If you want your child to do well in the exam, you must tell him this sentence early

June is exam month. A few days ago, the college entrance examination just ended. In the past few days, high school entrance examinations have begun one after another in various places. Even primary school students are about to have their final exams. Although it is said that the examination paper is just a piece of paper, the future is a painting. But honestly speaking, who takes the exam doesn’t want to get good grades? Especially for the more important exams such as the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, everyone still has certain expectations. I gave birth to children late, and many of my peers and classmates have children who are of age to take the middle school and college entrance examinations. A friend with whom I have a good relationship has her son taking the college entrance examination this year. I asked her, are you nervous? She said she was so nervous that she felt more nervous than her child. But don’t let the children see it. A quick calculation shows that in three years, Xiao Zhang will also enter the examination room for the high school entrance examination, and six years later, he will also take the college entrance examination. I think I will definitely be super nervous by then. In fact, every test, whether it is a big test or a small test. Part of the test is learning, and part is a test of mentality. Therefore, those children who do well in exams are not necessarily the best at learning. But it must be the one with the most stable mentality. Every time there is a big test in life, half is a test of strength and half is a test of mentality. I have told you before. My best friend\’s son, Xiao M, was admitted to Tsinghua University with a score of over 700 in the past two years. The reason why this child can achieve such good results. Studying well is definitely the most important factor. But another very important factor is that this child has a particularly stable mentality. 🔗My best friend’s son scored 702 in the college entrance examination. She said these 9 words are all it takes to raise a boy. During the year of his college entrance examination, the epidemic was not over yet. Before the college entrance examination, the situation at my best friend\’s house suddenly became serious. The community is closed, and the college entrance examination is about to take place. It is very likely that the children will have to take the exam in a special examination room. At that time, my best friend and her husband were so anxious that their mouths were filled with tears. But my best friend’s son was very calm and took out an N95 mask. Whether he was taking a test or doing test papers, he wore a mask to help him adapt in advance. Before the college entrance examination, Little M was taken away by a car, stayed in a hotel by himself, and then dealt with all situations alone. But these sudden little accidents did not affect Xiao M\’s subsequent performance at all. The first subject is mathematics, and Xiao M is usually very good at mathematics. In previous mock exams, only the last question of the last big question was usually unanswerable. In Xiao M\’s words, that is reserved for competitive students. But the math questions that year were difficult. After leaving the examination room, Xiao M said that not only could he not answer the last question of the last question, but he could not answer other questions as well, which was quite unexpected. My best friend was very anxious at the time, worried that her child\’s mentality would collapse and affect future exams. But her son is very stable and has written all the steps he can. I guess it was because the questions were difficult this time, not because I didn\’t perform well. After the results came out, little M not only did very well in math, but English and other subsequent subjects were not affected at all. This mentality is simply decades ahead of me. Therefore, children with a good mentality are more likely to win in exams. In fact, not only the college entrance examination, every major test in our life is half a test of strength and half a test of mentality. Of course, everyone understands this. But the matter of mentality is not something you can just have. Every year we hear about several children who behave abnormally in the examination room. These children usually have good grades, butWhen it comes to such a big test. My mentality collapsed and my brain became confused. I can no longer do the questions I usually do, and I can also get the questions wrong that I shouldn’t. This kind of failure caused by mentality is the most annoying thing. I saw an example of this online a few days ago. He was usually a great master in literature and comprehensive arts, but when it came time to take the college entrance examination, he couldn\’t beat a classmate with average studies. There are also those who failed to perform well in the high school entrance examination and were among the top five in the class. They couldn\’t sleep during the exam and performed abnormally. Even Xiao Zhang, who is still in elementary school, said that he sometimes performs abnormally. Especially when taking math tests, we always make mistakes that we shouldn\’t make. Either I checked the wrong question or I read the wrong number. The math teacher also said that his understanding was fine, but he sometimes made some inexplicable mistakes in exams. I asked Xiao Zhang, do you know the reason? Xiao Zhang said that he didn’t know, sometimes it felt like his brain was short-circuited. Actually, I guess I\’m still a little nervous. I have read some related psychology knowledge before. To sum up, everyone’s mentality when facing exams is actually determined by our mental capacity. Everyone\’s inner capacity is limited. Whether you are happy and happy, or nervous and anxious. If any emotion is excessive, it will overflow. Appropriate tension helps people concentrate and improve work efficiency. But if the tension is excessive, it exceeds a person\’s psychological endurance. It will cause a person to have a strong sense of powerlessness. I started to not believe in myself, and I couldn’t even do things that I could do before. There are only a few reasons why children are so nervous. 