Indian-English movies healed me, and I no longer have any resentful wives in my family.

Recently, an Indian family comedy film \”Hinglish\” was released in China. The story of the heroine Shahi really hurt me. Shahi is a full-time housewife. In the eyes of outsiders, she has an enviable life. Her husband has a successful career and her children are smart and lovely. After getting such a perfect life script, logically speaking, there should be no worries, right? But this is not the case. Beneath the seemingly happy appearance, she reveals endless suffering: she is busy every day and does housework, but in the eyes of her husband, her only advantage is that she cooks delicious food and knows nothing else. He took care of his daughter\’s food and daily life in every detail, but because he was uneducated and didn\’t understand English, he was ridiculed and disliked by his daughter. How to educate children to develop good qualities? Take a look at these 6 Oscar-winning animated short films. There is a scene in the film that is the most heart-wrenching. There was a parent-teacher meeting to be held at her daughter\’s school. Her husband was unable to attend due to work, so he asked Shaxi to attend. After hearing this, her daughter tried her best to dissuade her. \”You can\’t even understand English, so don\’t go. No need, I\’ll say you\’re sick and your father is on a business trip.\” Shashi, stimulated by this sentence, insisted on going. But when she arrived at school, Shahi was confused by the feedback from her class teacher. In the end, she could only plead with the teacher to speak in Hindi. The daughter stood aside with a look of embarrassment and disgust on her face. On the way home, she still kept complaining, saying that she was embarrassed. Not only did she not speak English, but her speech was also of no standard… After more than ten years of hard work and humiliation, I thought I could get the understanding of my husband and children, but it didn\’t work. I thought it would end like this. But in fact, Shahi\’s predicament is just a microcosm. Under the shadow are the bitterness and tears of countless mothers. How many mothers give their all to their families but forget to love themselves? I have a best friend who has excellent appearance, excellent temperament, and outstanding ability at work. But after I gave birth to a child, I quit my job and lived a life of caring for my husband and raising my children. At first we were all envious. Our husbands are capable, our children are obedient, and we have abundant material resources. Who wouldn’t love such a life? But the days of washing and cooking day after day did not allow her to gain recognition and gratitude from her family. Instead, she derailed from society. She had nothing to talk to her husband and the distance between her and her children became more and more serious. big. She used to buy thousands of skin care products without blinking an eye, but now she has to be cautious about even using the most basic skin care products. In the past, there were movies, music, reading, and fitness in her life, but now she only has Add oil, salt, soy sauce and vinegar, and the family will be short-lived. Over time, the resentment naturally became deeper and deeper. In the end, the couple ended up divorcing, and the children also disliked her for being too resentful and unwilling to live with her. I can’t help but think of what American writer Suze Lula said in the book \”The Evolution of Mothers\”: A mother who is lacking in heart and does not take good care of herself is like a car with an empty gas tank. No matter how hard you pedal, The throttle is just idling. Mother\’s greatness is not achieved by abandoning oneself and using self-sacrifice. How can a mother who doesn\’t love herself have the energy to love her children and run a family? This is true for best friends, and even more so for the heroine of the movie, Sashi. But fortunately, Shahi started a desperate journey by chance.Hope that the housewife\’s \”self-rescue\” journey finally achieved a happy ending. After signing up for an English learning class, Shahi devoted herself wholeheartedly to the joy of learning. When the teacher praised her, she affirmed herself for the first time. It turned out that she was an \”entrepreneur\” and not a housewife who only played dula balls. During the time when she focused her time and attention on herself, she truly felt the joy and excitement of living just for herself. She used to think that life and time had forced her to lose her charm, and her husband would ignore her value. In the end, she found that it was herself who ignored her. And the moment she saw herself and fell in love with herself, everyone looked at her with admiration, including her husband and children. At the end of the film, Shahi\’s words are quite meaningful: When you don\’t like yourself, you won\’t like everything around you. When you learn to love yourself, your originally silent life will take on a new look and become better. Only by learning to grow yourself and help yourself can your marriage not end and your family be happy. Children are a part of our lives, and we are the masters of our lives. Love yourself first, then you will have the energy to care for your children and prosper your family. Selfless mothers cannot raise children with internal drive. Writer Su Qin once said: \”All the anxiety and hostility in women are caused by mistreatment.\” I have seen too many mothers who dare not eat or wear clothes. I don’t dare to wear it, and I try my best to provide the best for my children. But this sense of self-sacrifice will only accumulate resentment in the long run. Once the results obtained by the children are not proportional to our efforts, we will face the risk of emotional collapse at any time. The mother in the classic short film \”Molly\’s Last Day\” is like this. In order to train her daughter to be a talented person, the mother who returned from overseas and graduated with a master\’s degree gave up her career and devoted herself wholeheartedly to her daughter. But my daughter\’s grades still did not achieve the desired results. The mother was unwilling and felt that her daughter was sorry for her sacrifice. She often complained and criticized her daughter: \”If I hadn\’t given birth to you, I would be a professor now. Why don\’t I become a professor and accept your responsibility here?