If you have a boy at home, the sooner you know these 3 things, the better!

Ask mothers to describe the best characteristics of a little boy. I think there must be a common answer – high energy. While still in infancy, boys are stronger than girls. Once they can crawl and sit, they won\’t stop. A few days ago, my cousin\’s 1-year-old son came to my house for the first time. Playing on the sofa until midnight and still jumping around. We two grown men just looked at him, because he could play into several situations in a blink of an eye. By the time they are three or four years old, their energy is even greater. At that time, the mothers could no longer catch up with their running footsteps. The grandparents were panting from behind, shouting loudly, please be safe, be safe. When staying indoors, children find trouble everywhere and become unhappy at every turn. I remember that a mother asked me at that time: My son is too energetic and doesn’t like to eat or sleep. Is there any good way? My answer is: Then help the boy \”empty\” himself. Let him run, play, and release his energy. When he is tired and hungry, won’t he eat or sleep? Please take your boy outside and into the open air. When you take him to run in the park or go hiking, the boy\’s advantages are all revealed. If you have a boy at home, the sooner you know these three things, the better. Too often we are overprotective of boys. Because they are naughty by nature, adults are worried about them hurting themselves and causing damage. So batches of well-behaved \”doll boys\” were raised. I once met a mother and son in the park. The child came holding his mother\’s hand. As he walked, he listened to his mother saying: \”Don\’t fight with others, stay away from those children, be careful, don\’t hit things, and don\’t hit other people.\” The child sat on the Then he said to his mother: \”Can I swing higher?\” \”I\’d better push you, it\’s safer.\” Then my mother pushed there slowly. But it didn’t take long for the child to feel bored and come down. \”Mom, can I climb that step?\” \”I can…\” The child has not finished speaking. The mother said: \”No, that place is too dangerous. Let\’s go to the slide.\” Then the child followed the mother to the slide, and the mother was waiting below. \”Wait a minute, don\’t hit anyone.\” \”Slow down, don\’t slide too fast.\” \”Okay, come down now!\” The child finally stopped playing and took his mother\’s hand. He couldn\’t find any stimulation from the swing, couldn\’t shout loudly, couldn\’t laugh loudly, couldn\’t even run, couldn\’t jump, and had no chance to interact with other children. Children cannot find happiness in such a place. Now that I’m taking my kids out to play. Then go crazy and play! \”Come on, let\’s be wild!\” I often tell my son. Because boys need such opportunities. They exercise their courage in adventure. Increased strength in collisions. They rely on exercise and climbing to develop their brains. On the premise of ensuring children\’s safety as much as possible, we should stimulate children\’s natural spatial judgment ability and strengthen their muscles and bones. Boys need rules more. We now advocate releasing children’s nature. I generally understand it as respect for the child\’s nature, rather than suppression. But this is not laissez-faire, nor is it without rules. A few days ago I went downstairs to pick up a package. The elementary school outside the community happens to have lunch breakinterest. The nearest children would go home for lunch. In the lobby on the first floor. Two boys were wrestling there. A child pinned another boy down. I think it’s nice for two good friends to have fun together. Unexpectedly, it took a while. The kid who won the fight excitedly ran to the door, jumped up, and kicked the glass door of the entrance hard. Such behavior is definitely unruly. I said loudly at that time: \”Why did you kick that door? Can you be responsible if it breaks?\” At this time, the child stopped there. The child next to me said, \”My mother and the others are not at home.\” Maybe I really frightened this little bear at that time. But it was his parents who really helped him establish a sense of discipline. It is natural for boys to be naughty, but they must not harm others or destroy objects. This should be the rule. But many children now lack such awareness. In the community, children chasing each other always rush into the flower beds without asking. Then while tinkering inside, the flowers and trees collapsed. Such behavior often reflects the upbringing of a family. Why do children need parental discipline? Because there are inappropriate behaviors in their behavior that need guidance and correction from their parents. No matter how their nature dictates, where do they learn the rules for how to behave? It doesn’t mean you have to hit the wall again and again and be taught a lesson again and again before you can learn it. At that time, the hardships the children endured were probably much heavier than the guidance and discipline of their parents. Give boys more patience. A few days ago, the teacher in my son’s class posted an activity video. The children in the class were divided