If you are lazy today, your child will take the responsibility for you tomorrow.

When I returned to my hometown, I met my second aunt again. The second aunt is obviously old, and her hair is gray. As soon as she saw us, the second aunt smiled and said, \”It\’s better to study more. If you study more, you won\’t have to suffer like us.\” We exchanged greetings with the second aunt and left. Ever since people in the village were admitted to college one after another, my second aunt began to talk about how good it was to study. The older she got, the more she talked about it. She talked about it so often that everyone began to call her \”Sister Xianglin\” behind her back. The second aunt, known as \”Xianglin\’s Wife\”, has always had a problem in her heart. She said that the thing she regretted most was giving up studying. The second aunt has an older sister and a younger brother. The elder sister is the second batch of college students after the resumption of the college entrance examination. The second aunt and the younger brother only gave up after junior high school. In the first year of the resumption of the college entrance examination, my sister asked my second aunt and my brother to review together and take the college entrance examination together. The second aunt refused, saying, \”I\’m usually so tired after work that I can\’t stand up straight. How can I have the time to study?\” My sister tried to persuade her to no avail, so she studied hard on her own. She had to work during the day and earn work points, and she did no less than others. As a girl, her parents did not support her in studying. She always felt that a married girl was throwing water away, and studying would cost the family money, which was not enough. Earning work points is not worth it. At night, when everyone in the family was asleep, she would light a small oil lamp and study alone. She read the only two books she had. In the first year, she failed to pass the exam, but she did not give up and studied for another year. Over the past year, my eyesight has become dazzled, my face has become haggard, and I don’t look as good-looking as my second aunt. The next year, my elder sister went to the provincial capital to attend college, while my second aunt and younger brother stayed at home. Four years later, his younger brother took over his father\’s job and became a worker at an agricultural technical station. The second aunt married a young man from our village who came from a good background and had a good family background, that is, the second uncle. My sister stayed in school after graduating from college and became a teacher. Twenty years later, the second aunt’s son was admitted to a local junior college. My sister’s son was admitted to a key university ranked highly in the country. The two cousins ​​used to meet several times a year. Every time they came back, the son would always be depressed for a few days. Once, he asked his second aunt: \”Why didn\’t you go to college back then?\” After his son graduated, he went to the provincial capital. He said You must make a difference. Later, I finally scraped together a down payment to settle down in the provincial capital, got married and had children, but my second uncle fell ill again. That night, in the corridor of the hospital, the second aunt saw her son sitting on a hospital stool, holding his head and crying silently. The second aunt and uncle are old and have no ability to take care of illness and old-age care. The children are still young and need to be taken care of for food, drink, and toilet. The son and daughter-in-law try their best, but they are still under great pressure. As for my sister, she and her brother-in-law retired as university professors. They either do academic work or travel around the world every year. My sister\’s son studied abroad after graduating from college. After he came back, he joined a large company and earned an annual salary of hundreds of thousands. He found a wife who was well matched. The parents of the two families have enough pension to support their own pension and medical care, and there is still money left to support the young couple\’s life. Gradually, the second aunt\’s son no longer wanted to contact his cousin. He felt that there were already several gaps between them. Every time I think of this incident, my second aunt regrets it terribly. She often said that if she had gritted her teeth and endured two years of hardship,, now the children will not suffer like this. Many times, we are afraid of hardship, and choose the latter between hardship and peaceful years. In the end, we may not only regret it, but may also affect the life of our children. Because we are also our children’s starting line and ceiling. There was once a foreign short film that had a group of students competing on the playground. The teacher said, \”There are several conditions before the competition. If you meet them, take two steps forward. If you don\’t meet them, stay where you are.\” These conditions are: If your parents\’ marriage has lasted until now, take two steps forward; If you have the opportunity to get a private school education, take two steps forward; if you have hired a tutor, take two steps forward; if you never worry about your cell phone bill, take two steps forward; if you never have to worry about bills with your parents, take a step forward. The first two steps;… After all the conditions are said, some people have made a lot of progress and are very close to the end, while some have stayed where they are without moving a step. We started running, and the people at the front quickly reached the finish line, while the ones at the end, despite trying their best and even surpassing several people, did not become the lucky ones to reach the finish line first. For those who are running at the front, every step they have taken has nothing to do with them personally, but they are already ahead because of the efforts of their parents and even their grandparents. Education is about inheritance. Without our continuous efforts, our children will suffer more than other children in the future, but they will not necessarily gain more than other children. Last summer, I was flooded with the article \”A monthly salary of 30,000 yuan is still not enough to support a child\’s summer vacation.\” The article mentioned that a mother of a senior executive earned a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, but was reluctant to buy new clothes because her child would spend just one summer vacation. Thirty-five thousand, which includes expenses for overseas study tours, piano, swimming, and excellent training. After reading it, I felt very sad. If possible, every parent would like to provide the most help to their children and help them grow up, but many parents are unable to do so. There is a British documentary film in which the director selected 14 children from different walks of life to follow and film. It is recorded every seven years, starting from the age of seven, 14 years old, 21 years old, 28 years old, 35 years old, 42 years old, 49 years old, until 56 years old. Decades have passed, and those children have become old people. The result is, Most of the children of the rich are still rich, and the children of the poor are still poor. Only a few have counterattacked through the efforts of their parents and themselves. Every time you want to give up, think about it. If you give up now, not only will you regret it in the future, but your children may repeat your old path. When you think of this, you will feel inexplicable pain in your heart, and then you will continue to persevere with high morale. Yesterday, I was chatting with my husband about our current hard life. Although we are living a hard life, there is a kind of hope in my heart, that is, if we work harder now, the starting point of our two children will be higher, and their future path will be better. If you live farther away, your life may be better than ours. When I think of this, I don’t feel how miserable my life is. Because we are lazy today, it is very likely that our children will have to bear the responsibility in the future.