If you don’t take this matter seriously, your child’s future life will be filled with only suffering and tears.

A few days ago, I received a call from my uncle asking me if there was any way to make my cousin, who is a junior in college, like reading and understand the importance of learning. I couldn\’t answer at the moment. Because I once talked to him sincerely about how important learning is for a child from an ordinary family, but my cousin looked blank and had an indifferent attitude… It’s no wonder that my uncle’s family has good conditions and my cousin has lived a good life since he was a child. In the honeypot, there is no shortage of money, no shortage of love, and no worries about food and clothing. Although his parents are lax in discipline, they will always find ways to satisfy him what he wants. Everything he gained in life came too easily to him. It is said that children from poor families become masters early. He reminded Dan\’s mother of the complete counterattack she experienced when she was in college. Before my sophomore year, my family\’s financial situation was relatively good, at least we didn\’t have to worry about food and clothing. Before entering college, Dan\’s mother had always been a good girl. After entering college and leaving the control of my parents, my rebellious phase suddenly broke out. I didn\’t like studying at all, I was ignorant, I only knew how to play around all day long, and I had an indifferent attitude toward everything. Until one day I was told that my father’s factory was bankrupt! That year, my brother was preparing to recuperate in the army and needed money to support his work. My sister is interning in the hospital and cannot provide any financial support to the family. And my family just bought a shop, so the mortgage, my tuition, living expenses, and various household expenses all fell on my father. After he quit the public institutions when he was young, he directly started his own business and opened a factory. He has always been the mainstay of the family. Although our family has not been rich and powerful over the years, it has been smooth sailing. Nowadays, people have reached middle age, but their careers have failed and they have no skills. Suddenly, the family has lost its source of income. Forced by life, Dad could only choose to do all kinds of menial and hard work. I remember one night that winter, it was raining heavily and the wind was freezing. I saw that he hadn\’t come back after 11 o\’clock, so I asked my mother. She said that my father was going to help the moving company move things and would be back very late. I felt very sad when I heard that. On the surface, I pretended to be fine, but I hid in bed and cried for a long time before going to bed… And my mother, in order to reduce the burden on my father, went to work as a nanny and take care of a large family. I went there and was busy until seven or eight o\’clock in the evening before I came back. I had no rest and only made 400 yuan a month. But this little money is simply a drop in the bucket. She talked about all the hard work in an understatement, but my eyes turned red when I heard it. This is not the worst, maybe due to overwork and anxiety, my dad finally fell ill. Strangely enough, he suffered from loss of appetite and stomachache every day, but he went to many hospitals for examinations and could not find out what was wrong. When I think of my father, who used to be so high-spirited, optimistic and humorous, he was a great hero in my heart. But now, he can only lie in bed sickly like this, pretending to smile for fear of worrying his daughter… In fact, they have to bear the pain. The pain is a hundred times worse than mine, but no matter how cruel the world is, our parents will always protect us from wind and rain. This gloomy and gloomy situation lasted for almost two years in my family. These two years have been the most devastating two years of my life. My parents are still struggling, so what qualifications do I have to talk about poetry and distant places? At that time, I really felt that I needed to work hard and be responsible for myself! all of a suddenI feel like a different person, no longer eating, drinking, having fun, and wasting my days with my classmates. In addition to studying hard, I began to look for various part-time jobs, including tutoring, supermarket salesman, order dispatcher, kindergarten teacher… I worked hardest at every job because I hoped to reduce the burden on my parents as soon as possible. These part-time jobs also allowed me to experience the warmth and coldness of human relationships at that time, and to understand the difficulties of my parents. There was something that left a deep impression on me. I was working as a tutor with a girl in the third grade of junior high school. This child is so spoiled that he is not only rude to his parents, but also has all kinds of resistance to me. One weekend, I ran to her house despite being sick. When I came downstairs, I was told that the girl had gone out to play and forgot to say hello to me. Thinking that I was not making any money, I was no longer willing to take the bus and walked for more than an hour in the cold wind at night before I got to school. The biggest feeling at that time was that compared to all these hardships, reading was really the easiest and most useful thing. Fortunately, my father later found his own career again, and the family situation gradually improved. But after experiencing such a complete and despairing helplessness, I truly realized the importance of study to me: I come from an average family and have no extraordinary talent. If I want to escape from this class, then studying is really my \”only\” choice. way\”. But I never told my cousin about this unforgettable experience because he might not understand. There is a world of difference between understanding and truly experiencing. If you have not truly experienced it, you will never understand the state of complete helplessness. It\’s useless to give him chicken soup, set an example, and make great principles, because for him, these have not established a connection, and maybe if he is educated too much, it will have side effects: it is none of my business. But how many parents are willing to put their children in such a hopeless and helpless situation? I once saw such a sharing on Zhihu. A rich father sent his second-generation son to a small restaurant to do the dirtiest and most painful manual labor. After a month of hardship and darkness, this rich second-generation man finally understood the importance of learning with his hard-earned money. After Dan\’s mother read his experience, she really thought this dad was so cool. Of course, some people may feel that this education method is too simple and crude. But it’s not a good idea when the truth you’re talking about so hard doesn’t make sense. Speaking of my uncle, before this summer vacation, he consulted me on this issue. I suggested to him that instead of getting angry and scolding him for not making progress, we should use actions to educate him and let him go out to work during the summer vacation to gain experience. . You can\’t influence your child with your eyes and ears, so just let him experience the cruelty of the real world as early as possible. What surprised me was that my cousin actually went and served the dishes at the restaurant. However, after half a month I heard that I couldn’t do it any more, it was too tiring. He said that he would definitely find a job that is not so hard after graduation. The subtext means: Even if I don\’t study seriously, I can count on my parents for my happiness, and they will be responsible. In addition, my aunt couldn\’t bear the child suffering, so she let him go back to eat and drink. Upon hearing the news, Dan\’s mother felt depressed and sad. Silly child, if you don’t study hard and take this relatively stable and easy path, then you will lose the right to choose.A job that is meaningful, gives you a sense of accomplishment, gives you happiness and dignity, but is forced to make a living, and dirty and hard work is waiting for you. If you don\’t pay attention to learning, your future life will be nothing but suffering and tears. The world is not as perfect as you think. No one is obligated to pamper you, and parents cannot protect you forever. You have to choose and be responsible for what kind of life you want. I also want to say something to parents like my uncle and aunt: excessive indulgence and control will only make children lose their vitality. If you don’t teach by words and deeds, set an example, don’t pay attention to passing on the value education of struggling life to your children, and you keep arranging everything for your children and paving all kinds of escape routes, by the time you want to push him out, he will have already lost the ability to fly. Feather Wings, I will really regret it by then.