If your child steals money, remember these three sentences and you will never have less money from now on.

The first time I established a good concept of money in my children was in the first grade. Every day after school, everyone would flock to the canteen to buy snacks. I didn’t have any pocket money. When I saw other children paying with bills in their hands, I realized that I also needed money. But I didn’t dare to tell my parents. In fact, my mother usually says: \”Tell me what you want to buy, and as long as it\’s reasonable, I\’ll buy it for you.\” It sounds very generous, but you know that children sometimes want to buy something that their parents think is unreasonable: a very cheap one. Bracelet, a bunch of fragrant spicy strips, fruit-flavored soda… So I concluded at that time that my mother would definitely not agree to give me money to buy such three-no snacks on the roadside… But after school every day, I would see While my classmates were eating happily, my heart was itching so much that I couldn\’t hold it in any longer~~ As for what happened afterwards, I\’ll tell you in detail later. Knocking on the blackboard, let’s first talk about the source of children making this mistake – parents who have not established a good concept of money can do this ☞ Money can not only meet the material needs of children, but more importantly, it can give children the ability to control money on their own. I feel that it is unfair if the child sees that adults can spend money naturally, but it is difficult for them to buy a small thing if they want to. • According to the family\’s financial situation and the age of the child, a fixed amount of pocket money is given to the child. In order to prevent the child from spending it quickly, small children can be given daily or weekly allowances, and older children can be given monthly allowances. • If the child wants to buy something that exceeds the amount of money on hand, we can also agree that the child will advance next week\’s payment. The child will thus develop how to arrange money reasonably. Regarding how to cultivate children\’s correct view of money, I have written a very detailed article before. Remember not to interrogate the child like a thief. Sooner or later, the child will have to pay back the money if he or she comes out to hang out. Once or twice, I felt very proud when I fished without being discovered, but then I fell into pieces after too many times. The ending was naturally a feast of \”fried pork with bamboo shoots\” from my mother, and the beating process was also mixed with words such as thief and worthless. They even threatened me and said that they would take me to the school morning meeting to be a model and let the whole school know. I was actually a very well-behaved child when I was a child. When I heard what she said, I was instantly frightened, my face turned red, and I felt a sense of shame. I felt like I suddenly fell into hell and became an unforgivable bad boy. . For a long time afterwards, I seemed to have an ulterior secret in my heart. Because of this stain, when I am with my friends, I always feel inferior to others, and my whole body becomes dull. There is always this hint: I am a shameful thief! But in fact, this kind of psychological pressure did not make me stop stealing money completely at that time. It was not until I had enough pocket money that this behavior completely disappeared. When it comes to children taking money, I really think the most wrong and hurtful sentence is: stealing needles when you are young, stealing gold when you are old. If it is not handled properly, the child will suffer a long-term psychological shadow. Parents can do this ☞ Don’t interrogate or test your children like a thief: release the money specifically and wait for the child to “get the stolen goods”; after the child actually takes the money, ask the child step by step to explain what happened, the money Where did it go. Criticize mercilessly and label the child a \”thief\”. If used correctlyIf you treat a child the same way as a \”thief\”, then the child is really not far away from being a \”thief\”. Yin Jianli once said: \”No one is born degenerate. Only when the environment keeps creating thieves can a person eventually become a thief.\” The correct approach is: • What we need to educate our children is not moral education, but education in property rights awareness: This is not your thing, you can\’t take it. • Children lie because they cannot judge the consequences of telling the truth. If we want children to be honest, we must make them feel that there is no need to lie to us. When we find a child lying, there is no need to preach or accuse, but focus on telling the child how you feel and how to solve it: When you find your child taking money – \”I am disappointed that you did not tell me that you need money. If you You need money, you can discuss it with us.\” If the child continues to deny it, just say: \”You know I already know, you have to give the money back.\” Then focus the communication on how to compensate the money, such as doing housework, etc. of. The problem is not \”money\” but \”love\”. For those children who refuse to change despite repeated education, the problem is often not \”money\” but \”love\”. Dan\’s mother once consulted two children who were very stubborn in stealing. How stubborn are they? It\’s the kind of thing where your parents beat you up as soon as you steal. There are cuts all over your feet and hands. It makes me want to cry. One father even asked his children to write on the covers of all his textbooks: \”I will never steal again\”, but within a few days he continued to steal… These two cases made me realize deeply: Beating and scolding cannot solve the problem. Rather than stopping stealing, it is more important to understand why the child steals. Most behavioral deviations in children can be summed up in one sentence: behind every bad habit is the painful cry of lack of love. What makes children addicted is never money, material, or the Internet itself, but the hole in the heart that has not been filled for a long time, swallowing up the child\’s reason. We should not break the child\’s hand, but should find the hole and fill it. Hole. The same is true for the two children Dan\’s mother just mentioned: After some understanding, child A stole because his mother was not around for a long time and his father cared too little about the child. Materials can bring him a sense of security and satisfaction; child B stole. The reason is that his parents are divorced and the child has low self-esteem. Money can give him confidence. He doesn\’t know how to get along with his classmates, but he finds that money can buy friendship. The reason why the two children stole pointed to \”lack of love\”, and their parents treated their \”stealing\” in an even less loving way: beating and scolding. Lack of love→stealing→beating and scolding→lack of love even more→continue stealing…a vicious cycle. Parents can do this: ☞ Stop beating, scolding and interrogating. On the one hand, Dan\’s mother discussed with her parents that as long as the child is found to have stolen, the family\’s belongings will be returned, and if they are used, they will be compensated by doing housework and other methods; if it is someone else\’s, the parents will come up with \”stealing is wrong, but it is wrong to change it.\” \”Good boy, daddy will always have confidence in you\” attitude, calmly, and returned with the child without any criticism. The act of \”returning it back\” allows the children to bear the natural consequences and responsibility for their actions; and the process of parents willing to put down their dignity and blame and \”accompany their children to return it\” makes the children feel the determination and determination of their parents. painstaking efforts, and the love for himconfidence. On the other hand, Dan’s mother communicates and cooperates with parents and teachers to improve the child’s parent-child relationship and classmate relationship, so that the child can find a more reasonable way to gain the love of parents and the friendship of classmates, and feel that he is living in a loving relationship. Here, fill the hole in the child\’s heart with love, and the stealing behavior will naturally stop.