If you want your children to go from never leaving their cell phones to actively putting them down, parents should do these three things

Nowadays, many children have gradually become \”head-downers\”, and their faces are full of excitement and joy when they play with their mobile phones. But when parents see their children addicted to mobile phones, they feel very anxious and uneasy. As parents, if we want our children to escape from mobile phones, we must constantly upgrade our cognitive models, find the reasons behind our children\’s behaviors, and use appropriate methods to actively guide them. I believe that any parents love their children deeply. If they want their children to stop being addicted to mobile phones, they must learn to do the following three points. 01. Demonstrate more and preach less. Behavior is better than preaching. Parents’ actions are better than thousands of nagging and preaching. Don\’t think about changing your children\’s behavior so that they listen and obey. Psychologically speaking, there is no persuasion, only influence. Parents should let go of their obsession with controlling their children and gradually influence their children by creating a positive family atmosphere and a positive self. If children love to play with mobile phones, have we as parents been strict with ourselves and restrained our desires? Adults sometimes lack self-discipline and control, let alone a child? Therefore, parents must start with themselves. When the children are doing homework, can we sit with the children with a book and read? Instead of just watching videos and playing games. Parents should reduce the time they spend looking at mobile phones and spend more time on their own growth and parent-child interaction. Children have strong perceptive abilities and will imitate their parents\’ behavioral changes when they see them. A positive, harmonious and positive family atmosphere can influence each other. The family environment is an energy field. If everyone plays their role well, the children will get better and better. Parents should maintain emotional stability, accept their children\’s current state, and get rid of \”high monitoring\” and \”strong supervision\” behaviors. Saying less negative language and doing more positive things may be the most effective way to influence children. 02. Negotiation is necessary, and conditions cannot be achieved without rules. Children\’s behaviors and habits must not be without restraint and restraint. Parents must establish rules and regulations in advance. When children\’s sense of self-discipline is not fully formed, set up conditions so that they can withdraw from mobile phones as soon as possible without being negative or addicted. When children are young, they should limit the time they spend watching mobile phones and TV. You can ask, \”How many episodes do you plan to watch? Or do you plan to watch it for fifteen minutes or twenty minutes?\” Letting them take the lead in making choices also cultivates the ability of self-management. . If a child is addicted to mobile phones and cannot extricate himself, it is recommended to have a heart-to-heart talk with the child through a \”family meeting\” or \”sofa meeting\” and agree on a fixed time for watching the mobile phone and playing games. How many times a week and how long should you watch every day? Finally reach an agreement, write it down and post it where your children can see it. Children are very smart, and parents should not compromise easily sometimes. They should keep negotiating with them as if they were customers. Perhaps during the implementation process, children will cheat and break promises. But we have to be patient. Good habits that we did not develop when we were children may now take ten times or even a hundred times to correct. What you sow, you reap. Children are here to \”cross over\” their parents. Please remember that no matter what state the child is in, parents must accept it happily and remain calm. Patience is a luxury in life. 03. Be able to empathize and talk about your feelings to get your children to let go.Parents must understand their children\’s emotions. Many parents used to only care about their children\’s studies and grades, criticize and accuse them when they see them playing with mobile phones, and completely ignore their children\’s feelings, which will make them more and more addicted. Parents might as well give it a try. When their children are playing games, they can also go over with curiosity to see what their children like now. Obsessed with what? In this way, you will have a common language to communicate with your children, and it will also shorten the distance between parents and children. I once heard a father say that his child was addicted to games for a period of time in junior high school and did not want to go to class or do his homework. He thought of a way to find out what kind of fun game made his son so fascinated? So, he tried to play games with his children. The children played all night, and he also played all night. Moreover, they also communicate with their children about their feelings about playing games. Finally, the child had enough fun and said that he felt like vomiting after playing the game. Later I heard that his son was no longer addicted to games, and was now focused on studying, and his relationship with his child was getting closer. Therefore, parents should stand from the perspective of their children, understand his feelings more, and shorten the heart-to-heart distance with their children. Controlling, yelling, and grabbing the phone cannot solve the problem, but instead breed his resistance and rebellion. Learn to empathize and establish connections with our children from multiple angles, so that they will not become further and further away from us.