If you are lazy with your child today, he will find another way to make you repay him tomorrow.

These days, the first greeting I receive from my daughter when I walk in is: Mom, have you got your paid money back? Every time she got a negative answer, she would be lost for half a minute, and then she would do whatever she had to do. My father and I are not completely mobile phone owners, but we still keep taking out our phones to look at things at night when we have nothing to do. Whenever this happens, my daughter will protest: Why do you all see it but I don’t? In order to show fairness, and of course more to calm her down, we were lazy for a while and tacitly gave her the money to play with. She accepted this method very happily and soon became a proficient one. Turning on and off, looking for cartoons, changing cartoons, looking for games, playing various games, it\’s a lot of fun. Of course, we were also worried about her eyesight, so we stipulated that she could only see her for half an hour every day, but she often pushed her to the limit and pushed her to the limit. In this way, she can play by herself for longer, and we have more time to check our phones and do other things, and it seems like we are having a lot of fun. But the good times didn\’t last long. As soon as the semester started, she started blinking. At first, I didn\’t take it seriously, thinking it would be fine in a few days. After a week, it developed into blinking and curling of the lips, with half of the face twitching every time he blinked. We then became anxious and took action quickly to find the cause and treat it. After several days of observation, I came to the conclusion that her eyes were stimulated by the light that changed at any time on the screen after looking at paid photos for a long time. After learning from the pain, I hid the paid money. During the unpaid period, she didn\’t rest for a moment. She needed someone to play with her all the time. Sometimes she felt tired, but when she thought of her eyes, she had no choice but to grit her teeth and persevere. Now, her eyes are basically back to normal. The two of us still can\’t help looking at our phones occasionally, but there must be someone to play with regularly. Today, when talking about this incident, an older colleague lamented: There are no bad children, only incompetent parents. If you are lazy today, you will pay it back twice as much tomorrow. One of her relatives is now experiencing this pain. When the child was young, because it was inconvenient to take care of him, he was weaned and sent back to his hometown. The couple went back to see their children once a month, stayed with them for one night and brought them some food. When the child got a little older, they felt that it was too troublesome to pick up and drop off the child without anyone around, so they sent the child to kindergarten in their hometown. When the child went to elementary school, they still faced problems such as transportation. They hesitated whether to let the child stay in their hometown for another year. Later, at the insistence of the child\’s grandmother, they took the child back to them. Now, the child is in the fifth grade of elementary school and is even taller than his father. He doesn\’t talk much, but he doesn\’t take the initiative to learn and is obsessed with playing games and computers. When the child\’s mother gets anxious, she wants to be violent with the child, but the child is no longer a child and is obviously dissatisfied and resistant to the mother\’s behavior. Every time my child’s mother seeks someone to talk to in pain, she will always say that she feels like this child is not that close to me. Sometimes I don’t even want to leave her for ten and a half months. I want to take care of him, but he doesn’t really obey me. They missed the most critical first few years of their children\’s growth, in order toIt would save me less trouble. I certainly didn’t expect that there would be more trouble waiting for me in the future. If you don’t get along closely since childhood, and you want to get involved in your child’s education when they grow up, the child at this time is no longer a blank slate for you to draw whatever you want. A few months ago, I participated in a 20-kilometer hike and met a kid who was a top student. She walked the entire journey with us, talking and laughing along the way. Whenever we couldn\’t hold on, she would liven up the atmosphere in a timely manner. Later, I heard more legends about this child. From junior high school, he was recommended to a key high school, from a key high school to a key university, and then he was recommended to a top-ranked prestigious school for graduate school. Every time I ask her parents how they educate their children. His parents always said modestly and did not educate her very much. They just took her with them everywhere. Her father went to the English Corner and took her, who was less than two years old, with her; her mother went on a business trip to other places and took her with her; her parents took her with them to whatever activities they wanted to participate in… As long as her parents were there, she was there. Books can be seen everywhere in the house. Their TV has not been turned on for more than ten years. After dinner or taking a walk, they each find a corner to read, do homework, and occasionally exchange a few words. In high school, she represented the school in the English competition without ever attending an English tutoring class for a day. She won the first prize in the city\’s essay competition without ever attending a composition tutoring class for a day… She said that her parents had not cared about me much since I was a child, but they They have never missed my parent-teacher meetings, they have never delayed tasks assigned by teachers, and they have never shown their boredom and dissatisfaction with work in front of me. They must do what they ask me to do first… Today, many parents have trouble managing their children when they are about to grow up, have no interest in learning, have no hope for the future, and feel that they are unlucky. In fact, students who were able to go to the same class had similar conditions at the beginning, but later they were divided into poor students, top students and average students. Some of them were because of their different interests, but most of them were divided into poor students, top students and average students. It’s because of the habits that children have developed since childhood. A child without good study habits may not be a good student no matter how smart he is. Some teachers comfort parents during parent-teacher conferences like this: Your children are quite smart, but they just don’t study hard. Parents feel quite relieved that our children are not stupid at all. But why don’t you study hard? Parents should reflect on it. A child\’s growth bit by bit requires parents to put in a lot of effort, and some efforts may not necessarily be rewarded. You think you can be lazy a little, but you forget that if you don\’t pay, there will be no reward. When parents lament how their once-smart children became what they are today, the first thing they reflect on is not what happened to their children, but what their parents did. If you are lazy with your child today, he will try his best to make you pay back in the next few decades.