If raising a baby is a college entrance examination…

Not long ago, news broke in Taiwan’s entertainment industry that Sun Anzuo, the son of famous movie star Di Ying, was arrested in the United States. Once upon a time, Di Ying talked about her parenting experience in \”The Coming of Kangxi\”. In order to keep her child well-nourished, Di Ying said: \”I watch him eat for seven hours a day.\” On average, each meal lasts more than two hours. She also proudly showed off: \”I made him gain five kilograms in one month.\” It was all due to her keeping an eye on her child as he ate. Hearing this, the upright little S and Cai Yongkang exclaimed: \”This is a horror movie!\” This almost harsh requirement for children runs through Sun Anzuo\’s entire life. You must get 100 points in the exam, otherwise you will be beaten until your butt is blown. You can’t watch cartoons, play games, or go to your classmates’ houses. Must go to bed before 9 o\’clock at night. Di Ying never respected her children\’s choices, and Sun Anzuo\’s entire life was under her \”control\”. In the end, the child became mentally broken and embarked on the path of crime. The police found a pistol, a bulletproof vest and more than 1,000 rounds of ammunition from his home. It can be said that Di Ying\’s parenting was a failure. She used the phrase \”I\’m all for you\” to deprive her children of their lives and became an out-and-out dictator. In the end, he destroyed his children and himself. As Dante said, all tyrants in this world commit violence in the name of love, but they are not love. Zhou Guoping said that loving children is an instinct, and respecting children is a kind of education. Lu Xun once said that the first priority in raising children is understanding and respect. When a child comes into this world, he is an independent individual with independent thoughts. Previously, Du Jiang took his son to participate in \”Where Are We Going, Dad?\” The four-year-old Uh-huh gained a large number of fans because of his innocence and clear brain circuitry. But at the beginning of the show, when the toys were about to be put away by the village chief, he cried loudly. Many viewers felt that he was squeamish, crying, and not as \”obedient\” as other children. Indeed, from an adult\’s point of view, hmm, this child is indeed \”not well-behaved\”. He does not put the overall situation first and does not hide his little thoughts. But how many parents use their own wishful thinking to interfere in their children\’s choices, ignore their children\’s ideas, and forcefully implant it into their children\’s lives. But the most basic and most important respect is missing. Huo Siyan once said in the video that her son can wear women\’s clothes for the girl he loves, or he can be a boy. As long as he\’s happy. This sentence \”As long as you are happy\” makes people admire Huo Siyan\’s open-mindedness and wisdom. Growing up, the things we heard most were \”You have to be obedient\”, \”You have to be sensible\”, \”You can\’t…\”, but few people have asked us what do you like? what do you want? are you happy? In the TV series \”Tiger Mom and Cat Dad\”, Bi Shengnan, played by Zhao Wei, has spent a lot of money on the issue of children\’s education. In order for her 5-year-old daughter, Xixi, to attend Beijing No. 1 Primary School, she relied on connections and sold her house to get a loan. The children\’s spare time is all taken up. Piano, composition, and mathematics take turns. Later, the \”tiger\” education was upgraded in disguise, and the smiles on the children\’s faces became less and less, and they became timid, timid, and depressed. Finally, the doctor diagnosed autism. From then on, Sissi hid in the hut alone and never spoke again. Zhao Wei feels ashamedFeeling guilty, I remembered that when I first gave birth to my daughter, the fetal umbilical cord was wrapped around the neck, and there was a thin line between life and death. She once said personally that as long as the child is safe, healthy and happy, everything else will be fine. However, he never imagined that he would drive his child to a dead end step by step. Raising children is like a college entrance examination. We all do our homework before the exam. In the exam, there are surprises and difficulties. We are fully expecting to deliver a satisfactory answer. However, too many external noises disrupt our original intention. Vanity, competitiveness, and desire to make amends… make us no longer calm on the road to raising children. You have to focus on key points, you have to strive for the three bests, you have to get into a prestigious school. When you devote your ideals to your children, let them make up for your shortcomings in life. When you use the family card of \”everything is for your own good\” to deprive children of their freedom, you are creating a disaster. My father often said to me, we have raised you as a person, but we cannot raise your heart. You still have to decide everything by yourself. Although the words are rough, it is the truth. If you cannot understand and respect your child\’s decision, it will hinder your child\’s growth and easily go astray. It is undeniable that every parent hides their love for their children in their words and deeds, but the world of children is different from the world of adults. If you just blindly impose requirements without mutual understanding and respect, then you can only use irreparable Injure yourself to prove your original fault. I also want to be a parent, so I have to examine myself three times every day. The care for children should be like Rabindranath Tagore\’s poem: \”Let my love surround you like sunshine, and at the same time give you dazzling freedom.\” This is not a war or game, this is a practice of love, I\’ll only accompany you for one ride. At this point, Queen Faye Wong has done a great job. Unlike other mothers, after Faye Wong\’s divorce, many media people would criticize Faye Wong for not accompanying her children. But facts prove that this is not the case. Although she is divorced, she still cares deeply about her two daughters. In fact, for children, respect and understanding are far more important than low-quality companionship and dedication. Dou Jingtong and Li Yan both love Faye Wong as a mother because she knows what is best for her children. She will respect Dou Jingtong\’s dress and understand that her daughter chooses music instead of studying. She would accompany Li Yan to the observatory to watch the stars every spring and autumn equinox, respecting Li Yan\’s taste and ideas. So her children are very confident and sunny. Life is only once for a child. The unique significance of this nurturing college entrance examination is that this time, it determines the child\’s life, and there is no chance to review it. Truly smart parents do not exercise their \”privilege\” to interfere in their children\’s lives, but fully affirm and respect their children. This is where their children\’s future lies.