If you don’t have children indiscriminately, why do you want to be a family? Let me tell you the basic principles and cultivation of being a human being.

Some people say: \”The grace of birth is greater than human beings, and the grace of raising children is greater than heaven.\” However, some parents in this world not only fail to bring happiness to their children, but also bring devastating harm to their children\’s lives. Did you know that there are three types of unworthy parents in this world who are unworthy of having children? Not all parents who give birth to children are worthy of being nurtured by their children, and not all parents are worthy of being called \”Mom and Dad\”! The recent popular Cannes award-winning film \”What Is Home\” has a great impact on the world. Parents all over the world sent out soul torture. At the beginning of the film, a boy stood in court and complained to the judge word for word: \”I want to sue my parents because they gave birth to me.\” When you truly understand his experience, you will understand his cruelty. and despair. Zane, a 12-year-old boy, grew up in a cramped and filthy slum. Every day, his ears were filled with the roars of his parents and the antics of his neighbors. The family lived a life of starvation. It was such a poor family that actually raised seven children. No one looked after them, so the older ones dragged the younger ones, and the younger ones were chained to the stool. Because of the small space, seven children huddled in a corner every night, squeezing each other to sleep. At the age when he should have been in school, Zane had to sell juice on the street, help his parents cheat and make poison with fake prescriptions, and carry the burden of the family on his thin shoulders. But what about his parents? He will always just sit back and enjoy the success, humiliating, abusing, punching and kicking the children endlessly. In this family, every child is used to their best advantage and their dignity as a \”human\” is completely lost. Zane\’s 11-year-old sister, who had just transformed into a woman, was ruthlessly \”given\” to the supermarket owner by her parents. A few months later, after learning that his sister had suffered a miscarriage due to pregnancy and died of massive hemorrhage at the door of the hospital, the angry boy completely exploded. He picked up a kitchen knife from home, went straight to the beast who indirectly killed his sister, and chopped it with one knife Go down. As a result, he was sentenced to five years for negligent injury. Even so, instead of reflecting on the reasons why her daughter died tragically and her son was imprisoned, his mother wanted to have another girl to make up for her previous regrets. How many parents in this world are like Zane\’s parents, who think that by giving birth to a child, they have fulfilled all their parental obligations? From the beginning to the end, they regard their children as private property and a tool for making money. They blindly ask for it through their status as parents and never give them even a little bit of care. Do you still remember the \”fish-killing brother\” who became popular on the Internet many years ago? As the eldest of six children in his family, he has been killing fish with his father since he was 6 years old. His skillful fish killing techniques have impressed thousands of netizens. However, at the beginning of last year, news broke that the \”fish-killing brother\” committed suicide by drinking pesticide. It turned out that in the past eight years, the child had been helped by well-wishers to return to class, but his father called him back to kill fish to make money. He was often beaten and scolded, and one beating was so severe that the child almost went blind. The most terrible parents are those who irresponsibly give life to their children and then cruelly destroy his life. I always remember Zane’s hoarse confession in the film: I hope that all those who cannot afford to raise children will stop having children. Regarding childhood, all I remember is violence, insults, beatings, and chains.30;…The gentlest words they said were \”Get out of here, you bastard\” and \”Get out of the way, trash.\” I was living in hell, like a piece of rotten meat being tortured in life. Isn’t the reason why we bring a child into this world to accompany him to grow up and make him happy? Parents should understand that the meaning of home is not only a place to stay, but also efforts to create a healthy and bright environment for children to grow up. It is responsibility, warmth, and love. If you are born without nourishment, what is love and what is home? If you raise but don’t teach, then if you provide your children with a comfortable growing environment as much as possible and accompany them to grow, are you a qualified parent? Not really. If children are born without being raised, it will harm the child\’s life; if children are raised without education, it may harm the entire society. Last year, a Chinese couple took their 6-year-old son to Los Angeles for vacation. After the plane took off, the child didn\’t stop harassing the Chinese guy sitting next to him. Not only did he jump up and down, make noises, but he also touched the little brother. After several rounds of human bombing, the younger brother was unbearable and politely asked the child\’s father to control the child, but was ignored by the child\’s father. The younger brother finally couldn\’t bear it anymore and yelled at the bear father and son. Unexpectedly, the father angrily grabbed the younger brother\’s neck and struggled with his son across the middle until the hurried flight attendant separated the two. As a result, as soon as the plane landed, both parties to the conflict were taken away by heavily armed police on the grounds of \”endangering the safety of the entire aircraft.\” The boy\’s family was deported back to the country by U.S. Customs on the charge of \”intentional injury.