If you are irritable and often lose your temper with your children, please read this sentence silently.

A few days ago, I saw a message from a mother saying that she lost her temper with her child again. I didn’t know what to do? \”I think my child is my Achilles heel. I often break down because of him. But I am also very impatient and find it difficult to control my temper. I would even hit him and pull his ears. Every time I see him cry carefully, I was afraid that I would lose my temper, and I felt very painful and regretful about why I did this to my child. Then I ran into the room and cried, still feeling painful and regretful.\” Many parents said in the process of raising children. , I clearly feel that I love my children very much, but I still hurt them because I can\’t control my emotions. When the mood comes, it feels like the child will no longer be kissed instantly! I just thought that venting my temper would give them some refreshment and something to remember. At this time, few rationally consider the reason. Did the child do something wrong? How can I handle it more appropriately? Most parents\’ emotions are easily affected by their children\’s cries or behaviors. It is easy to fall into an emotional whirlpool and engage in behavior that you regret. No one likes to look like they are breaking down and throwing a tantrum. No parent likes to yell at their children. And children won’t like it even more. What to do? 2 One day, in \”Meditations\”, I read the following passage: \”When your environment seems to force you to be troubled and uneasy, quickly gather your mind and reflect, and don\’t stay in that disharmonious state unnecessarily. Continuously returning to a state of harmony gives you greater control. \”There is a sense of enlightenment. Because we always have emotions of one kind or another. Especially after becoming a parent, the state of raising children is also varied. There are relaxed and happy parent-child times, and there are also times of tension and confrontation. For example, during the recent summer vacation, Xiao Xiaoyu got up early every morning, but instead of brushing his teeth and washing his face, he would play in the living room for a long time, or read a book early in the morning. I called him several times, but it still took my time. The things on the desk are also placed randomly and not organized. Seeing this really makes people angry. I always teach him to do it, but he still doesn\’t do it well. This is one thing we often complain about with our kids. And because of one thing, it will cause many other emotions. When you are angry, you can\’t help but lose your temper at him. This is why children trouble us and put us in that disharmonious state. In this state, we have many complex emotions. Many of them are subconscious, such as my own experiences as a child. Or something that you are afraid of in your heart, something that you are always anxious about. It will come out when your heart is upset and collapsed. Of course, parents should guide their children to develop good habits. But are some extreme emotional reactions just due to the responsibility of teaching children? Or maybe there are some hidden reasons. For example, I don’t like tidying up myself, and I am more casual in my life. In my heart, I hope Xiaoxiaoyu can do well. So when his behavior is different from my expectations, he will have a strong emotional reaction. It cannot be denied that I am the creator of these bad emotions. 3In addition to genetic factors, children will continue to learn the behavior and speech of their parents from birth. When your children learn your shortcomings subtly. And then you blame the child for thisIf you do this, is it the child\’s fault? If the children learn the things they hate and fear, the parents will feel even more uneasy and angry. There is a saying that children\’s problems are ultimately their parents\’ problems. That\’s true. After losing my temper with my children, I would reflect and regret why I couldn\’t control it. I hope I can find better ways to talk to my inner self and better manage my emotions. When facing problems, don\’t fall into those emotional whirlpools, but find ways to get out in time and enter a rational and calm state. Only in this state can we communicate with children more effectively and provide guidance. Losing your temper and beating and scolding is never a good idea, it just scares the child at the time. 4. When parents themselves can realize their own problems and work hard to change them. Many problems will disappear or not even be problems at all. Because there are many problems that are actually just something you can’t live with yourself. But they think that it is the child\’s problem and they have to constantly torment the child. I slightly change the above sentence and give it to myself and you: \”When my child\’s behavior makes me irritable and uneasy, don\’t rush to blame and lose your temper. Please take a deep breath and calm down as soon as possible. Don\’t let yourself get into that situation.\” In the midst of this emotional whirlpool, you should think about your child’s good and the reasons for your own emotions. Only in this way can you achieve a better parent-child relationship. \”When you want to lose your temper next time, it will be effective to repeat it silently. . Being a parent is a practice, and I want to give my children a better version of myself.