If you don’t hit, scold, or punish, you won’t be able to raise outstanding children!

Education cannot blindly give in to children. \”Why do you want to beat the child? He is still young and doesn\’t understand anything. Can\’t we, as adults, teach him a few more times?\” \”Don\’t be so aggressive. The child is already very tired from school. If you continue to be aggressive, he will get tired of learning!\” \”Now we encourage happy learning, don\’t always yell, it is not good for children\’s growth!\”… In recent years, there have been countless comments like this. Children should not be spanked, as it will make them tired of studying. Children should not be scolded, which is detrimental to the parent-child relationship. It’s not good; it seems that as long as you don’t hit or scold, you can educate a good child. What Guoxuejun wants to share with you today is the speech delivered by Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University at the \”3rd New Oriental Family Education Summit Forum\”. In the face of China, which frequently emphasizes happy education and prohibits corporal punishment in education, this speech by Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University has important enlightenment significance. For a child\’s education, there must be punishment, even severe punishment, especially when facing the generation of only children. Many so-called quality education and happy learning are completely misguided slogans. I hope these can alert some parents and teachers. The following is the full text of Professor Qian’s speech: Logical Thinking Training Little Elephant Science Course Download: Compulsory Science Enlightenment Course for Primary Schools [30 Topics Completed MP3] Dear principals and teachers: I am very happy to come to this forum. Originally, the topic of my speech was prescribed by Principal Yu Minhong, but after listening to the speeches of the principal of No. 4 Middle School and the principal of Zhengzhou Foreign Languages ​​School, I wanted to change it temporarily. I plan to talk about my views on education as a student, a parent, and a teacher. Chinese education is facing unprecedented problems. All our views on education in China today may originate from a mistake. We have not seriously thought about what education is. We are constantly giving in, making excuses for ourselves, and excusing our children. I want to say that education is not like this and should not be like this. China is facing many problems that have never been faced in human history, such as the only child. The only child is a \”subspecies\” that has never existed since the existence of the human species on earth. Never in human history have so many people without brothers and sisters appeared in one country in such a short period of time. Please don’t forget that all our educational concepts, educational methods, and educational methods are aimed at children with brothers and sisters. Today, our educators are desperately reflecting, but don’t forget that the main subjects of education are already “subspecies” that have never appeared in human history. We have no idea how to educate these children. Never think that they are the same as us, they are different from us, maybe even completely different. Today we are talking about happy education and our childhood is very happy. But, are our childhoods happy? At least I\’m not happy at all. Memories are generally illusory and happy, \”the scars are healed and the pain is forgotten.\” Among us here, as long as we have gone to college, who has not worked hard to pass the exam? We also had a lot of homework when we were young. We didn’t have enough to eat when we were young, and sometimes we were beaten and scolded by the teacher. Why is education happy? I really want toIt doesn’t make sense, how can education be happy? I’m afraid I was confused by foreign education! It is self-evident that there must be an element of pain in education. Why we should make concessions to the children and grandchildren who are destined to succeed us, I cannot understand. Can education be provided without punishment? Nowadays, most of our children’s education is encouragement, and there is nothing wrong with that. So, what about punishment? Can education be provided without punishment? Encouragement alone completes education? I do not believe. Today\’s children cannot scold, criticize or criticize, and they cannot accept any setback! My teacher punished me when I was a child, but our relationship remains strong to this day. Nowadays, praising children blindly depends on what kind of person the parents are. What about punishment? I studied in Europe, and we often talk about how good education is in Europe. OK, let’s take a look at how strict the rules are in good British schools. The British House of Representatives passed a regulation to the effect that \”teachers are allowed to use necessary means, including physical contact, to force undisciplined students to comply with discipline if repeated persuasion fails.\” To put it bluntly, you can beat him appropriately. Everyone says that education in Singapore is good. Isn’t there often a ruler hanging on the wall behind the primary and secondary classrooms in Singapore? It is said that if a child behaves badly, he is required to be spanked three times. Only the palms of the hands are allowed to be spanked, and the back of the hands is not allowed. This can only be carried out in the presence of two teachers. But if the education in the past was wrong, how did Principal Yu Minhong train him? How were Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang trained? Aren’t we taught by past education? Are we spitting everywhere, or are we acting like hooligans? We didn\’t do anything, which was fine. I think education can no longer just give in. We must be truly responsible for our children. Don\’t cater to some specious opinions in society, such as quality education, happy education, and exam-oriented education. Exam-taking is the most basic quality. Is the examination system really unfair? There is no absolute fairness in human society! China is unfair, and the United States is equally unfair! Now it can almost be said that the only relatively fair line is the college entrance examination. If admissions are based on so-called quality, then how many Chinese civilians can get into Peking University and Tsinghua University? Who would believe a child who can\’t even compete in a fair competition and claims to be of high quality? Therefore, don\’t cater to the words of some so-called experts in society. I now advocate the resumption of the national unified college entrance examination, and it will be a naked examination without extra points. Wang Qiang ranked second in the college entrance examination in Inner Mongolia, and I ranked second in the college entrance examination in Shanghai that year. We both got into Peking University in this way. If the college entrance examination system cannot be changed, our education cannot be changed. The college entrance examination is the baton! The reason why the college entrance examination system cannot be changed is because we cannot find a less bad system than the college entrance examination system. The college entrance examination system is not the best system, but it is the least bad system. The problem is that we must be clear about the contradictions we face. Someone asked me: \”Teacher Qian, you have taught Chinese studies on TV in the past few years, and taught about the Three Character Classic and the Disciples\’ Regulations. What do you think is the biggest difficulty in promoting the Three Character Classic and the Disciples\’ Regulations?