If you have a boy at home, please \”speak\” carefully

Many mothers say that talking to their baby boys is too tiring. I feel the same way: For example, when my son is playing with toys and I ask him to eat, he doesn’t hear me the first time, and he still can’t hear me the second time. He may look at you the third time, but he still looks like he can’t hear me. . I used to think that he was pretending not to hear, but later I realized that this is just what boys are like. So I am much calmer. There\’s also something very infuriating about talking to boys. For example, when we went upstairs together, I accidentally overtook him and opened the door first. My son looked unhappy and said sternly, \”I\’m going to throw you to death.\” If you say harsh words, how will you teach them in the future? Fortunately, I know that they often fail to convey their meaning, which is not their intention. I just found a sentence that I thought was very touching to express my emotions. So when we got home and calmly held him in his arms before reading a storybook, we asked him: \”You just said you were going to throw Dad to death. How are you going to throw him?\” When I said this, the little guy looked embarrassed. Boys are just like that. When you take them, don\’t take them too seriously. Otherwise, it is possible that you will suffer 10,000 points of damage in a day. Of course, as long as we are careful, talk to our children well, and accompany them gently and firmly, we can also get a heart-warming little boy who understands his parents and speaks thoughtful words, making parents burst into tears in an instant. Boys and girls are born different because they mature later than girls, so they need more patience from their parents. This is especially true when it comes to the development of language communication skills. Scientific research has found that the \”language and emotional communication\” areas in girls\’ brains are developed earlier. Even if they are small babies, baby girls will prefer to observe the facial expressions of their caregivers and detect people\’s emotional changes. They are good at reading people\’s facial expressions and feeling emotional changes, so they are more considerate and sensible. And they can express their feelings. For example, they prefer to tell their parents about their \”love\”. But boys are different. Their space and touch will develop first, so they will be better than girls in movement, space, and classification. Therefore, we often see a boy getting angry at a female companion who is not good at classification. My son often gets agitated because his cousin mixes up the types of toys. If there is no timely intervention by adults, they will get violent and violent, and two children will fight if they don\’t give in to each other. Boys generally don\’t understand until they are four or five years old that every feeling in their body has a name, and language is a very powerful tool. Because their language development lags behind that of girls, but they are naturally energetic, adventurous, and often make mistakes, they are often left out by adults. Speaking of boys\’ mistakes, don\’t take it too seriously. Because boys will understand the world through \”trial and error\” rather than by reading and understanding other people\’s feelings. At the same time, they use their own behavior to find out their parents\’ bottom line, so if the behavior is not too extreme, parents should not react strongly and prohibit it. However, if you violate the rules, you must tell him in time that it is a \”foul\”. For example, if you bully a weak child or spit at someone, you must correct him in time. Boys without ears are everywhereAll of them, you must agree with them with both hands, right? When many mothers talk about the problems of their baby boys, they often mention that \”that guy doesn\’t have ears, and he can\’t seem to hear anything I say.\” Moreover, boys are often criticized by teachers at school for not listening well and often not having their ears covered. It is what it is, and we have to accept this harsh reality: boys generally have less attention than girls. So we have to put more effort into helping them, and certainly not rely on the same nagging. There is a saying: \”A man\’s most fatal wound comes from a woman\’s mouth.\” When a child is doing his thing seriously, don\’t disturb him. When he is angry and refuses to speak, wait for him to release his emotions first. Wait until you feel better before talking properly. When in front of a lot of people, don\’t make \”kind\” jokes about them, because it\’s easy to take them seriously. The pride of little men will inspire them to resist fiercely. When they are very focused on one thing, they can\’t hear the second sound at all. If you interfere forcefully, it will destroy the child\’s concentration, and the gain will outweigh the loss. It is recommended that you walk over, squat down, look him in the eyes, get involved, speak gently, let him feel you, and then he will turn his attention from other things to you. Also, try to be as concise as possible. Boys especially don\’t like to hear long-winded words. Their brains don\’t have that sophisticated network. It\’s best to give one simple, clear message at a time so boys can process it effectively. If you say that you have taught your child to be docile and obedient, that does not necessarily mean that the education is a success. It may just create the birth of a \”Mama\’s Boy\”. Many boys were often nagged by their mothers when they were young. During adolescence, they will feel at a loss and no longer want to endure it. So he will use rebellion against his mother. If you want your children to always have smooth communication with you and have a harmonious parent-child relationship, then you must remember: be a gentle but firm mother. Only when your children trust you enough and have enough self-confidence will there be a good parent-child relationship. If you love him, you must enter his world. Many parents of boys, especially fathers, are confused by their \”inability to communicate\” with their children. For example, when a child comes back from playing outside, I will ask him, \”What did you play today? Who did you see?\” He will simply answer me where I went and who I played with. If I ask him to be more specific, it won\’t work. Sometimes it’s not that I don’t know, it’s that I don’t want to express it, and sometimes it’s just that I really don’t know how to express it. And they often don\’t express what they mean. For example, he obviously wants to express that he is angry, but he will say \”I hate you\”, \”I will beat you to death\”, etc. Therefore, parents must patiently help their children and tell them how to express their feelings and thoughts. Many parents want to master the secrets of their children\’s communication overnight, but that is impossible. In fact, the best teacher in emotional management is the child\’s companion, which requires hard work and accumulation day by day. Talk to your children when they are very young. When my son was an infant, I told him about my experiences every day and read him storybooks to stimulate the development of the language area in his brain. And the next few yearsIt has been a few years of rapid progress. I talk to him a lot every day, and I also play some language games. For example, we compete in tongue twisters to see who can read faster. We also play a riddle game that we created by ourselves. Use language to describe three characteristics, and the other party will guess what they are. Don’t shut up because you think the baby can’t speak. We need to observe the child’s eyes and expressions and use language to help them understand. For example, when a child looks at the clouds in the sky, we can point to the white clouds and say to the child, \”Those are white clouds, white, and the sky is blue, blue.\” We can talk to the child more when walking or shopping outside. Conversations between attentive parents and children will expose children to information and vocabulary several times higher than those from families lacking communication. The impact of dialogue on a child\’s brain is more effective than any expensive education in the future. And when the children go to school or society, this effect shows its power. As your children grow up, storybooks are often read to them. Even if a child is only one year old, he can still understand picture book stories. In the process of reading, communication will become more frequent, and children\’s language expression will also be exercised. What\’s more important is the irreplaceable intimacy of parent-child reading together. You can\’t rush, you need to encourage your children throughout the process and accompany them as they grow. If your child doesn\’t know how to tell a story, don\’t worry, you can start with a short sentence. In addition, like girls, boys also need hugs and even more tenderness, encouragement and physical close contact, especially in their enlightenment stage from birth to six years old. Compared with girls, boys learn more slowly and are not very good at social interaction, so they are destined to need more support and supervision from their parents. Nurture the boy in front of you well, because one day he will become a husband and a father. A boy with a heart full of love will love his family even more when he grows up, and a boy who can talk well will also talk well when he grows up.