If parents make a wrong step in love, their children will have endless detours in the future.

The overwhelming news every day is full of various problems of \”original families\”. One wrong step by parents will lead to endless detours for their children in the future. In the past few years, many of my friends have become parents. The topic of the party unknowingly changed from entertainment gossip to marriage and parenting. Every time I chat with them, I can\’t help but lament that it\’s so difficult to be a parent now. Compared with the huge mental pressure, the rising prices are nothing to mention. My best friend who just gave birth to a child studies hard with parenting guidance almost every day, but she often laments that the more she learns, the less capable she is of raising a child. If you love too little, you won\’t be able to give your child a sense of security. If you love too much, you\’ll develop a white-eyed wolf. It seems that no matter what you do, it\’s wrong. There is nothing wrong with the love of parents, but the wrong thing is that mothers worry too much about the timing of love. Once, my best friend and I went to buy daily necessities for the baby, and we met a mother and daughter buying stationery in the Children\’s Town. The little girl looked like she was seven or eight years old, following her mother from shelf to shelf. Every time she came to a shelf, her mother read the product descriptions carefully, sometimes shaking her head, and sometimes throwing things into the shopping cart with satisfaction. After purchasing all the items, her mother pulled her daughter out of the store with satisfaction. The little girl kept to herself the whole time, touching and looking here and there, as if this shopping trip had nothing to do with her. My best friend couldn\’t help but sigh: \”Look at how much worry you have to worry about as a mother now. You can\’t buy anything less.\” To be honest, being so tired is not necessarily a good thing. Parents always feel that their children have no ability to judge and like to buy things that are not useful but are of good quality, while the things they choose are often of high quality and low price. However, those who can do more work are not suitable for children\’s education. Today, you can help her choose a pencil and an eraser. But in the future, how many decisions can parents help their children make? I think of the recent news about 8-year-old He Yide, the \”naked runner\”, who applied for admission to Nanjing University. News: 8-year-old \”naked running brother\” applied for admission to Nanjing University. As early as five years ago, He Yide\’s \”Eagle Dad\” was famous for letting his children run in the snow at minus 13 degrees. His devilish training methods caused great controversy at the time. , and now it has returned to people\’s attention because of the news of applying for college. The Beijing News conducted an interview with this \”Eagle Dad\” and raised many questions about his educational methods and high-intensity schedule for homeschooling his children. The \”Eagle Dad\”\’s answer was very surprising. ▲ Eagle father and son He said that his son likes this kind of life in his heart because he has a sense of accomplishment and pride. A low-quality relationship with classmates will not help his son at all. Your own education method can cultivate your child\’s self-discipline and give him a clear advantage over his peers. As a father, he feels he is successful. One of the reporter\’s questions caught my attention. He asked \”Eagle Dad\” what kind of person he hopes to cultivate his child into. \”Eagle Dad\” said that I hope he will become an entrepreneur. As for the specific industry, he needs to decide by himself. This is like saying, in order for you to protect yourself, I will give you a sword. I spent a lot of time sharpening this sword for you, you just need to use it. However, you have never taught your child to use a sword. When life comes like a scourge, how do you ask him to protect himself? This sword is the ability to choose, an indispensable ability in life. But it’s not talent, it’s nurtureA quality developed. Parents always want to make a good choice for their children so that they can avoid detours. But they don\’t know that their love and protection have cut off their children\’s escape. As a parent, let alone whether your choice is really better than your child\’s, aren\’t you afraid of just thinking about his hesitant and confused look one day when you are not by his side? To be honest, I don\’t know if \”Naked Runner\” would know what to do if one day he had the opportunity to make a choice for himself. Choice is more important than effort. Many parents let their children forget the story of choosing fish and water. One day, two small fish were swimming in the water, and suddenly they met an old fish swimming from the opposite side and nodded to them: Good morning, boys. . How is it in the water? The little fish continued to swim forward for a while, and one of them finally couldn\’t bear it anymore. He looked at the other one and asked, \”What is water?\” \”This is the beginning of the speech delivered by the American writer David Foster Wallace at the Kenyon College graduation ceremony in 2005. This beuw rated it as one of the top ten most powerful graduation speeches in the United States. It was only a short one on Youtube. Four million people have watched it this week. This story illustrates a truth: the simplest and most common things in the world are often the easiest to be ignored. Just like parents only see that their love makes their children more and more successful, But they can’t see that their children are losing the ability to choose step by step. People often say that choice is more important than hard work. The greatest sorrow for parents is that they teach their children to work hard all the way, but make them forget how to choose their own path. Good parents Everyone knows how to let their children make mistakes. Over-protection often cuts off the child\’s future. A little girl selling pineapple ice cream has a widely circulated pineapple ice cream advertisement in Thailand. A mother and daughter selling pineapples are very poor, and their daughter is very envious when she sees the children eating ice cream. , but the mother had no money, so she froze the pineapple and gave it to her daughter to eat as ice cream. The daughter thought it was delicious and said she wanted to sell it in the market. However, she hawked \”do you want to buy pineapple ice cream\” all day long, but no one was there? Patronize her. The daughter went home frustrated and asked her mother why no one bought such delicious ice cream. The mother told her, go to the market and see how others sell things. The daughter went to the market to observe for a day and replied thoughtfully. When she got home, she made a small poster and stuck it outside the thermostatic box containing ice cream. The next day, when she went to sell pineapple ice cream, she changed her lines into \”Icy cold pineapple ice cream\” and \”5 baht each, 10 3 baht.\” This time, she finally sold a lot of ice cream and returned home with a full load. In front of the camera, her mother said: \”I\’m glad that she learned from the experience and solved the problem on her own. In this way, one day I won\’t be around her, and I know she will live a good life. The best inheritance that parents can give their children is not bankbooks and real estate, but teaching them how to live independently, learn, and explore. Trying will inevitably bring risks, and no one can be sure what impact today\’s decisions will have tomorrow. But life is a harsh teacher. The exams you missed today will definitely be made up for tomorrow. Every parent is worried that their child will take the wrong path, so they are cautious and careful every step, but do you care about their child?Protecting him often cuts off his escape route. There is a saying that goes well, don\’t be too good to one person, no one can commit to anyone for a lifetime. This sentence also applies between parents and children. Good parents know how to let their children make mistakes. At an age when he can make mistakes, and when he learns to make choices about things he can make mistakes, is the best love that parents can give their children.