\” My general statement is that I hope it will be relevant. The department vigorously promotes it and enters schools. In fact, this is not the biggest difficulty, the biggestThe difficulty is: if we train children according to the \”Three Character Classic\” and \”Disciple Rules\” and according to the standards of the prestigious schools attending today\’s forum, then 90% of these children will suffer in society. If you put a child who is loyal, trustworthy, filial, and well-behaved according to the \”Disciple Rules\” into society, he will probably suffer! This shows that there is a big problem in our society. Who can deny? This is the most fundamental reason why we should talk about traditional excellent culture. I am also teaching on the front line and have contact with students. I want to tell everyone that we must have an extreme sense of worry about education in China. I agree with being really strict with kids. After all, children are not adults. They must be disciplined and punished. They must be made to know that education is more than just happiness, and learning is more than just happiness! If a person can feel happy while learning, he is likely to become a master! Most people won\’t. The vast majority of children have to learn, either for a certain purpose or because they know the importance of learning in their lives. Today\’s children, the cost of making mistakes is too low. We need to tell our children that they must pay the price for making mistakes. If there is an atmosphere in the whole society where parents make concessions to their children, the future children will be very terrible, and our future will be very terrible. Children educated in this way will not be able to bear the burden of China\’s future development. Now, if the child takes a step forward, the society will give in; if the child takes a step forward, the teacher will give in; if the child takes a step further, the parents will give in. Parents feel sorry for their children, and teachers also feel sorry for their children. It is the only child who is causing trouble. How can such education be done? What\’s more, today\’s education is facing huge conflicts, and it is impossible to think in accordance with general educational theories. My father received a good education, but he couldn\’t bear to see his son educating his grandson. Once, when I was teaching my children, my father felt a little unhappy around me. My son said, \”Dad, why are you talking to me in this tone?\” I said, \”Because you are wrong.\” He said, \”You can\’t talk to me in this tone even if you are wrong.\” I said, \”\” Haven’t you read the Three-Character Classic?” He said, “Don’t you just want to say, ‘It’s the father’s fault if you raise someone or not’?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Didn’t you talk about the Disciple Rules two days ago? 》? The \”Disciples\’ Regulations\” say, \’Observe filial piety and trust every time\’. If you don\’t make your father happy, why should I make my father happy?\” This incident shows that our traditional education is still in use today. Total collapse has occurred and we are facing a fundamental conflict. As a parent, I hope that if my son\’s teacher sees that he is useless, he will be beaten twice and forced to stand for a while. This is what he should do. The Ministry of Education should set such rules and punish students. We now all say to encourage children\’s self-confidence, praise him, and encourage him to have self-confidence. This is right, but it cannot be excessive. A child under this kind of education will come into society and the contrast he faces will be enough to destroy him. We should tell our children that this society is cruel and unfair, and they should be prepared to suffer a lot of grievances. They should be wronged early and get exercise early. If the principal or teacher punishes my child who does make a mistake, or even beats him a few times, I will thank the teacher. I believe that most teachers have great love. I hopeThe teacher holds a carrot in one hand and a stick in the other. Don’t simply say that happy education, quality education, happy learning, and successful education are all successful? I think it’s good to educate children to be happy ordinary people! Education cannot blindly give in to children. I think education is the most real thing. Teachers should not try to figure out the minds of parents and children, and constantly make concessions to children and parents. It doesn’t matter whether my child is admitted to a prestigious university or not. I just hope that he will be physically and mentally healthy and live a good life. What\’s more, no one knows how old humans are. Hawking said there are still 200 years. If this is really the case, I will tell my grandson not to have children. Is this a joke? We now want our children to be as physically and mentally healthy as possible, and we give them the right to choose the future because we cannot be responsible for our children. Unlike when we were young, life was very difficult, the society was underdeveloped, and the economy was underdeveloped, but our parents were still responsible for us.我觉得我现在非常羡慕我父母，他们敢骂孩子、揍孩子，但是我们依然爱他们。 Children today cannot be hit or scolded, even a look may kill their elders tomorrow. Teachers also dare not criticize students, and students cannot be injured in school. Teachers are afraid that parents will come to their door and pester them endlessly. When I talked about \”keeping filial piety and brotherhood\” in the \”Disciple Rules\”, I asked my assistant to search for negative examples of \”unfilial piety and father-killing\” within a year, and then print them out so that I could choose negative examples. After a while, the assistant told me: \”There is no printing paper!\” We have no control, restraint, and restraint on our children, and we blindly give in to them in the name of love. This kind of education is wrong. Maybe this idea is very abrupt, and I should think of ways to \”make children learn more successfully\”, but I \”don\’t believe it\” in my heart. So I chose to report my true thoughts to the principals and teachers. If we don\’t get some of this fiction straightened out, we\’re all going to be screwed! Education, especially basic education, may not necessarily simply develop with the development of society. This is a big problem. We simply believe that education should develop with the development of society. To a certain extent, education should \”sing against\” society. Is society \”educating\” education, or is education \”educating\” society? I think it should be education that \”educates\” society. Now society is \”educating\” education, so the ontology of education no longer exists, and the most basic values ​​of education no longer exist. Our nation originally assigned such a high status and value to education, but today it has been completely disrupted. The last line of defense in our society is education. We should not give in easily to society, we should not give in easily to our children, and we should not give in easily to our parents. Our society should give principals and teachers greater rights, higher honors, and better treatment, but we should also give them greater responsibilities. This is my sincere words. If there is something wrong, please principals first treat me as a student, secondly treat me as a parent, and finally treat me as a junior teacher and provide criticism and education. IThere was not a single lie in what I just said, it was all the truth. Of course, Mr. Ji Xianlin taught me “Don’t tell any lies, and never tell all the truth.”