\” I\’m so angry.\” \”If you don\’t study hard, how can I rest? How many people are waiting for you two outside, I can\’t afford to be embarrassed.\” \”I spent these expenses frugally, study hard, Otherwise, it would be unfilial.\” In daily life, my mother\’s mantra is also: \”Are you worthy of us?\” No child can withstand the pressure of his parents to give up on themselves. In the end, this suffocating maternal love caused the daughter to suffer from depression and jump off the building late at night. suicide. If you give too much, you will harm the child; if you give too much, the child will not be able to bear it. Only by giving priority to nourishing herself can a mother give her children more abundant and warm love. Just like the actress Sun Li, after her son was born, she put most of the focus of her life on him, which caused her to be anxious for a long time. Later, she shifted her focus and continued to practice Pilates, learn calligraphy, arrange flowers and make wine, and cook delicious food… After she started to put herself first, she was full of energy every day. Under her influence, the children are also full of sunshine and confidence, and they are full of internal drive in everything they do. At first glance, they are nourished in a loving family.Real high-quality love sometimes has to be \”selfish\”. There is no need to burn yourself like a candle, live yourself as a beam of light, which will naturally bring warmth and strength to your children. Just like a classic line in the movie \”Tully\”: \”You should relax. If you can\’t take care of yourself, you can\’t be a good mother, so enjoy it!\” For children, if you treat yourself well, they can be more free and unrestrained Feel free to live a wonderful life. Only by nourishing your own family can you relax and be happy. The best family relationship is not the one-way contribution of the mother, but the two-way dedication of the entire family. Only when a woman manages herself well can she be a good lover for her husband and a perfect mother for her children. Only then can the family unite together and live a sweeter life. Zhang Mei, a mother of three who was widely reported by the media some time ago, has such a clear understanding. Although he has become a director of the Harvard Business School Alumni Association and was listed as a \”China expert\” on the A+ list of American travel magazines, while educating his children, Zhang Mei still did not forget to invest in himself. Whenever she has time, she will travel around the country to enrich her knowledge. Her career is booming and she is often invited to give lectures. Now that she is over fifty, she has returned to school and is studying in a prestigious school with her children. How parents should educate their children – Children\’s Education, a complete set of 10 volumes mobi+epub+azw3 In her opinion, the biggest help parents can give their children is to let them see that they can have different choices in life. Facts have proved that her persistence and calmness have been echoed. Under her influence, the three children have been very independent since childhood, and the family\’s relationship has become more and more harmonious and relaxed. Writer Zhou Guoping said: \”Of all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental responsibility is to truly be yourself and live out your unique personality and value.\” However, many women lose themselves after getting married and having children. Jumping between the roles of wife and wife, forgetting about one\’s own growth and progress. Eventually, day after day, she turned into a middle-aged woman with disheveled hair. However, no child will fall in love with an ignorant mother, and no husband will tolerate a boring partner. If you don\’t know how to invest in yourself and manage yourself, you will breed a lot of resentment, and eventually the whole family will be in a mess. So, at any time, mothers, please remember: to enrich yourself is to enrich your children, love yourself, It can benefit the whole family. In daily life, try to give yourself some \”treats\”. It doesn\’t mean buying expensive luxuries, but satisfying yourself on the basis of what you have now. Give yourself a vacation and travel occasionally. The point is not No matter how luxurious a place you go, you should give yourself an opportunity to expand your horizons and improve your knowledge. In your free time, you should also leave yourself some alone time, reading books and listening to music. These spiritual nourishments will provide you with Your good mood continues to fuel you. When your mood improves, your family will naturally be relaxed and happy. The book \”Fill Your Own Cup First\” says: \”Don\’t wait for others to fill your cup, and don\’t blindly contribute selflessly. If we can fill the cup in front of ourselves first, we will be happy and contented.Only when you are happy can you overflow happiness to others, and only then can you happily accept what others give you. \”Life can\’t be smooth sailing, and anxiety occurs from time to time. Some mothers choose to complain and unknowingly turn themselves into a \”resentful woman\”; while some mothers can fully charge their batteries at any time to sustain their children and sail for their families. The difference between the two often lies in whether the mother knows how to love herself and take care of herself. Only a mother who treats herself well can release love, and only a mother who nourishes herself can use a positive attitude to bring happiness to the world. Feed back the energy to the family. When you reach middle age, the best advice to avoid becoming a \”resentful wife\” is to love yourself seriously and nourish yourself well. Click \”Like\” to encourage all mothers!