into two groups, boys and girls. The task is to run 5 meters with the stick and then circle the pillar in front before returning and handing it to the next student. I saw the girls completing tasks one after another in an orderly manner. The boys\’ group is in constant trouble. A child was running slowly. Halfway through, he saw that the girl had already circled the pillar and returned. He turned around and ran back. Hand the stick to the strongest boy in the class. The boy took the stick and used it as a weapon. He rowed back and forth in the air along the way, and finally knocked the pillar to the ground, and then returned. The next boy who took over took small steps and ran slowly, squirming all the way. But his next child was even more powerful. He kept running forward with a stick, and ran more than 10 meters before being told to stop. The teachers were also dumbfounded. After the girls finished running, there were three more runners lining up on the boys side. If this were a real relay race, the boys would have lost miserably. But this is the reality for boys and girls in kindergarten. This is also the gap between most boys and girls. Three problems can be seen from these boys\’ behaviors: 1. They do not understand the task process, so there are children who run far away with sticks. 2. Failure to follow the rules, so turning back halfway or even destroying facilities. 3. Not concentrating, swaying left and right while walking, so you can\’t see the stick when it is in front of you. Admit it! At an early age, our boys are really inferior to our girls. This is not the conclusion of one event, but the observation experience of many parents. It is also the result of research by scientists. So when it comes to boys, we need more patience. Help them overcome these inherent difficulties. After all, living in a group requires correctly reading instructions, following rules, and staying focused.necessary. Especially after entering elementary school, the situation is still the same in the class. Because the learning progress in primary school is faster, children who cannot keep up will often lag behind in their studies, which will have a great impact on their enthusiasm for learning. Xiao Xiaoyu was the last one to run. With the encouragement of the teacher and without any opponents, he quickly completed the task. I believe that if he runs in front, he can also complete the task perfectly. Because before entering the kindergarten, I exercised the first three abilities for him. When he was three years old, these three problems were also very prominent, so we delayed his enrollment for a year. The understanding of instructions lies in the comprehensive development of language ability, including three main aspects: vocabulary accumulation, communication and expression, and listening. So I usually insist on parent-child reading. Because in the process of reading, these three abilities are exercised together. This is one of the reasons why I have been calling on parents to read to their children together. When children are exposed to more books and stories. They will accumulate a lot of vocabulary and think at the same time while listening. After a period of time, they will develop the ability to understand. Such children can immediately understand the teacher\’s teaching content in school. Instead of the teacher talking about the teacher, I still play my own. The aspect of observing rules is to cultivate children\’s sense of rules. At that time, we made our own class schedule and studied for one hour every day. Then go to bed and take a nap at noon. I will definitely not turn on the TV in the morning, but I can watch it for a few dozen minutes in the afternoon. In fact, the control of these behaviors is not the purpose. Because if the environment is changed, it will no longer be effective immediately. Letting children develop a spirit of self-discipline and self-management is the key. In this case, even if your parents are not around and there are no special circumstances, you must still act according to the rules. In terms of attention training, my biggest feeling is not to let children come into contact with electronic screens prematurely. If contact is necessary, the time should be set, and parents should supervise effectively. With this major premise in mind, take your children outdoors more often. Let the children look at real trees, look at the texture of the trees, and touch the leaves. There are also butterflies, birds and insects, all good. When a child is doing something quietly, whether indoors or outdoors. Please don\’t disturb him. When you find that your boy has these problems, please don\’t be anxious and be patient in helping him. Hitting, scolding, scolding and losing temper are ineffective methods of education. The problem is still there, but the parent-child relationship is damaged. Someone once said that if you are a mother of a boy, you will have a long road ahead. Because the boy\’s world is more sensitive and fragile, requiring more care. If you are the father of a boy, your tasks are even more important. Because in a boy\’s world, you are the direction for his growth and the role model to follow.