If these abilities are not developed in children before going to school, it will be too late when the children grow up.

Mian\’s father has a female colleague who has a daughter at home who has just entered elementary school this year. Since the child entered school, the family, including the child himself, has been in \”dire straits\”. Every day, he is either anxious about his schoolwork or about his child\’s life in school. worry. Compared with kindergartens where all the children sit together and there are no fixed seats, primary school classrooms are indeed very unfamiliar to children who have just entered primary school. In front of learning and social problems, just adapting to having to sit in a classroom every day It is very difficult for some children to sit on their own fixed desks and chairs. As for the issue of learning, whether it is the kindergarten itself offering some teaching courses or the various cram schools that parents have let their children attend, children are more often urged to learn knowledge. By the time they reach elementary school, children who do not have the habit of independent learning often It\’s easy to get left behind. After all, the teacher has dozens of children in charge, and it\’s impossible and he doesn\’t have the time to keep an eye on each one individually. The interpersonal relationship is more complicated. Different from the simple interpersonal relationship between classmates in kindergarten, in elementary school, friction or conflicts between students cannot be easily solved by \”looking for a teacher\”. Getting along with each other and making new partners will bring more challenges to children. If not handled well, it may even cause the child to feel bored and fearful of school. Therefore, before children enter school, or even before entering kindergarten, parents should give priority to cultivating some basic abilities that are related to the quality of their children\’s future life and learning, compared to the endless training classes for various specialties! Children with basic language skills generally begin to learn to organize language between the ages of 1 and 3. Compared with early responses to their caregivers with simple single words, at this stage children will learn how to use long sentences to express themselves more completely. need. At this stage, parents often ignore one issue, and that is the accuracy of the child\’s speech. Due to various practical problems, most children will be cared for and raised by their parents and grandparents before entering school. Due to living environment and historical reasons, most of the grandparents may use various dialects in their daily communication language with heavy tones, and children are in the stage of language enlightenment. , are heavily influenced by the outside world. When many children begin to learn pinyin literacy, they will find that some pronunciation habits developed since childhood are difficult to correct. For example, affected by the pronunciation habits of dialects in certain areas, some teenagers and even adults cannot properly distinguish between flat tongue, raised tongue, and even clear and voiced nasal sounds when speaking or even reading. Most of these problems are caused by preschoolers who are still learning to speak. The language habits developed during this period will not only affect future study, work and even various interpersonal interactions, but may also indirectly affect the learning and application of foreign languages. Basic visual perception ability Visual perception ability refers to the ability of the human brain to interpret the visible light information reaching the eyes and use it to plan or act. Among them, the spatial perception ability has the greatest impact on children\’s future learning and life. Take graffiti painting as an example. Most younger children have no concept of the size and distance of reference objects when painting. Therefore, when you browse the paintings of most young children, you can find the people and trees on the canvas. ,Small animalsObjects such as these are all presented in strange proportions, like a child\’s drawing of a puppy, which often has an oversized head with a small torso, which is very funny. In fact, this is because preschool children have insufficient spatial perception ability. Without training, they cannot accurately perceive the distance, shape, and size of objects. And if this situation continues until the child enters school, it is very likely that the child will encounter various problems in daily studies: always confusing similar letters or numbers, and mistaking the radical parts of words when learning to write. Write extremely large, etc. Therefore, it is very important to strengthen children\’s spatial perception in preschool. Parents can try to train their children by letting them build more toys such as building blocks and jigsaw puzzles, or they can also let their children trace some pattern lines to enhance their perception of line space: Among the stupid ways we practice calligraphy, copywriting is also the simplest and most effective. Methods. Basic Motor Ability Mian Ma once wrote about how before children go to kindergarten, parents need to teach their children basic self-care skills in order to adapt to a new environment (kindergarten) that is completely different from the early family upbringing environment. The basic movement ability mentioned here is actually an upgrade of self-care ability, because in kindergarten, children may only need to master some of the simplest basic movements: putting on simple clothes by themselves, going to the toilet by themselves, holding a cup to drink water by themselves when they are thirsty, etc. wait. However, when children are about to enter school, the requirements for children\’s motor abilities are getting higher and higher. After entering school, children may need to learn to wear more complicated clothes, tie their own shoelaces, organize their desks or drawers, help with cleaning, etc. Children\’s