If your child doesn’t like to learn or doesn’t learn well, it may be your fault.

In the video, we can see the mother\’s good intentions. She is very anxious to let her children learn about the supermarket checkout process: \”Bring the eggs, come and check out!\” \”Scan it, scan it, does it ring?\” ?\” \”Okay, check out, turn your eyes and face, okay.\” Perhaps we and many mothers can find the shadow of the woman in the video: very careful, patient, and able to teach children Pay attention to many small details and calmly instruct the children to learn some standardized procedures. For example: when kneading plasticine, if the child wants to knead a small animal, you will tell him which part to knead first and then which part, and how to knead it into the corresponding shape. Shape; when drawing, if your child wants to draw all things in nature, you will tell him how to draw the sun, moon, big trees, flowers and plants, and where they are located; when playing house, if your child wants to be a mother, you will tell him What housework does mother have to do every day and how to take care of her children… At first glance, mother\’s logic makes sense: 1. I tell you the facts and want you to understand the rules of reality; 2. I teach you experience and want you to do Produce good results. However, the children learned the results, but ignored the most important thing – the process of thinking and exploration. From the unhappy look on the child’s face in the video, we can tell that the child did not enjoy it, let alone feel a sense of accomplishment! Of course, the harm goes beyond these: too much parental intervention and too strong control may reduce children\’s interest in learning; excessive concern about results hinders children\’s thinking and exploration, and even stifles children\’s curiosity and creativity, and reduces learning motivation; copying models , children lack opportunities for trial and error, which may lead to limited thinking, rigid behavior, and narrow learning models during learning… In daily parenting, have you ever stepped on the following misunderstandings? Let’s test it yourself together! 1. Teach the child experience directly. You don’t want the child to mess up things clumsily, so teach the child the experience directly: Take coloring as an example, we may be afraid that the child will draw the line, so we tell him to color the edges first, and then Inside, paint in the same direction, from top to bottom, from left to right, what color should be painted on what items… But by doing this, the child is just forced to accept the adult\’s experience. You might as well just watch quietly from the side. Coloring is a very happy thing for children. Give them some space to express themselves freely! Children need trial and error, and need to have unfettered experiences of their own in childhood, rather than directly getting a result that seems \”correct\”. 2. Tell the child the answer directly. If the child has a homework question and doesn’t know it, come over and ask his parents. Some parents will tell the answer directly, and some parents will give the reason and explanation after telling the child, and teach the child step by step. , but these are not good practices. The best way is to ask your child, \”Don\’t be afraid of making mistakes. Tell your mother what you think the answer is?\” \”What do you think about this question?\” Use this way to guide. Don\’t be too impatient and tell your child the answer directly. The child needs to solve the problem on his own. The effect will be better if you first understand what he has observed and what he is thinking, and then guide him step by step. 3. We seem to be used to denying children’s imagination.Deny the child\’s creativity: \”This child is really naughty and makes trouble every day. It\’s not right for you to do this!\” \”You shouldn\’t think like that, mommy is here to tell you…\” A child\’s imagination is actually the most precious gift. Spend more time with your child. Playing games such as role-playing and simulated scenes is of great benefit to children. During the game, guide children more often: \”What did you observe?\” \”What are your thoughts now?\” \”What should we do next?\” Doing more parent-child interactions with your child to train divergent thinking can make him smarter and more flexible. For example, you can ask your child: \”In addition to writing, what else can this pen in your hand be used for?\” \”You I really want to go to the sky, but I can’t fly, what other methods do you have?” These questions may seem absurd, but they can not only make children feel novel and interesting, thus making them more involved, but also stimulate children’s imagination and creativity. Note that there are no standard answers to these questions. When your child tells you an answer that surprises you, don\’t deny your child\’s imagination outright. In the process of playing games with their children, parents are only supporters, collaborators, and guides. They must not become commanders and force their children to do things. If you can teach, your children will learn better!