If you teach your children this way, they will never have a long memory!

Two days ago, Xiaotu had dinner with her relatives, and the treat was an uncle. He brought his son with him. The boy was in junior high school. There were six people at the dinner table at that time, and the two roasted squabs ordered by my uncle were cut into eight small pieces, which means an average of 1.33 pieces per person. While Little Rabbit was eating vegetables quietly, he suddenly heard the uncle say dissatisfiedly: This is your third piece. I looked up and saw that the boy was holding a piece of roasted pigeon with the chopsticks in his hand. For a moment, everyone was staring at the piece of squab. The boy smiled reluctantly and put the pigeon back on the plate. There was a moment of silence, and the atmosphere was a bit awkward. As a result, Xiaotu didn\’t dare to pick up food anymore, for fear of being caught and criticized by his uncle. This boy may be a bit greedy, but Xiaotu still sympathizes with him. After all, he was the youngest at the dinner table, and it was always uncomfortable to be scolded by his father in public. Moreover, will that little boy really change in the future? In fact, because children\’s physical and mental development is not yet complete, their hearts are sometimes much more sensitive than adults. Take Xiaotu himself as an example. When I was in elementary school, there were many canteens outside the school. When school is over, these canteens are surrounded by primary school students. I also joined this mighty team. One time, my dad came to pick me up. I wanted to run to the canteen for a while, but I was caught by my dad. He shouted my name in front of everyone. The decibel level was high enough to attract a group of kids. Friends\’ attention. I walked over to my dad in full view of everyone. I was really embarrassed! The rainy day at that time was very appropriate because it was also raining inside me. To be honest, other than being embarrassed at the time, I didn’t realize my mistake. When a child makes a mistake, parents can\’t help but teach him a lesson on the spot. When you are angry, you often don\’t think so much and consider whether your own education method is inadequate. What\’s even more exaggerated is that while scolding the child, he also recounts his previous mistakes. Common sentence patterns include: How come it is &#￥% again? It was %@&￥ a few days ago, and it was also &#%￥ last time. Please ask for the child’s psychological shadow area. If a child is beaten and scolded in a crowded place, the child will be under great psychological pressure and will feel ashamed. Then you may develop a fear of society and become socially withdrawn. In fact, children\’s self-esteem is no cheaper than that of adults. Here are some immature suggestions: 1. Acknowledge the shortcomings of yourself and your children. Parents themselves will make mistakes, so if your children do something wrong, don’t rush to beat or scold them. Excessive education methods will only be counterproductive. Admitting the mistake itself and making children aware of the mistake through words and actions are often the most direct and effective. 2. Think from someone else’s perspective and understand the child’s perspective. Understanding the child’s psychological appeal is an important prerequisite for solving problems. Find out why the child made the mistake, whether it was because he was careless, naughty, or influenced by other children, etc. For example, if a child steals something from someone else\’s house and is taught a lesson in public, the child will be properly labeled as a \”thief.\” 3. Discuss the matter as it is and don’t dwell on old scores. When parents are angry, they may also take out their children’s previous mistakes and criticize them. In public, these children are simplyIt\’s a critical hit! They can easily feel worthless and develop an inferiority complex of incompetence. If your child makes a mistake, protect your child\’s self-esteem in public. Believe me, Xiaotu, your child will definitely appreciate you.