If you have children who don’t want to go to school and have separation anxiety, you have to learn from this mother

School has started~ Many children leave their parents and home for the first time to go to a strange kindergarten. Feeling uneasy, anxious, and even crying are normal reactions. For such a young child, it is really not easy and difficult to adapt to this process. How can we help him overcome separation anxiety and make him less hurt and more confident and strong? Maybe, we can learn from the mother raccoon. In the past two days of school, I sent my son to kindergarten. The scene at the door was really miserable. Many of them hugged their thighs and cried, \”Mom, I don\’t want to go to kindergarten!\” \”Mom, I want to go home with you!\” \”Mom, don\’t let me go! Don\’t leave!\” That was so heartbreaking, it hurt to hear it. When every child first enters kindergarten, he or she will feel uneasy and anxious due to separation. It is really difficult for young children to adapt to this process. A year ago at this time, my son started kindergarten. Although when he was more than 2 years old, I would accompany him to parent-child classes every weekend to let him adapt to the kindergarten environment and life in advance. But, after all, this is the first time in his life that he has left his parents and the home he is most familiar with, and faces a new environment and life alone. Therefore, there is still uneasiness. On the first day I sent him to kindergarten, when I walked to the entrance of the kindergarten, he said goodbye to me in a very cooperative manner, and then he jumped up and down and followed the teacher into the classroom. I was still very puzzled at the time. Everyone said he was crying and making trouble. The three-howling scene didn\’t happen. Those mothers must have exaggerated. Early the next morning, he lingered and refused to go out. I didn\’t pay much attention at the time and packed his things and prepared to take him out. But who would have thought that my son cried \”Wow\” loudly: \”Mom, I don\’t want to go to kindergarten!\” I thought at the time that he was just going to act coquettishly and make noise, and I told him seriously: \”It\’s like mom every day.\” Just like you have to go to work, you also have to go to kindergarten every day.\” As a result, he cried even louder. That look can really be described as heartbreaking. I am a relatively soft-hearted mother. Seeing how resistant he was, I did not force him to go to kindergarten. However, if he doesn\’t go to kindergarten, I can\’t go to work. How to do it? Fortunately, my raccoon mother and I borrowed a \”magic kiss\”. Accompanied by this \”magic\”, the baby bravely embarked on a new life. Perhaps, like me, you can take a lesson from the raccoon mother – accept your child\’s emotions and understand her child\’s feelings. Tell your children gently but firmly: Separation is an inevitable and necessary course in everyone\’s life. It\’s time for little raccoon Kiki to go to school. But he cried and said to his mother: \”I don\’t want to go to school. I want to stay at home with you, play games with my friends, play with my toys, read my books, and swing on my swing. You can let me stay at home.\” \”Please?\” Qiqi doesn\’t want to go to school at all. The thought of going to school is filled with all kinds of fears, because kindergarten is full of unknowns and strangeness to him. There are no familiar friends and no toys he likes. , there is no swing he likes to play on. So how would mom respond to it? The mother raccoon hugged Qiqi and touched his ears with the tip of her nose. \”Sometimes, we all have toDo things you don’t want to do,” she said softly, “even if they seem foreign and scary at first. But as long as you go to school, you will fall in love with school. \”Mother Raccoon first gently gave Qiqi a loving hug, letting her child understand that mom can understand your sadness and your reluctance. Then she gently and firmly told her child that going to school is something we must do, and everyone In life, you will encounter many things that you are unwilling to do but must do. It may feel difficult at first, but in fact, after you actually do it, you will truly fall in love with it. Help your children establish new emotional connections ~ Raccoon Mother Empathy From now on, a bright future is described for the little raccoon. So what are the good things about kindergarten? \”You will make new friends and play with new toys.\” \”Read new books and play on the new swing.\” \”There are new friends, new toys, new books, new swings… The raccoon\’s mother told the little raccoon that there are things it likes in the kindergarten, and they are all new. In fact, most of the children\’s fear of separation comes from In view of the lack of understanding of the unfamiliar environment, it is very helpful for the children to familiarize themselves with and understand the unfamiliar environment in advance, which is very helpful in alleviating the pressure of entering the kindergarten. The raccoon mother helps the little raccoon to establish the relationship by telling it that there are various things it likes in the kindergarten. New emotional connections. Let the little raccoon feel that the kindergarten is not completely unfamiliar. There are many fun things in it, the people and the environment are very friendly, and it is no different from home. Tell the children: Even if mom and dad are not here, you By your side, our love will always protect you. After helping the child understand the kindergarten environment, she continued: \”Also, I know a great secret, so that you can be as warm and warm at school at night as at home during the day. Comfortable. \”(Because raccoons are nocturnal animals, the little raccoons go to school at night.) What is this secret? It is \”Magic Kiss\”. This is passed down from the raccoon mother\’s grandmother, and it is a very old secret. \”Pay attention. ! \”The raccoon mother took Qiqi\’s left hand, spread all his little fingers, then leaned forward slightly, and kissed Qiqi\’s palm. Qiqi felt that her mother\’s kiss came from his palm. My heart quickly rushed up to my arms and penetrated into my heart. Even his furry black cheeks felt a special kind of warmth. Is the magic kiss really so warm? We can also try it with our children at home~ Then , Raccoon’s mother smiled and said to Qiqi: “From now on, when you feel lonely and need the care of your family, just put your hands on your cheeks and think in your heart: ‘Mom loves you, mom loves you. ’ This kiss will jump onto your face, making you feel warm and comfortable. \”With the magic kiss, Qiqi is no longer afraid of going to school. In front of the school, Qiqi also gave her mother a \”magic kiss\” and skipped to school. The raccoon mother watched Qiqi jump Crossing the branches and entering the school. When the owl whined and sang, announcing the beginning of the new school year, the mother raccoon put her left hand on her cheek and couldn\’t help but smile. Qiqi\’s warm kiss turned into special words, full of Her heart seemed to be saying: \”Qiqi loves you, Qiqi loves you. \”The mother raccoon looked up under the treeShe held the little raccoon in her arms and watched him leave, her eyes full of love and expectation. Every time I read this, I am very moved. Almost all the love in the world is for being together, but the love that parents have for their children is for separation. At this moment, the mother\’s love helps the little raccoon gain a sense of security and the courage to explore the unknown world. All the raccoon\’s mother\’s thoughts are in the little raccoon\’s complacency when they parted. When a child enters kindergarten, it is the first time in his life that he is separated from his relatives, comes to a strange environment, and meets a group of strange people. Uneasiness and anxiety are very normal reactions. Just imagine, when we graduated and entered the workplace for the first time, we didn’t know the colleagues around us, and we were afraid of not being recognized by our leaders, so we acted and spoke cautiously for a long time. How we feel on the first day at work is actually how our children feel when they go to kindergarten for the first time. It\’s just that his restlessness and anxiety will be more severe. Therefore, his crying is also a natural and normal expression, and it is the most direct way for children to vent their inner emotions. We need to accept the child\’s emotions and understand his feelings; help him establish new emotional connections; and tell him that even if mom and dad are not around you, our love will always protect you. As long as the mother gives full understanding and love and makes the child feel safe enough, the child will take steps bravely.