If you cannot tolerate your parents, how can you tolerate the world? (Inspiring countless people)

Tolerating parents is a problem that is most often faced but most easily ignored. Many people think this is a trivial matter, but in fact it is nothing serious. What it tests is a person\’s quality and the background of his life. Mencius said: \”Kindness to relatives is benevolence; respecting elders is righteousness.\” The attitude towards parents is not only about filial piety, but also benevolence and righteousness. Tolerating parents is the best form of filial piety. There is a heartbreaking elegy for parents in the Book of Songs, called \”Polygonium Erythrum\”. There is a sentence in it that is deeply touching: My father gave birth to me, my mother bowed to me. Carry me, feed me, grow me and nurture me, take care of me and return me, go in and out of your belly. The virtues that are desired to be repaid, Haotian is extremely disrespectful! It means: Father, you gave birth to me, mother, you fed me. You protect me, love me, raise me and nurture me. You miss me and don’t want to leave me. You embrace me when you go out of your house. I want to repay my parents for their great kindness, but it is difficult to predict the disasters God will bring! It almost brings tears to my ears. Compared with such deep kindness, even if the children pay a little more, what does it mean? Every parent is not perfect and has problems of one kind or another, just like ourselves. So parents need to tolerate us, and we need to tolerate our parents even more. At this point, children can never compare to their parents. Some parents are nagging, some have bad tempers, some have backward ideas, and some are stubborn. Especially when your parents are old, their brains are not working properly, they are dirty, smelly, and their temper is even worse… The more they are like this, the more impatient you will be. And life lies in these trivial things, the details of every day. A person\’s truest feelings and truest emotions also come from small things and details. Being able to take care of those little things and details is to settle the parents\’ mood for a lifetime. What could be more worthwhile than this? There is a public service advertisement whose copy has touched countless people: Never dislike your parents for being slow, because you can never imagine how they patiently taught you to walk when you were young; never dislike your parents for not being able to learn computers. , because you will never know how hard they took the trouble to teach you how to read when you were young. There is no one who will not be moved by these words. Therefore, when the \”Book of Rites\” talks about \”nurturing a filial son\”, the first thing is to \”enjoy his heart\” and make his parents happy. Life is a constant flow of care and companionship. Being able to tolerate your parents is the best form of filial piety. Being tolerant of your parents best reflects your character. What best reflects a person’s character? In fact, it is just one thing: attitude towards parents, as well as attitude towards partners and children. Because they are our closest relatives, and the most common mistake people make is to ignore the closest people and be casual and indulgent in front of them. This attitude is reflected in tolerance in daily life. Parents and partners accommodate us out of love, and children obey us out of awe. They are \”weak\” to us. A person\’s attitude towards the weak can reflect a person\’s quality more than anything else. \”The Doctrine of the Mean\” talks about \”being cautious in being alone\” – a person\’s self-cultivation depends on whether he is as persistent and not presumptuous when alone as he is in front of others. Our parents and family are people who are inseparable from us and are one with us, so our attitude towards them is exactly the proper meaning of \”being cautious about independence\”. A gentleman beware of his own actions. Therefore, a gentleman is a model of character. Only those who tolerate their parents are generous. Life is a practice, and parents are the first and most important objects of our practice. A person who is not even willing to tolerate his parents lacks love in his heart, and his mind is not generous enough. In front of others, he must be a carefree, retaliatory, and ungenerous \”little person.\” This is true in life, and even more so in doing things. How can we achieve great things if we have no atmosphere, no ambition, and no courage? The ancients said, \”If you don\’t sweep one house, how can you sweep the world?\” We can also say, \”If your parents can\’t tolerate it, how can you tolerate the world?\” That\’s why the \”Book of Filial Piety\” clearly states at the outset that filial piety \”starts with caring for relatives\” and \”finally establishes one\’s character.\” Tolerating your parents is the first step to changing your destiny. People with great ambitions should first start by being tolerant of their parents. This is the first step in spiritual practice and also true spiritual practice. Tolerating parents is the best education for children. The \”Three Character Classic\” says: \”If a son fails to teach, it is the father\’s fault.\” What is the greatest contempt for a person? lack of manners. Whether a child has a tutor or not is entirely up to the parents. As the saying goes, \”Parents are their children\’s best teachers.\” Why? It’s because of four words – “Teaching by words and deeds”. Psychologically speaking, children\’s growth begins with imitation. Who is the person who imitates the most and deeply? Their own parents, because parents are the people they have the most contact with and are closest to. All parents please remember one sentence: What a child experiences in childhood will profoundly affect his life, from personality to behavior. This has been repeatedly confirmed by psychology, so don’t leave a lifelong shadow on your children. Therefore, parents must be careful about their words and deeds. Especially on such an important issue as treating your parents, it will not only affect your child\’s attitude towards you in the future, but also affect your child\’s character. If we ourselves are not tolerant and considerate of our parents in our daily lives, our children will be infected with a kind of indifference and selfishness. Such people are always difficult to tolerate and cannot go far. On the contrary, it is the best daily education. It can allow children to cultivate a kind of warm love, harmonious goodwill and tolerance towards others and the world through being influenced by their ears and eyes. \”Zengguang Xianwen\” says that \”filial piety will beget filial sons, and disobedience will beget disobedient sons.\” Many people who have a bad attitude towards their parents and are not tolerant enough do so unintentionally. They are just letting go completely because of their complete trust. But what I let go of was my own lack of cultivation, and the harm to my parents was real, so it cannot be used as an excuse or a reason to comfort myself. What\’s more, even if you don\’t mean to, you will leave regrets for yourself. One of the saddest words I have ever heard from the ancients is, \”The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the child wants to be nourished but cannot be cared for\”. The saddest sentence I have ever heard from people today is, \”When parents are here, life has a place to come; when parents are gone, there is only a way back in life.\” There is a kind of happiness that parents are around, and those who have never lost them will not truly understand it. The time walking in this world with our parents is so precious, and the so-called regret is that we are wasting it. Those details in ordinary life that are intolerant and impatient with parents are exactly the hourglass of waste. What flows away is precious time, and what accumulates is unreasonable.Full of regret. please cherish.