy in the elevator. We all asked in unison, why don’t you practice piano? \”Oh, uncles and aunts, the grandpa next door to me is sick and has just returned home from surgery. Mom said that grandpa doesn\’t sleep well, so he just squints for a while at five or six o\’clock in the afternoon. I can\’t disturb grandpa. So I go to the piano room to practice every day. .\” The little boy answered seriously. He raised the music score in his hand and smiled happily. No one said anything else, but they all praised him silently: What a well-educated child! Sometimes the real education is hidden in the little details. A child\’s inadvertent little action reflects the parents\’ great upbringing. I heard from the restaurant proprietress that the child\’s father is a doctor and his mother is a teacher. The family are very polite and the neighbors like to deal with them. Although I have never met his parents, I know that his parents must be gentle, well-educated people. I have imagined their family together countless times in my mind: the night is dark and the lights are dim. The mother was talking to her son with a gentle face, and the father was sitting on the sofa reading quietly with a book in his hand. All the hustle and bustle of the world was shut out by the tranquility of this room… I saw that love filled the entire family like air, flowing around the children every minute and every second. Children nurtured by this kind of good family tradition will definitely become adults even if they do not become talents when they grow up. Even if you don\’t achieve success, you will definitely gain a happy and open-minded life. I have been engaged in education for six years. Many people have asked me, how to educate naughty children well? I answer: Among the large number of naughty children I come into contact with, there is often a naughty parent behind them. Let’s talk about how to educate bear children well. Let’s first talk about how to educate bear parents well. The education of children is the education of their parents, and the quality of children is the quality of their parents. You run a red light and cross the road but you want your children to obey traffic rules; you litter everywhere but you want your children to take care of public sanitation; you often swear and make rude remarks but you want your children to be polite people; I\’m sorry, please forgive your child for doing this. Is it difficult? If your child is not well educated, and you refuse to find the reasons for yourself, but put all the responsibilities on the teacher, I\’m sorry, can you please forgive the teacher for this difficult time? If parents cannot be educated, their children cannot be educated either. True education is like one tree shaking another tree, one cloud pushing another cloud, one soul awakening another soul. It is a silent process of moisturizing things. Those in front only need to set a good example, and those who follow will follow suit. Parents are the signposts and beacons on the road ahead for their children. Your current behavior and education are your children\’s future and distance. If you also want to raise well-educated children, then please remember one thing: first turn your own character into wine and merge it into the spring of life of your child, so that the fragrance can linger throughout the child\’s future years. Finally, we watched a foreign creative advertising film. The film used the most straightforward pictures to tell a truth: parents are the windows through which children see the world. Only by correcting their own words and deeds can children see the beautiful scenery.