If you cannot do these three things, I suggest you not take your children out to play during the summer vacation (recommended for all parents to read)

I was chatting with my best friend over the weekend, and she was busy making plans for taking her children to play during the summer vacation. I asked her with some confusion: \”Didn\’t you have a bad experience with your children last year and say you won\’t take them to travel again before they are 10 years old?\” Last year, my best friend took her 6-year-old son Taotao to Yunnan to play, and the itinerary was The schedule was quite full, but on the third morning Taotao couldn\’t get out of bed, saying he was tired from playing and didn\’t want to play anymore. No matter how her best friend tried to persuade and seduce her, Taotao remained unmoved and remained motionless on the bed. My best friend was very angry, so she changed her ticket and went home. My best friend replied with a smile: \”Isn\’t the child one year older this year? He definitely can\’t be like last year. Besides, the summer vacation is so long, it would be a pity not to go out to play. Other classmates are going out to play, but he is the only one who doesn\’t go out. In the future, he will not be able to talk to his classmates. \”In fact, whether to take your children out to play during the summer vacation should be decided according to your own circumstances. There is no rule that you must take your children out to play. If you fall into the following three situations, you might as well not go out: 1. Blindly following the trend. Under the influence of social media and relatives and friends, many parents choose to take their children on so-called \”Internet celebrity check-in tours\” or \”popular destination tours.\” This kind of blind following often ignores children\’s interests and the actual situation of the family, causing children to feel bored or tired during the trip. At the same time, because the destination is too popular, there may be problems such as overcrowding and tight schedules, which will greatly reduce the travel experience. Best friends are blindly following the trend. Regardless of whether their children need it or not, as long as other students go, their own children cannot be absent. 2. Some parents of the vanity and enjoyment type are too pursuing material enjoyment and luxury experiences when traveling, such as choosing high-end hotels, luxury restaurants, expensive attractions, etc. Although such a trip can bring short-term pleasure, it may bring wrong values ​​​​and consumption concepts to children. Children may mistakenly believe that the meaning of travel is enjoyment and consumption, while ignoring the learning and growth during travel. In addition, high travel costs can also put financial pressure on families. 3. Some parents are too obsessed with the compact itinerary and the number of scenic spots during travel, which often results in skimming and scratching the surface. Children may be rushing to the next attraction before they have a chance to deeply understand and experience the culture and customs of a place. Not only does such a trip fail to provide children with rich experiences and feelings, it may also make them feel exhausted. Moreover, a too-packed itinerary may limit communication and interaction among family members. If you can’t do these three things, it’s okay not to travel with your children. 1. Don’t have too high expectations. Traveling with your children is an adventure full of expectations and challenges. Children\’s world is full of endless curiosity and surprises, but at the same time, their emotions and behaviors are as changeable and unpredictable as the weather. I remember last summer, I took my five-year-old niece to the beach for vacation. Before departure, I imagined that we would build sandcastles on the beach, chase waves, and taste delicious seafood dinners. At night, we would sit on the beach, listen to the sound of waves, and fall asleep counting the stars. However, the reality was very different from my imagination. My little niece doesn’t seem to be very interested in the waves. She prefers to look for all kinds of strange things on the beach.shells and pebbles. Whenever the waves come, she will be so scared that she hugs me tightly and dare not move. But when we tried to taste the seafood dinner, she was unfamiliar and repulsed by the taste of seafood, and in the end she could only eat some simple food. In the evening, when we were sitting on the beach preparing to enjoy a quiet night, our little niece suddenly started crying and wanted to go home. She was not used to the humidity and silence of the seaside, and just wanted to return to her familiar little bed. At that moment, I felt helpless and frustrated because the reality was so far from my expectations. Later, I gradually realized that the real meaning of traveling with children is not to complete our preset itinerary and plans, but to spend unforgettable time with the children and create beautiful memories that belong to us together. Although my little niece did not love the beach and seafood as much as I imagined, she found her own fun on the beach, and we had a warm and interesting holiday. Therefore, when planning a trip with your baby, don’t set your expectations too high. 2. Don’t make your itinerary too tight. I saw a post online about a mother traveling with her 8-year-old child. This mother did not arrange a full itinerary, but only selected a few representative attractions and set aside enough time for her children to explore and experience freely. On their first day in the town, they strolled along the ancient streets, admiring the historical buildings and unique folk culture on both sides. The child is full of curiosity about everything and asks his mother questions from time to time. The mother answered patiently and explored this strange world with her child. They tasted local delicacies, made traditional handicrafts, and participated in a lively folk performance. The next day, the mother did not arrange any sightseeing tours, but let the children play freely. Children ran into the fields chasing butterflies, playing with puppies and helping local farmers harvest crops. He felt the beauty of nature and the joy of labor, and also learned to cherish and be grateful. Although this trip was not long, the children gained a lot. He learned how to communicate with others, how to respect others, and how to love nature. More importantly, he experienced the colorfulness and richness of life, and also felt the warmth and care of his family. Traveling with children is not just about changing places to play, but also about spiritual growth and enrichment of experiences. An itinerary that is too tight often makes children feel exhausted and loses the fun of travel. Therefore, when planning a trip, we need to focus on the importance of experience rather than simply pursuing the enrichment of the itinerary. It is more important to let children feel the beauty and richness of life during travel, and truly grow and gain something during travel. 3. Respect your children’s choices and don’t interfere too much. I still remember the plot of Jimmy Lin’s son Kimi choosing a house in the parent-child travel program “Where Are We Going, Dad?” When faced with the task of choosing a house, Jimmy Lin did not directly make the decision for Kimi, but gave him full autonomy. Kimi chose Room 3 based on his own preferences and intuition. Although from an adult\’s perspective, the conditions in Room 3 may not be superior, Jimmy Lin did not interfere, but chose to trust and respect Kimi\’s choice. Enter the roomLater, Kimi found that the house was different than expected, and even had some problems, such as broken doors, broken windows and dead spiders. However, Jimmy Lin did not blame or deny Kimi\’s choice, but continued to encourage him and praised him for making a good choice. Not only did his father\’s attitude not dampen Kimi\’s interest in playing, but it made him learn to be responsible for his own choices. Playing is a child\’s business, while accompanying is a parent\’s business. Since you are traveling with your children, parents should naturally respect their children\’s choices. Such parent-child travel not only allows children to grow through exploration, but also deepens the relationship between parents and children. Parents respect their children\’s choices and give them enough freedom and space so that they can gain happiness and grow while traveling. Traveling with children is not an easy task. It\’s like traveling with a snail. You can\’t be anxious, angry, or yelling. Only by slowing down and calming down can you appreciate the scenery along the way. When traveling with children, the less restraint parents put on their children, the more high-quality experiences their children can gain from the trip. You might as well lower your expectations, make your itinerary more relaxed, respect your children\’s opinions more, and observe, perceive, and understand in a different area with your children, so that your body and mind can reach the most comfortable state.