If the little baby falls, don\’t cry. Get up and go again.

In modern society, most children grow up in a honeypot. They are used to everything going smoothly and often don\’t know how to deal with setbacks. Some children turn to their parents and teachers for help when they encounter problems. Even the failure to treat setbacks correctly has led to irreversible tragedies. For example, after reading the following example, people can’t help but feel sorry for the child’s poor ability to resist setbacks: Xiaomei is a junior high school student who usually studies My grades have never been very good, and I always feel that I am inferior to other students. Although she worked hard and studied very hard, her academic performance has not improved, perhaps because of her poor foundation. In addition, her classmates did not like playing with her very much. Over time, she began to give up on herself. Finally, one night, she swallowed half of the bottle of sleeping pills at home. Fortunately, she was discovered by her family in time, and her young life was saved after being rescued. However, after that, she found it difficult to face the reality, and finally asked to drop out of school… A 12-year-old boy was expelled from school for violating discipline. After returning home, the boy committed suicide, leaving only his grieving parents and a school that did not foresee such serious consequences… Why do teenagers face such a serious situation? Why can\’t we deal with setbacks in the right way? Children are young and tend to go to extremes. This is a sign of their own immature personality. However, parents’ daily education should also be responsible for children’s inability to face setbacks. If parents can teach their children how to behave correctly as early as possible, Positively face and solve difficulties, teach children how to adjust their mentality in the face of setbacks and meet challenges, and similar tragedies will not happen. So, how should we teach our children to face setbacks? Nowadays, many \”bad\” parents have accepted the concept of \”frustration education\”, that is, under the guidance of science, setting some difficulties for children that are beneficial to their physical and mental development and growth, inspiring and promoting children to use their hands and brains to solve problems, so that they can Develop the habit of being willing to try, have the courage to overcome difficulties, and dare to withstand setbacks, thereby guiding children to gradually get rid of dependence and cultivate their ability to adapt to the environment and their ability to withstand setbacks. \”Bad\” parents should be able to be \”cruel\” in order to successfully educate their children about frustrations. First of all, \”bad\” parents must guide their children to correctly understand setbacks. To implement frustration education for children, we must first let the children get rid of dependence. As parents, we should give our children the opportunity to face reality. We should let our children experience the ups and downs. Whether it is happiness, disappointment, or pain, we must let our children experience it on their own. Only in this way can our children have enough ability to face various challenges in the future. All kinds of ups and downs and challenges. Children are children after all. They will make mistakes and be confused, but it doesn\’t matter. What parents need to do is to tell them that they should find their own solutions when they encounter difficulties and failures. Only by allowing children to experience and recognize setbacks in the process of overcoming difficulties can they develop their ability and mentality to not be afraid of setbacks. Secondly, parents should focus on cultivating their children\’s psychological endurance in the face of setbacks so that they will not be easily defeated by setbacks. When ordinary people encounter difficulties and failures, they often develop negative emotions and engage in behaviors such as avoidance and withdrawal.It is even worse for children. Therefore, as a parent, you should consciously set some tasks for your children that are difficult but not difficult for them to do. When children encounter difficulties and retreat or escape, they can also show dissatisfaction and criticize, thereby improving the child\’s psychological endurance. Of course, when children suffer setbacks, parents still need to give appropriate encouragement to their children to inspire them to face setbacks. courage. Finally, we must understand that self-confidence is an indispensable quality for children when facing setbacks. As parents, we should strengthen the cultivation of children\’s self-confidence on daily basis. Self-confidence is a powerful internal motivation that can inspire people to open up wisdom and pursue goals unremittingly. Therefore, while parents give their children setbacks, they should also pay special attention to enhancing their children\’s self-confidence to resist setbacks. They should use encouraging words to accompany their children when they face setbacks, so that they believe they can do well. The following example tells us how to educate children to face setbacks in a positive and effective way: When faced with the small mistakes that his children occasionally make, Xiao Li\’s father always resolves them by joking. When Xiao Li was in elementary school, his father never set any obstacles for Xiao Li. Even if it was to cultivate the child\’s tolerance in facing difficulties, he never deliberately created any setbacks for the child. However, in the first exam after entering junior high school, Xiao Li, who had always done very well, ranked 20th in the class. As soon as he entered the house, the dejected Xiao Li couldn\’t help crying. When the father heard that his son was crying very sadly, he patted his shoulder and said, \”Can crying solve the problem? Do you think that if you cry, you will do well in the exam next time?\” Then, the father told Xiao Li to be serious. Analyze the real reason why you didn\’t do well in the exam this time, and teach your son not to underestimate the enemy and not to be afraid of failure. Sure enough, in another small test two months later, Xiao Li\’s performance improved significantly. Xiao Li was very happy. When he told his father the good news, his father said: \”I will teach you another trick: Remember, if you encounter any difficulties in the future, treat it as a test for you. You must Think about it, how can we solve it!\” Then, Dad told Xiao Li many stories of successful people growing up despite setbacks. Later, whenever Xiao Li encountered difficulties, he would think of his father\’s words and no longer get discouraged as easily as before. Instead, he would analyze to himself why he encountered such difficulties and what he should do to solve them… Slowly Slowly, as he grew up, Xiao Li was able to face setbacks calmly. Therefore, from the above examples, we know that even \”bad\” parents cannot bear the setbacks on their children\’s behalf. Instead, they must guide their children to analyze the causes of setbacks and try to fundamentally change them. In addition, if parents can set certain setbacks for their children from an early age, it will also play a great role in cultivating their children\’s ability to face setbacks. I believe that many parents have already tried to do this. In the process of setting these difficulties, it is recommended that Parents should pay attention to several issues: First, the setting of difficulties must be moderate and appropriate. The situation set for the child must have a certain degree of difficulty. It should not only cause the child\’s frustration, but it should not be too difficult. It should be the kind of situation that the child can overcome through hard work or jump around.Just within reach. At the same time, children should not face too many problems at one time, so as not to create a negative mentality in the child. Excessive setbacks will damage the child\’s self-confidence and enthusiasm, causing the child to have an excessive sense of frustration, leading to a loss of interest and confidence. Secondly, when children encounter difficulties and shrink back, parents must learn to encourage their children appropriately and let them realize that people will encounter many setbacks in life. The key lies in how we correctly understand and treat these setbacks. Only by mustering up the courage to work hard towards Only in the past can we finally overcome difficulties and overcome setbacks. In addition, when children make great efforts and achieve certain results, they should be affirmed in time so that they can see their abilities and face new difficulties with more confidence. Also, when parents set up frustrating situations for their children, if the child still cannot solve the difficulty after trying many times to overcome it, the parents should give the child specific help in a timely manner and never let the child try to be completely frustrated. Feeling, that will have the opposite effect, making the child unable to recover when faced with setbacks. Finally, it is necessary to create more opportunities for children to communicate with partners, so that they can discover the existence of viewpoints different from their own, so that they can better understand others and themselves, and overcome the bad habit of being self-centered. When children learn how to get along well with and cooperate with others through constant training, on the one hand they can better maintain their status among their partners; on the other hand, mutual communication and guidance among peers can also help children better Overcome difficulties and solve problems. \”Bad\” parents will still face their children with a smile after their children encounter setbacks. Don\’t be unhappy with your children. When children encounter setbacks, parents can tell their children some of their own experiences of frustration and try to teach them how to think when facing setbacks. This is the most useful thing.