If you are not \”cruel\”, no matter how good the method is to educate your children, it will all be in vain.

As the saying goes: Towering trees cannot grow in a greenhouse, and thousands of troops cannot grow in an alley. Education requires strict and determined strength, the same throughout the ages. All far-sighted parents know that only with ruthless discipline can their children truly succeed in the future. If parents are reluctant to let their children endure hardship, don\’t blame them for failing to live up to expectations in the future. Parents are children\’s mirrors, and children are parents\’ shadows. What is the essence of family education? It is not about giving children comfortable living conditions, but teaching them the principles of life. How a person should spend his life is not only his own choice, but also the outlook on life and values ​​instilled by his parents from childhood. Every child is born with a blank piece of paper. If you write kindness to him, he will become loving; if you write him strength, he will become independent; if you write him diligence, he will become Have self-discipline. Behind all children\’s behavior, it actually reflects the vision and mind of their parents. Spoiling a child is like killing a child, and spoiling will only harm the child. Actor Liu Tao said: \”Both boys and girls must know the rules from an early age and not be too casual. Children cannot just accommodate themselves. There must be someone who can control them.\” To love with strictness is to strictly discipline children. , prompting them to work hard and have a better future, this is the love for children. On the contrary, being pampered and obedient to your children is what is called doting. Excessive pampering will change the quality of parents\’ love for their children. Behind every confident child, there is a pair of overly doting parents. Spoiling a child is like killing a child. The consequence of doting on a child is often ruining the child\’s future. If parents blindly protect their shortcomings, their children will become lawless. When a teacher makes a student stand for a period of time because he or she is late, this seems normal to most people, but nowadays it is often questioned by some parents. The reason why parents send their children to school is because they hope that their children can get education from teachers in school. However, if parents blindly protect their shortcomings, it will only make the teachers constrained. In this way, no matter what mistakes the child makes, he will not be taught by the teacher; so what is the point of sending the child to school? If parents blindly protect their shortcomings and the authority of teachers decreases, it will only encourage children to make mistakes, which will not benefit the children at all, and will only harm them in the end. The ruler in the teacher\’s hand is actually a heavy responsibility. The reason why a child is a child is that he has no self-consciousness and needs constant supervision. Compared with parents, teachers appear more dignified. Especially when the teacher has a \”ruler\” in his hand, it is even more of a deterrent. And having a \”ruler\” means that the teacher has shouldered this important task and must supervise the children at all times. Education requires appropriate punishment. If the ruler in the teacher\’s hand is not there and the ruler in the heart is not there, then education will lose its means of punishment and only praise will remain. And blindly praising students, can we teach good students in this way? Education without punishment is incomplete. Appropriate criticism and punishment are helpful to children. Good parents are a little cruel, and good teachers are a little unfeeling. We can all feel that times have changed, and technology has advanced at an unimaginable rate. And we all hope that our children will not lose at the starting line, but when raising your children, please think more about: What kind of world will the future be? What abilities do children have that will prevent them from being eliminated by the cruel era? This is an era of rapid change. In this era where carelessness can lead to being eliminated, if we don’t force our children to learn the “72 Changes” now, who will help them block the “81 Difficulties” in the future? For the sake of their children\’s future, every parent who loves their children must be ruthless, and every far-sighted teacher must be ruthless. If you are willing to discipline your child now, he will be grateful to you for the rest of his life. Huang Lei said: \”There are as many types of parents as there are in the world, and there are no two alike.\” Because excessive love is selfish love, and this kind of love is more terrifying than hate. All children have similar natures, but different education turns them into different people. On the way to educating children, parents must learn to let go, be willing to let their children \”endure hardship\”, support the teacher\’s work, and discipline their children ruthlessly. The children will definitely thank you in the future.