learning, adaptation and even upgrading of these motor abilities are all related to school life. Adjustment is closely related and determines whether a child can live happily in a school class alone. Basic Mathematics Abilities Cultivating children\’s basic mathematics abilities is not just for the sake of children\’s mathematics performance. Basic math skills can have a huge impact on all subjects a child learns, and even on their daily lives to some extent. Almost all subjects will have certain requirements for basic mathematics ability. Laying a good foundation in mathematics will not only make it easier for children to learn other courses with half the effort, but also greatly activate children\’s way of thinking and logical ability. To cultivate children\’s basic mathematical abilities from an early age, parents can start from every aspect of daily life, expose their children to numbers or number-related things, and integrate learning mathematics into the details of daily life to improve children\’s enthusiasm. Basic Rule Perception and Self-Control Ability Many parents feel that my children are still young and they just need to do what they like, and there is no need to use rules to restrict their freedom. However, in Mian\’s mother\’s view, no matter whether it is a babbling child or an elderly person, life events cannot escape certain rules. As children grow up, they need parents to constantly use \”rules\” to regulate their behavior. Only by allowing children to have basic rule perception can they integrate into the general rhythm of society normally. A sense of rules allows children to learn how not to offend others and not be offended by others in social interactions. And there are rulesChildren also need to have the ability to control themselves, so that children can stay away or control themselves not to touch the bottom line of the rules. Many times the annoying behaviors of the naughty children we are discussing come from these children. There is neither a sense of rules nor the ability to control oneself. If things go on like this, these children will eventually touch the bottom line of more stringent and dangerous rules, and even cause catastrophe. Parents can start from instilling the simplest rules to training their children to learn various rules on their own. In this process, everything from basic public moral education to family life details are all good practice objects. In addition, the following abilities are also crucial for children\’s growth and even their future work and life in society: The ability of self-awareness. Self-awareness is the insight and correct understanding of oneself. We criticize a person for being proud or inferior, To a large extent, it comes from the deviation in this person\’s perception of himself. And finding one\’s own position is extremely important for people\’s life, work and study. From choosing hobbies and specialties, to learning methods, and even future lifestyle and career choices, you need to have a clear understanding of yourself. The beginning of self-awareness begins with understanding the world. Encouraging children to read and observe from an early age and expanding their horizons are all a way to cultivate children\’s self-awareness. Parents should also adapt to their children\’s talents or hobbies and not artificially Influence your children\’s choices based on your own knowledge. The ability to empathize is the ability of a person to think about problems from the standpoint or perspective of others, to understand the basic emotions of others, and to perceive and offer sympathy and help when the other person is in pain. This is the ability to empathize. Empathy is one of the necessary abilities for a person to live in a collective society. A person who lacks the ability to empathize will find it difficult to live well no matter what social environment he is in. Children with good empathy are more likely to have good interpersonal relationships, and they are also more likely to have sufficient happiness themselves. To cultivate children\’s empathy, parents need to set a good example for their children. When their children have emotional problems, they need to take the initiative to empathize with their children and accept their children\’s emotions. The ability to take responsibility calmly is related to a person\’s integrity. When you encounter any problem, the first thing you think of is to escape. In fact, you will not gain anyone\’s trust. To cultivate children\’s ability to take responsibility, parents must start by unloading their own \”responsibility burden\”. Only when parents no longer take responsibility for their children can children truly see the responsibilities on their shoulders: the child is delayed in going to the park. During play time, parents will only urge, push their children forward, and rush with them to catch up on time; if their children do not do their homework seriously, parents will be anxious first and help check and revise, so that their children will not be punished when they go to school the next day. Critics naturally don’t know that it is their responsibility to do their homework well, so they fall into an endless loop. Only when parents first put down their own \”heavy burdens\” and let their children experience the consequences of irresponsibility can change be possible. The ability to think independently has the same impact on a child’s life as basic math ability has on a child’s learning. Children who do not have the ability to think independently haveThe child is always like someone else\’s marionette. It only moves when you pull it. Parents should give their children ample opportunities and time to think independently, and not be afraid of their children making mistakes in the process of self-thinking, because mistakes made through independent thinking (parents grasp the bottom line) can leave a deep impression on their children, and Only by making continuous progress and not following what others say can we have the possibility to control our own destiny.