If you want your children to enjoy \”quality education\”, you must first have money

Recently, a new round of \”promoting burden reduction and quality education\” has triggered heated discussions among parents around me. It is obvious to me that the parents around me are divided into two camps. For most ordinary dual-income families, it raises a real problem: Who will take care of the children who get out of school at three o\’clock? No nanny. If there are no more elderly people to help, this may even mean that one person has to choose to stay at home to take care of the child full-time. At the same time, the sledgehammer of financial pressure directly hits the other person. More mothers are worried in the group: \”Nowadays, an interest class on the market can easily cost tens of thousands, which is worth half a year\’s salary. But seeing other people\’s children learning this and that, you have the nerve to let your children sleep at home after school?\” \”On the other hand, middle-class and above parents who have abundant resources (wealth, time, etc.) have no feelings at all, because they originally did not rely too much on public education resources, but now, their children do not need to take leave, and nannies and drivers can take them with them. Go to various interest classes. Some of these mothers even chose international schools from the beginning. The changes in the education environment have nothing to do with them. Their children are originally focused on taking cultural classes for half a day and learning equestrian, ice hockey, and piano for the other half. Let me help everyone clarify an important concept: \”burden reduction\” does not equal \”quality education.\” A report called \”How serious is the solidification of class in the United States\” describes the \”quality education\” in the United States. Public schools let out at half past one, and black students formed gangs and hung out in the streets; while children from private schools went to various training classes. Some elite schools heavily require parents to participate in teaching: community service, mock campaigns, and discussions on political topics. (At Greenough School in Massachusetts, the favorite game among children is mechanics competitions.) Regardless of quality, what are the consequences of simply reducing the burden? \”If the mind is not filled with flowers, it will be filled with weeds.\” What will happen to children who lack discipline and guidance? On March 17, a child in Pujiang County wanted to jump off a building because his father took away his iPad. Elementary school students don’t compare with famous brand toys, they only compare with the ranking on Honor of Kings. Even older children are crazy about chasing stars, risking their lives or death for the sake of stars; they are completely superstitious about entertainment reports, and want to have plastic surgery in exchange for a star\’s life. The American drama \”Shameless\” describes a family from the bottom of the United States who grew up under the education of \”just be happy and lighten the burden\”. They eventually became addicted to drugs, alcohol, and sex, had serious health and psychological problems, and made their lives a mess. (Because the parents are busy making a living, the 6-year-old child has to be a nanny all day and is responsible for all the daily life of the 3-year-old child) (Addicted to promiscuity and does not pay attention to contraception, there are many children, the living conditions are very bad, the mother relies on friends to deliver babies) (In the family A gifted child who was admitted to a private high school on his own, ranked among the best but went wild because he could not face the pressure of life) Japan also had a period of education reform, targeting the group of children born in 1987, so they were called the \”Era of Relaxation\” . But in fact, research by Japanese experts and scholars has found that the \”relaxed era\” is the generation with the weakest learning ability, the worst social ability, and the worst ability to resist setbacks. (The Japanese drama \”The Queen\’s Classroom\” tells the naked truth) Brzezinski, a senior American think tank, proposedA famous theory: In a society where the gap between the rich and the poor is becoming more and more severe, in order to concentrate 20% of the wealth, a large amount of entertainment information must be customized for 80% of the people, so that they will gradually lose their enthusiasm, independent thinking and ability to fight. Brzezinski explained that this is like giving them a \”hypnotic pacifier\”, so this theory is also called the \”pacifier theory.\” In this world, easy winners are always false propositions. Some time ago, we were flooded with the news \”19-year-old twin sisters were admitted to Oxford and Cambridge respectively\”. However, after reading the story carefully, we did not feel very inspired. We were simply deeply shocked by the process of the twins becoming talents. What is described by the media as \”burden reduction,\” \”free-range education,\” \”not forcing children to attend cram schools,\” and protecting self-esteem is that \”parents are really rich.\” Others spend their winter and summer vacations attending cram schools, while theirs spend their winter and summer vacations traveling and exploring the world with their mothers. In junior high school, I went to an aristocratic middle school in Hangzhou called \”Greentown Yuhua School\”, and my class was a Ruili class with a tuition of 80,000 yuan a year. In high school, the tuition fee for international boarding students at an American private high school (Whitemond School) is US$80,000 per year. This does not include living expenses, extracurricular activities, international summer camps, social expenses… I don\’t want to deny the efforts made by the two sisters. After all, a lot of Wealthy families, given this condition, would still not be able to pass the exam. But I want to say that only with a strong family economic foundation can children be separated from public schools and more than 60 people share the situation of one teacher; (choosing schools with higher thresholds and scarcer resources) can one-on-one education plans be customized according to individuals , fully trial and error, and wait patiently; (go to Europe for study tours, do charity in America and Africa, and feel the meaning of survival, etc.) Only then can you truly freely expand the scope of choices and reach a natural state among many possibilities. (Parents are not in a hurry, because they can afford the consequences, and the ceiling for their children is very high.) Another point is that we are always talking about \”reducing the burden\” and \”reducing the burden\”. Little do we know – for children who grow up in different family environments, even the \”burden\” The definitions are all different. Last year, the research report on Su Shi that students from the primary school attached to Tsinghua University did as a group project was blasted. Many parents are in disbelief at some of the screenshots. On the one hand, they doubt whether their children completed it independently, and on the other hand, they question whether this kind of operation is a burden for their children. However, in fact, poverty and horizons really limit imagination. For those children who were born in scientific research families and have been taught by generations of famous school professors, and who have been exposed to it since childhood, this kind of operation may never be a burden, but a fun and hobby that they have been exposed to. For such families, learning is a pure pleasure and a natural way of life. It is not linked to livelihood, has no clear ambition to pass exams, and is not a weapon for social survival in the future. This can also be regarded as \”poor cognition\” due to different perceptions of \”burden\”. To be honest, the view that \”pure burden reduction is quality education\” is very heavy-handed in my opinion. Let me give you an example. There were so many people climbing the mountain that later the organizers gave everyone a blindfold to cover their eyes. Some people took out a pair of high-tech stereoscopic glasses and continued to crawl peacefully. Another group of people thought that the game endedAfter finishing it, he started to relax and sit down to play. Those who stopped were automatically filtered out. The reality is cruel and the facts are heartbreaking. \”Burden reduction\” is not \”indulgence\”. Behind burden reduction, the quality education that is called for and corresponds to is backed by a family\’s financial cost, time cost, and parents\’ judgment ability and pattern. Reducing the burden is definitely not about \”inaction\” on the part of the parents, nor is it really about letting the children go freely. After the burden is reduced, where the extra energy goes is a challenge that every parent must face. In a certain sense, \”burden reduction\” is an unbearable burden for parents and a difficult battle that ordinary families have to fight.