If this happens between babies, adults must not force it

When two or three-year-old babies get together to play, the drama of grabbing toys will happen at any time. Although in the eyes of adults, this is nothing more than a trivial matter, and sometimes I even think the disputes between cute kids are a bit cute. However, for children, learning to deal with toy snatching incidents is an important part of the process of cultivating social skills. So, what should we do when babies conflict with each other over toys? Don’t force the baby to share. If the baby refuses to give his toys to other children to play with, then what we have to do is respect his wishes. In fact, the refusal of a two- or three-year-old baby to share is a sign of the development of property rights awareness, and this is also the basis for establishing a sharing awareness in the future – babies need to know what is their own and what is others\’, and understand that there is ownership of items. , and then we can talk about \”sharing\”. Therefore, if parents force the baby to share when he has just established his awareness of property rights, it may confuse the baby (he cannot understand why things that originally belong to me must be shared with others). And if it is a toy that the baby particularly loves to put down, if we force him to let other children play with it, it may also cause psychological harm to the baby, making him feel that his feelings are not valued and his ownership of the items is not respected. Therefore, when facing conflicts, we must remember that the first priority is to respect the baby\’s wishes. Rather than requiring your baby to be \”generous\”, it is more important to pay attention to his emotions, give him comfort and understanding at the same time, and let your baby know that he has the right to decide whether to share his toys. This will help cultivate your baby\’s sense of autonomy and independent personality. Of course, it can also help establish a correct awareness of property rights. Telling the baby not to take it casually is the opposite of the previous situation. If the baby takes away other people\’s toys without their consent, or even wants to snatch the toys, then the parents need to stop them in time and no longer \”respect the wishes\”. . You can gently tell your baby that you can\’t take other people\’s things at will. If you want to play, you must first seek the opinion of the toy owner. You can also try to use your own toys to exchange with the other party, or propose to play together, but no matter what, you can Do not take favorite toys away from the owner without the owner\’s consent, let alone steal the toys. The process of admonition should be gentle but firm, and do not use a critical or accusing tone. After all, for a baby who has not yet clearly established a sense of property rights, he does not do it knowingly. And if the baby does not listen to the advice and resists by crying, then the best way is to take the baby away from the scene first, find a relatively quiet place to give the baby a hug, and wait for his emotions to calm down before continuing to reason (which is acceptable) The baby\’s negative emotions, but the principle of respecting other people\’s property rights cannot be broken). How to teach your baby to share? Parents can use the power of role models. For example, when playing with toys with their babies, they can take the initiative to suggest exchanging toys, so that their babies can see that they can experience more different fun in this way. When your baby encounters a toy being robbed or wants someone else\’s toy outside, encourage him to use communication to solve the problem, such as – \”I still want to play now and can\’t lend it to you.\” \”I can use a car with you.\” \”Can I change to a small plane?\”Can I play water gun with you? \”This not only cultivates the baby\’s communication skills, but also allows them to learn to solve problems in a peaceful way. In addition, parents can also create more opportunities to let the baby experience the fun of sharing with peers. When the baby makes the correct sharing behavior Give them timely affirmation and encouragement to strengthen their positive behavior. In short, when it comes to grabbing toys, what parents have to do is to be patient and understanding at all times, but at the same time adhere to the principle gently and firmly. Each baby has his own personality and development rhythm. Parents need to slowly guide him to learn to correctly handle relationships with others and learn to share fairly and equally through specific situations.