If you don’t teach your children the twenty-four filial piety, then you can give them the best love

Yesterday, I passed by a sports square and was surprised to see a huge promotional wall with pictures and text on the Twenty-Four Filial Piety. People were coming and going under the wall, and people stopped to watch from time to time. The copy next to it said: Filial piety is the essence of the traditional culture of the Chinese nation, and the story of the Twenty-Four Filial Piety is a national treasure. The essence of your sister! National treasure, your sister! For people who are still promoting such anti-human values ​​to this day, do you really feel no pain in your conscience? I have always felt that I have become a lot gentler since I became a mother, but when I saw this wall, my first feeling was that I was furious. I posted it to Moments, and a group of friends left messages. Some said they had seen such posters in eight major places, some said they had seen them at the Confucius Temple, and some said they had seen them on the walls in front of their homes. All in all, they were everywhere. . I searched Baidu for \”Twenty-Four Filial Piety\” again, and the news I found is as follows: To this day, the Twenty-Four Filial Piety is still being promoted, and even organized and studied on a large scale. This is no longer a problem that is terrifying to think about, but is outrageous. First of all, there is no doubt that the Twenty-four Filial Piety is anti-human. If you don’t know what the story of Twenty-Four Filial Piety is, let me explain it first: The full name of \”Twenty-Four Filial Piety\” is \”Selected Collection of Quanxiang Twenty-Four Filial Piety Poems\”. It is a collection of stories about twenty-four filial piety sons who performed filial piety in the past dynasties compiled by Guo Jujing of the Yuan Dynasty. Most of the later prints were accompanied by pictures, so it is also called \”Twenty-Four Filial Piety Pictures\”, which is the picture I put at the beginning of the article. Just by looking at the titles, you can tell that each of these stories is more horrifying than the last: filial piety moves the heavens, entertaining relatives with colorful play, serving relatives with deer\’s milk, bearing rice for a hundred miles, biting one\’s finger to hurt one\’s heart, reed clothes obeying one\’s mother, tasting soup and medicine, picking up strange organs , bury a child to serve the mother, sell one\’s body to bury the father, carve wood for marriage, spring for carps, hold oranges in one\’s arms, fan a pillow to warm the quilt, work as a servant to support the mother, hear thunder in the tomb and weep, cry bamboo shoots, lie on the ice to ask for carps, strangle The tiger saves the father, eats mosquitoes to fill his blood, tastes excrement and is worried, the nanny is not lazy, washes the relatives and drowns the utensils, abandons the official position to find the mother. It is filled with plots of self-mutilation and self-abuse, such as lying on the ice to beg for fish, and cutting off one\’s thighs to cure a mate. The more perverted the situation, the higher the level of filial piety. As for tasting daddy\’s feces and washing mommy\’s urinal, these are the most lightweight ones. Pediatrics, it seems that they have to torture themselves until they don\’t look like humans or ghosts, so that their parents can spend their old age peacefully. The most perverted and outrageous thing is burying children to serve their mothers. The story goes that a man named Guo Ju gave the money his father left to his three brothers to his two younger brothers, and then he and his family supported his old mother. Later, his wife gave birth to a son, who was deeply loved by the old mother. Later, Guo Ju was worried that raising this child would affect his support for his mother, so he dug a hole to bury his son despite his wife\’s objections. However, he dug up gold. As a result, Guo Ju gained both fame and fortune and lived a happy life. Lu Xun commented in the article: \”Not only do I no longer dare to be a filial son, but I am also afraid that my father will become a filial son. My family situation is deteriorating, and I often hear my parents worrying about food and rice; my grandmother is old, and what if my father actually becomes a filial son?\” After learning from Guo Ju, then, am I not the one who should be buried?\” It is said that Puyi had a nightmare after hearing this story. After several princes and ministers discussed it, they all thought it was not appropriate to continue telling the little emperor the twenty-four filial piety, so he stopped . This story tells us a truth: the twenty-four filial piety is not suitable for the emperor, but only for the common people. This is intriguing, who is the greatest father among the people?Woolen cloth? Son of Heaven. When Chong\’er was in exile, didn\’t Jie Zitui cut his own thigh flesh for him? Secondly, what the Twenty-four Filial Piety conveys is not filial piety at all, but extremely utilitarian values. Most of the most thrilling stories in Twenty-Four Filial Piety took place in the late Han Dynasty and the Jin Dynasty. This must be mentioned together with the system of promoting filial piety and integrity at that time. Filial piety and integrity are not measured by talent, but by virtue. Doesn’t it sound good to govern a country with virtue? However, it can be measured by fighting, but virtue cannot be measured, so the promotion of filial piety and integrity quickly became a nationwide show. What everyone competes for is acting and imagination, not filial piety. Stories like burying a son to serve his mother, lying on the ice to beg for a carp emerged one after another. It is obvious that an ax can cut through the ice, but no, the body