\” A farce caused by a naughty child ended in such an embarrassing ending. Not only did a good trip go to waste, but it also brought shame to the Chinese people. In this regard, some people said: People can forgive a child crying because of a strange environment and emotional vulnerability, but it is difficult to tolerate a child endlessly noisy, fighting, and even physically harassing strangers in public places… The former is a child The latter is a reflection of parents’ lack of guidance and lack of education. Such examples abound in the news: a naughty child in elementary school pushed a pregnant woman from behind, just to see if she would have a miscarriage after falling down like in the TV series; because he thought the sound of construction outside the building was too loud A 10-year-old boy cut off the safety rope of a construction worker on the 8th floor due to the noise, preventing him from watching cartoons; a 5-year-old boy put a 2-year-old girl on the elevator to the 18th floor alone as a prank, causing the little girl to step on her Kong, fell from the 18th floor to his death; behind every confident, overbearing and overbearing child, there is almost a pair of doting, unreasonable and troublesome parents. They think that creating comfortable living conditions and unconditional indulgence for their children is the best love for them. They will only use \”he is just a child\” and \”he is still young and ignorant\” as excuses, and never give their children correct value guidance. They stubbornly believe that there are some truths that he will naturally understand when he grows up. As everyone knows, spoiling a child is like killing a child. There is only one step away from today\’s small evil to tomorrow\’s great evil. The world is severely punishing parents who raise children without educating them: today you are reluctant to educate them, and one day society will educate them for you; today you do not tell your childrenThe truth is, sooner or later, your child will be pushed into the abyss by your indulgence! Raising without educating is a time bomb planted in a child\’s life. Failure to teach well Not long ago, a 9-year-old boy in Gulou District, Nanjing City, broke the glass of his school and was worried about being punished when he went home. He chose to leave a suicide note and then jumped off the building to commit suicide. Looking at the child\’s immature handwriting, netizens felt deeply regretful: What kind of punishment had this child received before, and what kind of education did he receive? Writer Jenny Arim wrote: It is not terrible for children to have shortcomings. What is terrible is that parents, who are the guides of their children\’s lives, lack correct concepts and methods of parenting. In the movie \”Dog 13\”, the parents of 13-year-old girl Li Wan divorced. Her father gave birth to a younger brother behind Li Wan\’s back and her stepmother. In order to appease his daughter\’s emotions, his father gave her a dog. But just after Li Wan and the puppy established a deep relationship, the dog was lost while walking by his family. Li Wan desperately tried to find the dog, but was scolded by his father for being ignorant. After many struggles, the furious father took her away Beaten up. After the beating, he held her on his lap and begged for forgiveness: \”I beat you because I love you. You will understand when you grow up.\” On the surface, Li Wan finally gave in; but when he turned around, who knew that this thin How the girl hugged herself covered in blood and cried in grief under the pouring water. No one in this family respects her wishes, and no one cares about what she really wants. What she likes is physics and astronomy, but her father forcibly changes her interest group to English; Li Wan is not allowed to drink with friends, but at the dinner table, he instigates his daughter to drink with the boss… A psychology professor once It has been said: Children\’s problems are often adults\’ problems. If there is a gap in the child\’s mind, it means there is a problem with the education method behind him. No one is born to be a parent, there has to be a gradual process of exploration. The most terrifying parents are those who are never willing to accept and change. In the name of love, they stubbornly impose self-respecting values ​​​​on their children; they even use violence, indifference, and suppression to selfishly coerce their children into a way they think is perfect. growing up. But they forget that children are not dolls at the mercy of others. They have their own thoughts. They need respect and understanding, and they need to establish their own independent personality. Parents are their children\’s first teachers, and everything they say and do hides their children\’s future. Those bad words, deeds, and excessive behaviors will be deeply etched in the child\’s heart like scars and have a profound impact on the child\’s life. When they grow up, they may become sensitive, have low self-esteem, be emotionally unstable, insecure, and even have emotional defects throughout their lives. Teaching without being good is just like not teaching! Lucky children are healed by childhood throughout their lives, but selfish parents allow their children to be healed by childhood throughout their lives. Some people said: It is really scary to think that parents can be employed without passing the exam. I deeply agree. In this world, not all families are qualified to have children, and not all people are qualified to be parents. It is the fault of the parents to be born but not nurtured; it is the fault of the parents to nurture but not teach; it is the fault of the parents to teach but not well. In the movie \”Spring of the Cowherd Class\”There is a passage that is particularly touching: Every heart needs love, gentleness, tolerance, and understanding. Every child comes from a place of purity and innocence, and should always be a treasure that is cherished by the world. I hope every adult can understand: Not having children randomly is the basic virtue of being a human being. I also hope that every couple can understand rebirth, have the ability to rebirth, and have the confidence to give their children the love and security of rebirth for decades to come. It is not a mistake not to have children, but it is those who do not have enough ability and are not mentally prepared to raise children who really harm the children\’s life. I hope every kind and lovely child can be treated gently by this world.