If you don’t let your child endure hardship, the world will make him miserable.

When you are old, all honors and money are fleeting, and an ineffective child is enough to make your later life miserable. There is one thing that is absolutely indispensable in children’s education. That is education through hardship. Especially if there are boys in the family, this is even more important. Because a man who is afraid of hardship is destined to be irresponsible. Don’t blame him for not having a sense of responsibility. In fact, he has no iron shoulders, so what should he shoulder? If you cannot endure hardship, you will eventually make others around you suffer, and you will also suffer. And the impact is lifelong. If you look at the two old men in our village, you will have this feeling. When you watch them passing in front of you, you will feel that time flies by and life only lasts a few decades! Of the two old men in our village, one was unable to endure hardships when he was young and relied on his wife to organize everything. The 50-year-old man still looks like he is doing nothing. He works outside, fishing for three days and drying nets for two days. Then he rode his bike outside to find poker friends, fished, and talked nonsense. He didn\’t go home all day, and not many people in the village wanted to see him, so he went to play in other villages. And what about the old wife? He works in the vineyard every day, wearing clothes and hats all over his body in the hot summer, weeding and fertilizing under the scorching sun, earning dozens of yuan in wages. Because the annual expenses of a family are a lot of expenses for dealing with favors. Just planting a few plots of land is definitely not enough. After returning home from work, the old wife still has to prepare meals. Her face, exposed to the wind and sun, often looks like cracked old tree bark, and her hands are even bigger and black. We all felt that she was suffering, but she didn\’t seem to feel it. Maybe she felt that this was her fate. This is not the case for another family. The old man works every day and is busy at home and outside. The family lives a comfortable and comfortable life. When they go out, they are upright and respected by others. There is nothing terrible about suffering, labor gives people dignity. Many people grow up to look like something they don\’t like, because they are broken from the root when they grow up. Family education, especially parents’ concepts, is the key. We will find a very strange phenomenon. If there are several siblings in a family, if there is an older sister and the last one is a younger brother. Most of the time, this younger brother cannot bear hardships or be tired. Because my parents have cared for me since I was a child, and my sister will protect me when trouble comes. Many parents have children in middle age and cherish them more and more, treating them as the apple of their eyes. If you don\’t pay attention, the scale of your parents\’ love will tilt towards the younger one. A former colleague of mine was often urged by his father to send money back to build a house for his younger brother and get a wife. Many parents don\’t want their children to suffer a little bit. I used to live frugally and spoil my children, and as a result, I let my children tie up my entire life. A mother once left a message saying that her husband has a younger brother who is doted on. Now he is 26 years old. He never thinks about others. The family conditions are not good. His parents-in-law are farmers in the countryside and they are reluctant to buy something delicious during the Chinese New Year. But as for him, he followed the trend and bought an Apple mobile phone, went abroad to play, and even asked us to borrow 20,000 yuan to have a nose job. There were many such things. I thought he was ignorant at first, but later I found out that his parents were used to it. And my mother-in-law also said that he has been like this since he was a child, and he can’t get what he wants without getting it. So I take care of the kids by myself without her help. I don’t want to take care of myself.My own children have become like that. Every time I see parents like this, I feel sad. What makes them willing to become a host and breed parasites? Pampering will only harm the child. Some mothers will tell their children that all you need to do is study well and don’t worry about other things. Therefore, children should not be asked to do housework, and children should not be involved in all matters at home. Many children don\’t know how much a pack of salt is or how much a barrel of oil is when they grow up. I remember a piece of news: A mother worked hard to raise her son, who found a job soon after graduating from college. However, he often resigned after working for less than a month. He always complained that the workload was heavy. He had to get up early in the morning and work overtime at night. It was too hard, too tiring, and he couldn\’t bear it. For two years, my son has been idle at home with peace of mind, either playing games online or using his mother\’s small salary to spend time in the society. In response to his mother\’s accusation, he plausibly said: \”If you can\’t support me all my life, why have you been so pampered to me since I was a child?\” Such an answer made many parents think deeply. Because in many of our families, the parents work hard and accumulate considerable wealth. They hope that their children will not have to suffer the same hardships that they have suffered, and they do not want their children to be as tired as themselves. As a result, white-eyed wolves and the gnawing old clan were born. We often hear old people say, save money, because when you give birth to a son, you have to consider buying a house for him. In rural areas, you have to consider building a house for your child and marrying him a wife. In our hometown, if the son cannot get a wife because there is no house at home, everyone blames me for being incompetent, not that the son is useless. I think this logic is bastard. Why must I take care of my son’s wife? If you don’t let your child endure hardship, the world will make him miserable! Some time ago, a classmate whom I hadn\’t seen for many years borrowed money from a WeChat group and said he wanted to do business. As a result, the group, which had been having a lively conversation, suddenly fell silent. This classmate is famous for his delicious food and lazy cooking. I remember that when he was a child and studying, his grandma would prepare him with face wash when he got up every day. Then his grandma would put on his clothes and his grandpa would feed him. His schoolbag was always carried by his grandpa when he went to school. It was even more like this after I went to middle school. Every time I stuffed a bag with smelly socks and dirty clothes, I would take them back to my grandma to wash during the holidays. The most important thing is that he loves to borrow money. When he was studying, he almost borrowed money from all his classmates. Unexpectedly, I am now in my 30s and still the same. I heard that I had just divorced my wife and the children at home were awarded to my wife. He doesn\’t have a serious job, he just fools around every day, trying to make a fortune by borrowing money without working hard. The result was a scene like this. In fact, parents are responsible for such results. Why did he grow up with such pampering from his grandparents? He was like falling into a honey jar, not knowing what the sky outside was like. I don’t even know the value and significance of sweat and labor. Therefore, the enjoyment he had back then was exchanged for the hardship he has now. Don\’t look at his indifferent appearance. He looks very beautiful on the surface. Maybe late at night, he will look at his aging face in the mirror, scold himself severely, recall the sweetness of his childhood, and then complain bitterly about the unfairness of fate. Bar. How could a child who has been pampered since childhood ever think aboutIt turns out that enduring hardship can make a person stronger. Only by going through the education of the school of suffering can a person gain practical and useful wisdom. Tell your children that life is sweet but also bitter, and no one can succeed casually. You must have the awareness to let your children endure hardship. If you can\’t help, don\’t help. It is good for your children to sweat a little and suffer a little loss. Let your children do more housework and actively participate in work-study activities. Older children can also participate in volunteer activities together, do things within their capabilities, and exercise their hands and feet. As a parent, you must let your children have a spirit that is not afraid of hardship, and let them know from an early age that labor is glorious and can win dignity for a person. Only through hard work can one realize one\’s value. These words may sound like slogans, but many years later, when a child who is almost 30 still asks you for money to eat, you will understand the importance of hard-working education. Therefore, education through hardship should be carried out as early as possible. You can also let children feel the power of suffering from stories and books, so that the spiritual world can be enriched. When encountering setbacks, children will not give up immediately and can withstand the blow. Tell stories in this area when your children are young. When they are older, you can read books, such as \”The Ordinary World\”, \”The Gadfly\” and \”How Steel Was Tempered\” by Lu Yao. These are very interesting. Nice book. When a child falls in love with reading, there are many, many more teachers. You will also be exposed to more ideas. Being a parent means not only letting your children feel your support and unconditional love, but also having the wisdom to plan for them. To know that love requires free air and the courage to let go.