1. People around you or yourself have too high expectations. 2. Physical stress caused by ultra-intense study and problem solving, lack of sleep, etc. 3. Put too much pressure on yourself, thinking that if you don’t do well in the exam, your life will be over. And if you want your children to have a \”strong heart\”, they can also be calm and calm in the face of big exams. It really can’t be practiced a few days before the exam. It may need to be cultivated gradually from an early age. A good exam-taking mentality may need to be cultivated early. Everyone\’s inner capacity may be inherently different. For example, Lao Zhang’s mentality is stronger than mine. No matter what happened, it would not stop him from snoring loudly. He always felt that even if the sky fell, there would only be one survivor left. That person must be him. I once laughed at his blind confidence. But now it seems that having a good attitude is also an advantage. Facing a big exam, people with a large mental capacity can at least perform stably. But if the child\’s mental capacity is not that big, he will be so nervous that he panics when taking the exam. It may be necessary to gradually adjust and improve the child\’s inner environment from an early age. Let children gradually learn to regulate their own tension and anxiety. When facing some large and small competitions and exams, even important written tests and interviews. You might as well try the following methods. 1. Give yourself reasonable expectations and don’t give yourself too high expectations. Instead, have reasonable expectations based on your abilities. You can even imagine the worst outcome. For example, it\’s not a bad thing if I don\’t get into a key school. If I go to another school, I may not have good development. Or even if you don\’t get into college, it\’s not doomed. You can still study again or there are other ways out. When you think about it this way, you will feel a lot more relaxed. ableAccepting the worst outcome and having peace of mind can better stimulate a person\’s potential. Let people concentrate more on studying, and every point they can improve is a point. After all, as long as the worst outcome is not exceeded, you have earned it. 2. When a child says \”What if I don\’t do well in the exam?\”, it is best to answer this question. There are generally two answers to this question. Some parents may answer, it doesn’t matter, if you don’t do well in the exam, you won’t do well in the exam! Some parents may answer that if you don\’t do well in the test, it\’s over, you can\’t… Both of these answers are actually inappropriate. The former may make the children feel that their parents are duplicitous, or they may lose confidence in themselves. The latter kind of consequences of over-emphasis on failing the test can also easily make children worry too much and affect their concentration during the test. The most appropriate attitude may be to listen and express understanding, \”It seems that you are worried.\” Let your children talk about their worries and anxieties, because talking in itself is a kind of stress relief. Then talk with the child about what he thinks. In fact, they usually have the answer in their mind. 3. If you can’t sleep before the exam, tell your child that it doesn’t matter if they don’t sleep well. Experiments have shown that one or two nights of insomnia will not cause huge changes in the human body. Even if we do not sleep well for one or two nights, our brain and body systems can still cope with the exam the next day. Let go of the fear of not falling asleep, and you will fall asleep more easily. 4. There are other little things that you should also pay attention to. For example, it is best not to listen to music before the exam. This is my experience and lesson. Before one exam, I listened to \”Green Apple Paradise\” which was very popular at the time. As a result, the song was still in my head the next day, looping automatically. As a result, I failed the exam that time. Therefore, before the exam, you still need to pay attention to some small details. 1. Do not do difficult or strange questions before the exam, as this may increase your psychological pressure. 2. Eat familiar foods and wear comfortable clothes. No need to suddenly impose nutrients, just keep it light and clean. 3. Don’t always ask “How was the review?”, just let the children go at their own pace. 4. Parents should have a stable mentality. If you are stable, your children will have someone to rely on. Recently, many children may have to go through exams. You can tell your children early that whether it is an exam or other major life event, you should do your best and listen to fate. Do what you have to do, and don’t be too obsessed with the results. No one will lose their entire life just because of one exam. As long as you have an optimistic attitude and keep moving forward, you will eventually encounter good things unexpectedly.