If you have a baby in kindergarten at home, be sure to check it out.

September is a magical month of the year. Parents of old students are overjoyed to see the \”mythical beasts\” returning to their cages, but parents of new students are worried. Every September, the entrance to the kindergarten is always bustling with people crying, and the heart-wrenching \”Mom\” sounds are endless. How can I successfully separate from my baby? In addition to giving your baby enough time to adapt, there are actually some tips. Preparation before entering kindergarten: Before school starts in September, we need to mentally prepare the baby to adapt to the unfamiliar environment as soon as possible, face separation anxiety, learn to communicate proactively, and know how to cooperate and share. How to do it specifically? You can use picture books to teach communication skills or take your baby to kindergarten to see it in person, so that your baby can have a psychological expectation for the new living environment. But remember not to over-beautify or even mythologize kindergarten life, otherwise the baby will have too high expectations and will be hit hard by reality, and the gap will make it more difficult for him to adapt. For example, helping babies learn to use polite words and express their needs clearly are basic communication skills. And according to my experience, communication cannot be taught in words, but depends on the words and deeds of parents, that is, the power of example. There is also the need to give your baby more opportunities to practice so that he can truly use the communication skills he has learned. Learn to share The sharing advocated in kindergarten is different from the toy exchange of babies in the community. Toy exchange is actually the process of exchanging \”mine\” for \”yours\” after the baby has established a sense of property rights. Only in this way can the social relationship between babies be developed. However, all items in the kindergarten are public, so instead of teaching babies to share, it is better to teach them to share – to experience the happiness of sharing together, rather than monopolizing it. You can also take your baby to parks, children\’s playgrounds and other places with public facilities, and then encourage him to take turns or play with other children to experience the joy of sharing. When going to kindergarten when entering kindergarten, it is best to be sent by only one parent. If the whole family goes out, it may give the child a hint: I may be sent to a very scary place. Otherwise, why would everyone be so nervous and concerned about this matter? On the way to kindergarten, parents should not be so nervous as if they have been ordered to perform a dangerous task. They should keep telling their children \”don\’t be afraid\”, \”kindergarten is fun\”, and \”just tell the teacher if you have any questions\”. Although these contents sound like comfort and instructions, they can easily make children feel nervous about \”going to the battlefield.\” When you arrive at the door of the kindergarten, you can give your baby a gentle hug or kiss, and then say \”see you in the afternoon\” in a relaxed way – according to my personal experience, these three words are more effective than \”goodbye\” and give the baby a sense of expectation. feel. When the process is over, leave gently, firmly, and without looking back. Pick your baby up on time after school and tell your baby that you miss him too (some children may feel abandoned by their parents when they first enter kindergarten, so it is also important to express your thoughts to your children). Then you can talk to your child about some happy things that happened during the day, and try to ask some positive and specific questions, such as \”What games did you play today?\” \”Which child did you play with today?\” \”What did you eat today?\” WhatIs it delicious? ” Avoid asking questions that bring back bad memories, such as “Did anyone bully you?” \”Have other children taken your things?\” \”Wait. After you get home, be sure to fully accompany your baby so that he feels safe. Never sneak away like this when sending your baby off: This approach does not solve any problems, but will make the baby lose his sense of security. . Deception and threats of violence: Tell the baby: \”Buy him a toy and pick him up soon.\” ” or “Stop crying. If you cry again, I won’t come to pick you up.” \”Wait,\” this kind of language is also lethal and will make the baby lose his sense of security. Look back three times in one step: the baby is so sad that he cries, and the parents also shed tears sadly. The scene seems to be \”parting from life to death.\” The baby has already been carried by the teacher. In the classroom, parents are still unwilling to peek through the glass on the door, or look back after taking a few steps. In the above scene, no matter who it is, they will have the idea that \”kindergarten is a scary place\”. When sending babies to kindergarten, parents must first solve their own inner separation anxiety disorder. Only when we realize from the bottom of our hearts that going to kindergarten is something that every child must experience, and it is also a very normal and happy thing, can we deal with it. This sense of peace is passed on to the child, allowing him to successfully go through the kindergarten adaptation period.