If you don\’t listen to the old man, you will suffer a loss! How many families have been deceived by these old sayings?

Chinese culture has a long history, and there are naturally many good words and wisdom about family education. However, can these traditional educational concepts really be directly applied? At least the following points don\’t seem entirely feasible. 1. \”A filial son emerges from a stick.\” In traditional Chinese education, the concepts of \”a filial son emerges from a stick\” and \”nothing is effective unless beaten\” are deeply rooted. Sometimes parents get angry and inevitably want to roll up their sleeves and punish their children. However, is this kind of education beneficial? Xiao Lin was born with his left hand. His parents couldn\’t stand his left-handedness, so they tried every means to correct him. They paid close attention to whether he was using his left or right hand, and scolded him on the spot whenever he made a mistake. Xiaolin would be beaten if he made consecutive mistakes. Even when he got to the dinner table, he couldn\’t eat well. Once Xiao Lin accidentally used his left hand, his parents would look at him angrily, or they would directly reach out and knock the chopsticks out of Xiao Lin\’s hands and scold him loudly. Xiao Lin was so scared that he even had to eat with trepidation. As time went by, Xiao Lin became quiet and kept his head down wherever he went. Until one day, Xiao Lin\’s parents were surprised to find that Xiao Lin was not speaking well. The left-handed man did not correct himself, and his beloved son stuttered, which is really heartbreaking. Fighting the root cause will not solve the problem, but will make your children fear you and move further and further away from you. On the one hand, he will feel that he has not received love, and on the other hand, he will not be able to form self-awareness, because your \”hit\” action is denying him. Every child has a fragile heart. You can be strict with him, but you can\’t add sticks to each other. 2. \”Don\’t be afraid of being spoiled when you are young, and you won\’t be afraid of being spoiled when you grow up.\” Don\’t go to extremes in everything. You said you can\’t use sticks against each other, so I\’ll just pamper you and spoil you, right? No, everything must be done in moderation, and the same goes for educating children. My friend\’s daughter had excellent grades. When she was in high school, in order to prepare her for Peking University, her mother rented a house in the school and stayed with her throughout the three years. This girl only needs to eat, study, and sleep. Her mother washes her clothes and shoes, cooks and washes dishes, and brings her meals to the desk to eat, for fear that she will waste a second. Later, she was successfully admitted to Peking University, but she took a leave of absence and returned home during the second semester of her freshman year. She lacked the ability to live independently and did not understand how to get along with her classmates. The environment had changed, and the previous learning model did not seem to work. Under multiple pressures, she suffered from depression… She spoiled her children too much, which may have harmed them. If you pamper him for a while, can you pamper him for a lifetime? Let your child be able to live a good life on his own without you one day. This is the greatest love for him. 3. \”If you don\’t listen to the advice of the elderly, you will suffer a lot.\” Parents always worry and work hard to help their children plan a life path that looks good, but is this really suitable for their children? From the division of arts and sciences, to filling out university applications and dividing majors, how many people make choices against their will with the \”help\” of their parents. These decisions that only consider the future, work, going abroad, etc. for your children, but ignore the children\’s own interests, can they really make your children become what you imagined? Some people are forced by their parents to choose a major that they are not interested in when they enter college. Later, they want to change majors but are strongly opposed by their parents. Finally, they lose interest in this major and are unable to learn their own skills.When I liked my major, I chose to indulge in online games all day long and waste my time. Although the teachings of our elders can help us avoid detours. But this does not mean that \”you are a good child only if you listen to adults.\” Your child\’s progress needs your escort, but you must also loosen the thread at the appropriate time to allow the child to make his own decisions. What is suitable for children is the best. 4. \”Humility always makes people progress.\” There was a child who had just started school. His grades were very good in the first and second grades of elementary school, and he always came home with certificates of merit. I was often praised by my uncles and aunts for being smart and hard-working, and I was good at studying. But every time the child\’s father would always answer: \”It\’s not like a blind cat just ran into a dead mouse. It\’s just good luck. It\’s not sure how good it will be in the next exam.\” After time and time again, the child became a little discouraged. ——No matter how good your grades are, your dad thinks it’s just luck, so why bother trying so hard? During the next exam, the child\’s performance dropped and he was criticized by his father. He cried out aggrievedly: \”I\’m a blind cat anyway, so I should be immune to mice.\” The father was stunned: \”What are you talking about?\” The child explained. After hearing the whole story, my father laughed loudly and said, \”You, you, I was just being modest. Why did you take it seriously?\” The adults were just being modest. How could a child hear that? A child only knows that you are important to him, and he always wants your praise for his progress, that\’s all. Therefore, when your child makes progress, please don’t be stingy with your praise. Educating children is indeed a difficult subject, and there is no one-size-fits-all rule. The educational concepts of the past may not be suitable for today, and the educational concepts of other people may not be suitable for your own children. To educate children, you still need to teach them in accordance with their aptitude and vary from person to person. Don’t be blinded by tradition!