If you are reluctant to educate your children, society will educate them hard for you.

Recently, there have been a lot of \”various bear deeds\” about \”naughty children\”. Reminds me of Zhang Xinzhe\’s song, \”How can I bear to blame you for making a mistake? I went too far in giving you freedom\”… Two days ago, I saw a netizen breaking the news that an 11-year-old child was playing with his younger brother in a hotel in Beijing. Peeing on the lobby couch. The staff came out to coordinate, and the child\’s mother shouted loudly: \”My child is 11 years old and is not sensible. You are ruining my mood.\” Then she pushed the staff and even hit them. Would a normal 11-year-old child still not know that he has to go to the bathroom to pee? If there are special circumstances, preparations should be made in advance. But from the child\’s mother\’s defense that \”the child is ignorant\”, it can be seen that there is nothing wrong with the child\’s body, but that the child is \”not sensible\” mentally. As a result, netizens stood up one after another to \”uphold justice.\” However, some netizens \”blamed\” the hotel staff for being ignorant. Yes, parents are reluctant to educate their naughty children, so they should \”willingly\” bear the consequences of \”his ignorance\”. But, when are we going to use the excuse \”He is still young and ignorant and should be forgiven\”? It may work for his parents for a lifetime, but the outside world will not get used to him or forgive him easily. In fact, compensating for a sofa or something is a trivial matter, but compensating for a bear\’s life is a consequence that no parent can bear. On August 3, a 6-year-old boy in Yiwu, Zhejiang Province entered a shopping mall sightseeing elevator and urinated on the control board, causing a short circuit on the elevator circuit board. The boy then fell from the elevator. Surveillance footage showed that after entering the sightseeing elevator alone, a 6-year-old boy peed toward the elevator control board (peeing again?). The circuit board was short-circuited and the elevator malfunctioned. There was no response from pressing the button several times to call for help, and the boy began to get scared, cry and jump. A few minutes later, the elevator stopped between the 7th and 8th floors, and the elevator door was half-open. The boy climbed into the gap between the inner and outer doors of the elevator, climbed back again, and 2 minutes later climbed into the gap between the inner and outer doors of the elevator again, when the elevator door suddenly closed. The boy disappeared from the surveillance video. Later, he was found in the elevator shaft at the bottom. After being sent to the hospital, he was diagnosed with craniocerebral injury, large-scale lung laceration, multiple fractures of large bones, hemorrhagic shock, airway damage, and his life or death was uncertain. A commentary article on the official account of the Beijing News believed that children should not be labeled as \”bad kids\” at will. He has already paid the price. The key point of the problem is that parents should take good care of their children and not let them ride in the elevator alone; elevators should be made safer, the elevator control panel should be placed out of reach of young children, and protective devices should be installed to prevent liquid intrusion; elevator maintenance personnel should On call and so on. Yes, the boy has paid a heavy price for his \”naughty\”. Watching the blurry video of him lying on a stretcher being taken to the hospital, I felt pain in my heart and silently prayed that he was okay. However, this cannot be a reason for us to ignore the real reasons. As the comment with the most likes at the end of the article says: \”Behind the naughty child must be the lack of education, pampering, and support from the parents, and they may even be disruptors of public order. No matter how perfect your design is, you can\’t withstand the destructive power of the naughty child. .\” We often see some parents educating their children this way.The child fell down because the ground was too slippery; the child hit the wall because the wall was not in the right place; the child got burned because the water was too hot; the child hit someone because the other person\’s child didn\’t share…the result of this is , the child feels that he is holding a \”gold medal for no mistakes\” in his hand, and it is everyone else who is wrong, and I am wrong anyway. If something goes wrong, the responsibility lies with others. I am the victim, and I should be forgiven and sympathized with. We must remind these parents that they are reluctant to educate their children. One day the ruthless reality will educate them and tell them that you are so wrong that you can\’t go back. On August 4, on a flight from China to Los Angeles, a Chinese naughty kid kept harassing (including kicking) the Japanese-Chinese guy sitting next to him. The younger brother suggested that his parents take care of the child. However, the parents refused to comment, so the child continued to harass the younger brother. The younger brother finally broke out after enduring it for 3 hours and scolded the parents excitedly. Not to be outdone, the child\’s father responded with more intense insults, and later angrily grabbed the younger brother\’s neck, and the two of them struggled with each other across the child. After the plane landed, FBI customs law enforcement officers were waiting for the family of three. U.S. Customs refused them entry for intentional injury and arranged a flight back to China early the next morning. The family of three originally planned to spend their summer vacation in the United States, but it was ruined. Sometimes, it is not that a bear parent is reluctant to educate his children, but that he simply cannot see the \”bear\” of his children and the need for education. Because he is just the same \”bear\” himself, so there is no problem! The naughty kid is just his shadow. One day, the child was severely punished by the outside world for his dereliction of duty. It was not a slap in the face. There are many parents who adhere to such educational views as \”respect children\’s nature\”, \”give children free space to grow\” and \”allow children to make mistakes\”. Yes, there is nothing wrong with this. Too much control and being too strict will indeed destroy children\’s innovative spirit and creativity. However, education that lacks basic rules and has no bottom line is even more terrifying. The outside world will not forgive him blindly because he is young and ignorant. The ruthless reality will teach him a cruel lesson. Don\’t wait until he has a bloody head and then regret why you were \”reluctant to educate him\” in the first place. Don\’t let him bear the consequences of the previous generation\’s luck. Wrong behavior will eventually pay the price.