If your parents are careful with you, it\’s not out of fear, it\’s out of love

In the third issue of CCTV\’s \”The Reader\”, the letter written by the famous writer Mai Jia to his son touched thousands of parents and became very popular on Weibo and WeChat. However, from a personal perspective, the most touching thing was not the letter read by Mai Jia, but the conversation between Mai Jia and the host Dong Qing after Mai Jia read it aloud. Until now, when talking about their son who once locked himself in a room for three years because of his rebellion, the Mai family feels heavy and helpless: \”… Accompanying him, to put it harshly, is like accompanying a tiger. You You have to be careful.\” Dong Qing continued: \”So when all of us young people suddenly realize that your parents start to be cautious towards you, don\’t think that it is really out of fear. Then It\’s out of love, let\’s cherish it!\” Dong Qing is right, everything is due to that love. But as a father, I actually know in my heart that there is an element of fear in the Mai family\’s caution. Although, that is the fear brought about by love. He is afraid that if he is not careful, he will lose his child! \”Because this is your child, a war between you and your child. In fact, this is an unfair war. You will always be on the passive side.\” The Mai family is warning others, but also reflecting on themselves. In fact, every father has experienced such emotions. Each child\’s youth rebellious period may be long or short, obvious or not obvious, but one thing is certain, that is, there are more and more inconsistencies in the thoughts and concepts between the two generations, and the conflicts between father and son are becoming more and more serious. It\’s getting more intense. Like the Mai family, we are often \”intolerable\” when it comes to children who are increasingly difficult to control, but in the end there is nothing we can do. We can only talk to him carefully, encouraging him to move forward while worrying about his psychological collapse. In order to maintain his dignity, he did not dare to hurt his self-esteem. We always care too much, we always love too much, so we can never let go. The slightest change in a child\’s face can trigger countless reveries in us, amplifying the worries in our hearts countless times. The Mai family\’s personal statement represents thousands of fathers and the silent love of parents all over the world. Many parents may not have the writing style of the Mai family, and may not have the opportunity to write such a letter to their children, nor may they have the opportunity to show it in front of the world, but their love for their children is the same. I hope that this program will not only be seen and moved by parents, but also be seen by more children so that they can understand the painstaking efforts of their parents. Although in this unfair war, you will definitely win. But please understand that your victory comes from the people closest to you, from the people who love you most, who give in to you unconditionally. Youth can be rebellious. But we hope that your rebellious period will be shorter and your willful times will be less. Because, as long as you calm down, you can feel the fearful love in your parents\’ caution.