has to be cut. Stick to the ice. Those selected through this method are naturally liars who talk about benevolence, justice and morality. I can’t help but think of Hu Shi’s famous saying: A dirty country, if everyone follows rules instead of talking about morality, will eventually become a normal country with human taste, and morality will naturally gradually return; a clean country, if people follow rules People don\’t follow the rules but talk about morality and nobility. They talk about moral standards every day when they have nothing to do. Everyone is selfless. In the end, this country will degenerate into a dirty country full of hypocrites. There is a satirical poem that says: If you are a scholar, you don’t know how to read. If you are filial and honest, your father will leave. Han Su is as white and turbid as mud, and Gao Diliang is as timid as a chicken. Look at the ending of the story of the Twenty-Four Filial Piety. If you are filial to your parents, you can get gold, become a high official, and marry a fairy. So when we admire stories like burying children to serve their mothers, do we advocate filial piety to parents, or promotion and wealth? If this story were changed, and Guo Ju’s wife deserted her family, and in her later years she had no sons to fulfill her filial piety, and she died in despair, I would like to ask: Do we still need to be filial to our parents? Finally, the story of the twenty-four filial piety represented by Guo Jiumian\’er reflects a very, very terrible concept in China for thousands of years: children are the private property of their parents. I thought about it for a long time, why Guo Ju could bury his child so calmly, because he believed that the child\’s life was given by himself: I let you live as long as you live, and die as long as I let you die. Your body, hair, skin and even soul all belong to me. Yes, you are no different to me than a vase on the shelf or a bowl on the table. I can take your life away at any time, and you have no right to speak. For Guo Ju, his mother is more important than his son, and even his younger brother is more important than his son. His son\’s life is even more despicable than an ant. In fact, behind the popularity of the Twenty-four Filial Piety Pictures, it reflects the inherent parent-child concept formed by Chinese people for a long time, that is – children are the private property of their parents. Therefore, Guo Ju can bury and borrow his son without mercy to show his filial piety. In his eyes, his son is just a prop. How he behaves depends entirely on his mood. To this day, many people still uphold these values. Once I witnessed a man kicking his five or six-year-old son several times in a shopping mall. The child cried loudly, and the onlookers tried to stop him. He choked and said, \”It\’s none of your business if I beat my own son.\” Later, someone called the policeThen he gave up. In the traditional culture of filial piety, children never appear as independent individuals. At best, they are just accessories of their parents. The obedience, filial piety, and loyalty brought about by the brutal suppression of children by father and mother are like invisible hands, tightly suppressing the child\’s life. As a result, the family is shrouded in the web of parental relations. Tragedies are still common. There are countless cases of Fan Shengmei around us. News about fathers sexually assaulting his own daughters and minors being abused and injured by their parents frequently appear in the newspapers. In the name of love and filial piety, the parent-child relationship established based on the desire for power, control and interference is undoubtedly the root of many family tragedies. Truly beautiful parents and children never talk about filial piety. A beautiful parent-child relationship is not bound by moral shackles, nor is it influenced by propaganda pictures of abnormal values, but is established by love and respect: give them freedom. To choose, not to obliterate a sound personality, to give advice, not to interfere, to give love, not to repay. Why am I so angry about the story of Twenty-four Filial Piety? It’s because this is a children’s enlightenment book, and its educational target is children. A child who has not yet formed independent values ​​may become whatever you instill in him. Wang Xiaobo once told such a story in \”The Misfortune of Intellectuals\”, saying that he had a Shibo who was the principal of a school before the Cultural Revolution. He always taught the students the twenty-four filial piety. When he talked about lying on the ice to seek carps, the students could hear Creepy. Later, when the Cultural Revolution began, the students rushed him to the ice and said, \”Your father is sick today and wants to eat fish – take off your clothes, lie down, and show us a performance of lying on the ice asking for fish.\” From then on, Shibo The root of the disease has fallen. Later, when I heard about the twenty-four filial piety, I got goosebumps all over my body. Trying your best to instill the concept of filial piety into your children is just a sign that parents have no confidence. If you love your child enough and teach him love and responsibility, will you worry that he will not love you in the future? If you really love your children, stop brainwashing them with stories like the Twenty-Four Filial Piety, and please let them have independent personalities. As Gibran said: Your children are not actually your children. They are children born of life’s desire for itself. They came to this world with the help of you, but they did not come because of you. They are by your side, but they do not belong to you. What you can give them is your love but not your thoughts because they have their own thoughts